Just curious ~ does "meant to be together" =

[lillygator]

cheating and leaving your current spouse?

 

[Belle0101]

cheating and leaving your current spouse?

No?

 

[froggygrrrl]

Umm...I'm gonna hafta go with "No" on this one...is this a trick question?

 

[HelenePA]

true he should have divorced his wife first and then had a relationship with TY. Should a person be able to avoid jail by paying off his victims?

 

[lillygator]

true he should have divorced his wife first and then had a relationship with TY. Should a person be able to avoid jail by paying off his victims?

that was not the question but what say you?

 

[HelenePA]

I'm not going to argue with you over this.. I understand you were a MJ fan I just went and read another thread you posted on. I feel sorry for his family, his friends, his loved ones. Today would have been my mom's 54 birthday. I've also lost my dad. I understand what they are going thru. I am sorry they lost their loved one. I'm sorry you lost a person you admired as an artist. And I said he was wrong for how he went about it.. he should have divorced his ex-wife before even attempting a relationship with TY.. I said he was wrong. That does not stop me from being a fan just like what MJ has been accused of doesn't stop you from being a fan.. Have a good night. I'm sorry for your loss. I hope he is at peace.

 

[disneyjunkie]

I'm lost

What/Who is this thread about?

 

[HelenePA]

I'm lost

What/Who is this thread about?

Garth Brooks / Trisha Yearwood I said in another thread they were meant to be together. I admit he went about it the wrong way. Still wont stop me from being a fan.

 

[bicker]

I mentioned this in another thread recently:

Though it isn't the [sole] foundation of our marriage, I think that all that is necessary for a long, successful marriage is commitment. I believe humans are powerful enough to acknowledge the value of loving their spouse; acknowledge the value of fulfilling their spouse's emotional, spiritual and physical needs; acknowledge the value of fostering their spouse's life-long growth, development and accomplishment; acknowledge the value of being attracted to their spouse and working diligently to be attractive to their spouse (as opposed to relying solely on animal instincts). (And so on...)

And as long as both spouses are committed, and recognize and exercise those powers, I believe a long, successful marriage can be build from practically nothing (if necessary). It does require, though, trusting that the commitment is mutual. It does require, though, acknowledging that these values are greater than transitory distractions from that commitment. (And so on...)

In believing this, especially the part I've highlighted, I implicitly reject the idea that any two people are "meant to be together", or at least reject it as a possibility after one has made a commitment to someone else. Since commitment is the bedrock of being "meant to be together", anything that defiles commitment, itself, precludes being "meant to be together". Put more simply, if two people were literally "meant to be together", neither would never have found themselves having had made a commitment to someone else, previously.

I refer to my wife as "The Love of My Life". I actually relabel her as such in my contact list in some instant messaging systems we use to communicate with each other when we're not together. I think some folks might see that as some allusion to destiny or fate. It isn't. It is strictly a reflection of my decision, my commitment. She is the "The Love of My Life" because we, together, have made it so.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

To answer the OP's question if meant to be together = cheating and leaving your spouse.

From a sociology standpoint, it does for alot of people.

 

[MrsPete]

cheating and leaving your current spouse?

"Meant to be together" is an excuse, a justification, a rationalization that a person uses to give himself permission to do something he knows to be wrong. It implies that this feeling is stronger than he is, that he cannot control himself in the face of destiny, and that this desire for the new person is worth hurting his current spouse and children. It's usually meant to excuse the guilty parties from their choices because, after all, they didn't choose to do this, it was just "meant to be".

 

[Buckalew11]

I mentioned this in another thread recently:In believing this, especially the part I've highlighted, I implicitly reject the idea that any two people are "meant to be together", or at least reject it as a possibility after one has made a commitment to someone else. Since commitment is the bedrock of being "meant to be together", anything that defiles commitment, itself, precludes being "meant to be together". Put more simply, if two people were literally "meant to be together", neither would ever have found themselves having had made a commitment to someone else, previously.

I refer to my wife as "The Love of My Life". I actually relabel her as such in my contact list in some instant messaging systems we use to communicate with each other when we're not together. I think some folks might see that as some allusion to destiny or fate. It isn't. It is strictly a reflection of my decision, my commitment. She is the "The Love of My Life" because we, together, have made it so.

Wow!! I actually understand bicker's thoughts here and I'm think it is because he is speaking the universal language of LOVE. Seriously though, I agree with your sentiments Bicker. And the love you have for your wife is so refreshing to read about.

"Meant to be together" is an excuse, a justification, a rationalization that a person uses to give himself permission to do something he knows to be wrong. It implies that this feeling is stronger than he is, that he cannot control himself in the face of destiny, and that this desire for the new person is worth hurting his current spouse and children. It's usually meant to excuse the guilty parties from their choices because, after all, they didn't choose to do this, it was just "meant to be".

MO is that Garth should have divorced his wife before hooking up with Trisha--same for Vince Gill and others like them. I think both of them are happier now.

For Garth, esp. (cause I can't remember Vince's circumstance), I think he and his 1st wife married young before the fame, before the road, etc. and those are huge life changes for 2 people to go through and stay together as they change so quickly, so much.

I always worry a little when someone is already married and then fame comes along. I remember thinking about whether Chris Daughtry's marriage would survive after Idol.

 

[Disney Doll]

It shouldn't, but it often does.

As a PP said, it is a justification that people use when they know they are doing something wrong.

Write this day down...I agree with bicker. Love is a choice and a commitment...one that needs to be made daily.

 

[ZephyrHawk]

If you're meant to be together with someone not your spouse then leave your spouse correctly and then be with that person. Love does not justify cheating...or as I see it, breach of contract.

 

[Piecey]

If you're meant to be together with someone not your spouse then leave your spouse correctly and then be with that person. Love does not justify cheating...or as I see it, breach of contract.

I agree with that.

DH and I got married in Vegas. Before I went to the shoebox to put on my dress he looked at me and said "The only thing that will undo this is if you cheat on me."
Might not have been very romantic, but my response was "Ditto"...

It's the only unforgivable thing he could ever do to me.

 

[luvsJack]

Cheating is wrong there is just no other way to look at it. But, I can understand Garth (or any person) falling so in love with Trisha (or any person) that they leave their spouse for that person. Or maybe it would be no longer loving their spouse and then falling in love with someone else. It happens. Couples grow apart, they fall out of love, they realize that they have made a mistake and they fall in love with someone else.

It would be great if things always happened in a better order. Marriage breaks up, divorce, fall in love with someone else; seems like a better order. Just like, fall in love, get married, have a baby is a better order than any other way of going. But life doesn't always happen in the better order, it just happens.

 

[Buckalew11]

Personally, I don't buy that theory.

 

[Mad4Mickey]

So I was reading this and I am thinking .... Did something happen and Garth come out and say they were together before he left his wife ??

I never heard about this , people aussumed it but I did not think his ex wife , Trisha or for that fact he ever said ti was true?


But no ment to be together does not mean you get to cheat .

 

[sbell111]

Perhaps in the future, people could explain what the thread is about in the first post or two. That would be awesome.

 

[happygirl]

Perhaps in the future, people could explain what the thread is about in the first post or two. That would be awesome.

I think that would be a nice tihng