Just caught(?) my boss!

[Jeafl]

So what's your first name?? I'm sure all us wives whose husbands have Blackberries are wondering....

 

[CathrynRose]

Hmmm, you note is just a little too vaugue. I think you need to post the email here so we can understand the exact situation

I agree - how can we give advice unless we know the exact text used.

Post it.

 

[drgnfly30]

Final update: My boss and I talked about it -- talk about an uncomfortable conversation! His cover story, which I buy about 85% of, is that he and the other woman have recurring contests to see who gets most embarrassed by their e-mail thread. He told her what he accidentally did, which means she won that round. (Although she's probably a little embarrassed too, I'd imagine.)

Thanks, everyone, for being there for me while I quietly freaked out about this!

I don't buy it!

 

[CathrynRose]

Final update: My boss and I talked about it -- talk about an uncomfortable conversation! His cover story, which I buy about 85% of, is that he and the other woman have recurring contests to see who gets most embarrassed by their e-mail thread. He told her what he accidentally did, which means she won that round. (Although she's probably a little embarrassed too, I'd imagine.)

!

Hmph - interesting. Think the wife'll buy this???



Email contest my backside.

 

[MBeds]

other "berries",

Nothing like a Diet Pepsi coming out the nose...

Whew!!

 

[CathrynRose]

You think he discussed this lame-story with this other "easily embarrassed" chic??

This has GOT to be the sorriest lie I could imagine! I dont think he ran it by her, cuz if I were her, I would have stopped him and thought of *SOMETHING* better!!!

Lame ..... "Lets have a contest and see who gets embarrased first!"
"okay!"
"you smell funny!"
" ahhhh, gee! You got me!"

 

[Poohbear123]

Riiiiiight! Well he gets points for creativity...

Yea, I wonder how long it took him to come up with that one!

 

[mickeysgal]

So what's your first name?? I'm sure all us wives whose husbands have Blackberries are wondering....

Good point!!

 

[kdibattista]

Final update: My boss and I talked about it -- talk about an uncomfortable conversation! His cover story, which I buy about 85% of, is that he and the other woman have recurring contests to see who gets most embarrassed by their e-mail thread. He told her what he accidentally did, which means she won that round. (Although she's probably a little embarrassed too, I'd imagine.)

Thanks, everyone, for being there for me while I quietly freaked out about this!

He actually had time to think of something and this is the best he could do

 

[Micca]

So how does it feel feel to "own" the boss? Hypothetically, let's say the email contest is true, I wouldn't want my spouse competing in that, would you? This dude is SO BUSTED

 

[grlpwrd]

My boss just sent me an e-mail that was most definitely NOT meant for me. It was a reply (in a long thread of flirtatious e-mails) to someone else with my first name. He was using a Blackberry, so I guess that's why he "replied" to me instead of her.

I'm a little creeped out. It might be relatively harmless, talk-only flirtation that could be taken way out of context -- and I'm trying to give him the benefit of the doubt -- but I'm a bit grossed out nonetheless. He's married with 2 kids. Don't know if I can respect him after this.

Anyway, I had to vent, but not to anyone at work!

Ever have something similar happen to you?

Flirtatious emails to someone else with the same first name that is not his wife? Married with 2 kids?

He is so busted!

 

[slk537]

I have to listen to our employees telephone conversations at work - Qualilty Assurance Service Obs - and every once in a while we get a personal call.

Whoa.

Hardest thing to do sometimes is skip it and go to the next one...

My best friend was having problems with her (former) fiance and she sent me a scathing email about him. When I got home, DH said, "S called...she said something about the email she sent you about T...? She is panicking and says you have to call her."

I called her back and said, "S...I didn't get an email." Her response?

"I know!!! I accidentally sent it to him!!!"

Did I mention he is now her FORMER fiance...?

We laugh hysterically about this one now, but at the time DH was the only one really laughing...okay. I thought it was a teensy bit funny too...

 

[Disney Doll]

He's only busted if the OP decides to make an issue out of it.

Personally, if it's none of my business, which this isn't, I'd pretend I never got the e-mail. As long as my work environment is OK, I wouldn't care what the boss was doing.

 

[Nancyg56]

I have to listen to our employees telephone conversations at work - Qualilty Assurance Service Obs - and every once in a while we get a personal call.

Whoa.

Hardest thing to do sometimes is skip it and go to the next one...

That is what I did, but in our case, we were an outsourced company, and our client had the right to "dial in" and hear the conversations as well as view the screens. OMG! Talk about stress! We had people having affairs with one another, and chatting about it on the phones as well as thru email. I had to "coach" them. EWWWWWWW!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I always tell everyone Never use email for personal use, and if you are in a call center never use the phones at your workstation for personal use. The monitoring software is sophisticated, and it is embarrassing for everybody to know your personal business.

Even if there is no software inplace, IT can retrieve your stuff. It never really goes away, and it belongs to your company.

 

[mickeysgal]

To the OP: As funny as this thread has become, I feel that there can be a flip side to this that is possible. Probable? I don't know. Just possible.

Depending on this "situation", if the boss feels threatened in any way by you having this knowledge and depending on his personality, its entirely possible that he may try to transfer you, get rid of you, etc. in order to keep this relationship secret. Of course, this may not be the reason he gives for any action he takes with you, but you'll know it will be. My DH's seen this happen at work, so it does happen. I'd let it be...as Disney Doll said, its not your business, so I would steer clear of this from now on. Laugh about it with us here, but let it go at work and lay low.

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[pirateofthecarolinas]

The OP should keep a copy of the e-mail in case she needs it.

Lori

 

[SeeDisney]

Reading your email gives me memories when I used to work, yes, my past bosses were creeps and very flirtaous, etc. (this was before email came) and I wouldn't put it past your boss for sending what he did.

 

[Evil Queen]

I know at previous job, as a Supervisor, I would had to report it to HR, in case something ever came up later about it.

And I agree, it can be in your best interest for him to keep ya around, I would agree with another poster and say I'd be leary too.

 

[momof2inPA]

Final update: My boss and I talked about it -- talk about an uncomfortable conversation! His cover story, which I buy about 85% of, is that he and the other woman have recurring contests to see who gets most embarrassed by their e-mail thread. He told her what he accidentally did, which means she won that round. (Although she's probably a little embarrassed too, I'd imagine.)

Thanks, everyone, for being there for me while I quietly freaked out about this!

Are you interested in buying a bridge or some swamp land?

 

[HoneyPooh]

Hang onto that e-mail in case you ever need to prove he had a reason to want you gone.

I once had a boss in a real estate office who I caught having a little "afternoon delight" in one of the spec houses. Wasn't his wife, it was one of the real estate agents in our office. I left employment there shortly after that because I couldn't stand to look at either of them without wanting to heave. It WAS NOT a pretty sight! The fact that I then knew that my MALE boss was wearing thong undies under his business suit was enough to do me in.