Ok - I'll just flat out state it. I am not Italian.
I am however obsessed with the Food type channels - and if you've ever watche America's Test Kitchen? Its a great program that takes recipes and does them over and over till they get the best - - - whatever. and today it was meatballs, and guess what - Martha Stewarts show had an Italian restaurant guy on - same recipe... and that guy that had his "mama's meatballs" on a reality show, that's going to be on the Food Network having "Friends over for a dinner party" and anyway - he had the same recipe...
so I tried it - it worked!!

(and I did it in secret if dd knew she wouldnt have eaten them!!)
its called - make a "panade"
take one slice of white bread (no crust) torn up small
add 1/4 milk - mix, let milk soak in, mix -
then with your meatball mixture, add this "panade" to it - you will not see any white specs btw -
its amazing in its "firmness" qualities!
For the record all the above mentioned shows did put the meatballs on a tray and put them in a HOT oven to cook, then put them in the "gravy"
America's Test Kitchen made a 3 hour Sunday Gravy that looked amazing (but really they used regular Italian sausages and baby back ribs!! ribs? lol, but it worked!)