Just curious ~ does "meant to be together" =

[HunnyPots]

I don't know who or what this thread is about but I'll say this, I don't believe in "meant to be" in the first place. Relationships are not about destiny, but about commitment and hard work.

 

[HelenePA]

So I was reading this and I am thinking .... Did something happen and Garth come out and say they were together before he left his wife ??

I never heard about this , people aussumed it but I did not think his ex wife , Trisha or for that fact he ever said ti was true?


But no ment to be together does not mean you get to cheat .

I believe he was accused of it. I dont know if it was ever proven. Honestly I dont really care about other peoples love life.

 

[Planogirl]

I believe he was accused of it. I dont know if it was ever proven. Honestly I dont really care about other peoples love life.

That makes two of us.

So much conjecture about people's private lives! It makes me tired just to read this thread.

 

[Serena]

Here is my theory on people and love. Don't laugh
We are all puzzles. We have big pieces and little pieces that fit into our puzzles and into other people's puzzles. We find someone had has several pieces that fit and we think we are in love. Then we find someone that has more pieces and bigger pieces that fit into our puzzle and we question our choices. Some times we change and the pieces that fit once, doesn't seem so important and we look for other pieces that we think are a better fit. Some times we are right and some times we realize that we made a mistake.

I don't think it's all cut and dried. I think we need to wait and look harder to find someone that fits most of the puzzle before deciding to spend out lives with them, and then to realize it may not fit 100% but it's a great fit and we are done looking.

So many of us stop when too few of the pieces fit. We think it's enough.
Some times, later on we realize, it really isn't enough. And some times people just get stupid.

 

[diznygirl]

I definitely believe in "meant to be" and it's possible for someone to screw up and mary the wrong person. In that case, I think divorce is an option. But cheating never is! Be honest with your feelings and change your situation.

And I believe like the PP that sometimes people just get stupid!!

 

[Stitchfans]

If you're meant to be together with someone not your spouse then leave your spouse correctly and then be with that person. Love does not justify cheating...or as I see it, breach of contract.

Well said ITA! wish my stupid Son in law thought this way. what a mess DD is going through right now.

 

[SamRoc]

After Garth Brooks left his wife and family for TY I totally lost all respect for him. I'm no longer a fan, not just because hes a cheater, but because his music isnt any good anymore. I think what he did just ruined his career.

 

[Nik's Mom]

I refer to my wife as "The Love of My Life". I actually relabel her as such in my contact list in some instant messaging systems we use to communicate with each other when we're not together. I think some folks might see that as some allusion to destiny or fate. It isn't. It is strictly a reflection of my decision, my commitment. She is the "The Love of My Life" because we, together, have made it so.

Great post! I agree completely.

 

[Wishing on a star]

If anyone thinks that 'Meant to be together', is an excuse to to the worst possible thing that one can do to somebody who has shared marriage vows with you... Then I say BULL.

It means that you have totally defiled and taken advantage of and screwed over the person who has been by your side.... all while KNOWING that possibly you were not meant to be together with them... and that somebody better happens thru the neighborhood.

They say, once a cheater, always a cheater.... Anybody who is so completely bankrupt emotionally, morally, physically.... If they can change their mind whom they were meant to be together with today... They can, and might, change their mind tomorrow.

If two people are not meant to be together, then by all means, dissolve the marriage. But, to me, there is NO excuse for cheating... EVER.

 

[lillygator]

Perhaps in the future, people could explain what the thread is about in the first post or two. That would be awesome.

there is nothing to explain. A post in another thread got me thinking of all the people in my life (co-workers, family members, non celebrity) who have used this line as almost an excuse for why they cheated....

 

[horseshowmom]

I always worry a little when someone is already married and then fame comes along. I remember thinking about whether Chris Daughtry's marriage would survive after Idol.

Yeah, me too. I read somewhere that the woman who won Nashville Star last year (Melissa Lawson) is now divorced. Her husband and children were so supportive of her, and I wondered when she won what it would mean for their marriage.



I agree with others. If you aren't "meant for each other", then don't marry somebody and then decide later that somebody else is the one you're "meant for".

 

[sbell111]

there is nothing to explain. A post in another thread got me thinking of all the people in my life (co-workers, family members, non celebrity) who have used this line as almost an excuse for why they cheated....

Really? Here's the OP:

Just curious ~ does "meant to be together" =
cheating and leaving your current spouse?

Suffice it to say that those of us who weren't participating in the other thread were unlikely to know what you were talking about.

For instance, my wife and I like to believe that we were 'meant to be together'. Given that, why would either of us cheat on or leave the other?

 

[Disney Doll]

I think people use "meant to be together" when they are married and talking about another person as a way to justify their bad choice. And it is a choice.

I don't particularly believe in divorce, but I believe even less in cheating. I truly have more respect for someone who has the courage to say to their spouse "I have met someone who means more to me than you. I would like a divorce". Not that I am saying I agree with it, but I think being upfront is better than sneaking around behind someone's back cheating on them.

Plus, I am always amazed at the people who will cheat with someone, then marry them. Basically what they've done is married someone who has already proven that they are able to cheat on a spouse. But then there's the old "Oh but they won't do that to me. We were meant to be together. It's different". You know what? It's not. A leopard doesn't change its spots. If they could cheat once, they can cheat again. And chances are they will.

 

[lillygator]

Really? Here's the OP:

Suffice it to say that those of us who weren't participating in the other thread were unlikely to know what you were talking about.

For instance, my wife and I like to believe that we were 'meant to be together'. Given that, why would either of us cheat on or leave the other?

I know what the op was, I posted it. Sorry if you don't understand the question I asked. I don't really think it needs explaining.