Judgmental DISers

[Turtlegirl]

I have noticed a lot of judging of the OP in threads lately when a simple yes or no or statement of the rules will do.
For example, someone asked if the rental strollers will hold a 95 pound child-rather than replying yes, as the weight limit is 100 lbs., posters who didn't answer the OP's question jumped in saying that the child should be walking as he is clearly overweight and unhealthy...

Others have been called liars. When asking about the ages for girls to go to BBB (the OP's daughter was "almost" 3, someone replied, "...your choice to lie is up to you." A simple statement of ages 3 and up would have sufficed.

Sharing of TS credits is another subject, where upon asking if it's okay to do, posters have eluded to the fact that the OP is a cheater..."I would never cheat on the plan like that." How about "no" for an answer and leave it at that?

I have been a DIS site supporter for many years, and have learned tons of extremely useful information from these boards, but the unnecessary judging I've seen is leaving a bad taste in my mouth. We all love Disney and our goal is the same-to plan the best Disney experience we can.
I'd really like to see posters who answer questions do so without judging.

 

[Yen Sid]

You are going to get that from any public forum you go to, some people dislike their lives so much they have to try and ruin the lives of others. The only thing I can tell you is hang in there and try to ignore those annoying people and enjoy your time here talking about the most magical place on earth.

 

[C.Ann]

What I find even more disturbing is the callousness and lack of compassion for fellow human beings..

Of course the offenders always have an excuse - but that's all it is - an excuse..

I find it shocking.. I was certainly not raised that way (nor did I raise my children that way - nor is my DGD being raised that way) and I wonder how it's possible to raise ones own child with compassion when one doesn't possess it themselves?

As for your actual reason for this thread, I was reading a thread a little while ago (that had been locked) and there was a comment in there that literally made my jaw drop.. Completely unnecessary and totally irrelevant.. Then came the speech - "Well you're posting on a public board.." blah, blah, blah - but again, it was nothing more than an excuse to make a nasty comment that had nothing to do with the question asked..

Some days I just have to step away from the DIS - or stop posting on a thread.. The comments make me incredibly sad..

And brace yourself - because the "speech" will be coming - if it hasn't already while I'm typing out this response..

 

[Muisjes]

I have noticed a lot of judging of the OP in threads lately when a simple yes or no or statement of the rules will do.
For example, someone asked if the rental strollers will hold a 95 pound child-rather than replying yes, as the weight limit is 100 lbs., posters who didn't answer the OP's question jumped in saying that the child should be walking as he is clearly overweight and unhealthy...

Others have been called liars. When asking about the ages for girls to go to BBB (the OP's daughter was "almost" 3, someone replied, "...your choice to lie is up to you." A simple statement of ages 3 and up would have sufficed.

Sharing of TS credits is another subject, where upon asking if it's okay to do, posters have eluded to the fact that the OP is a cheater..."I would never cheat on the plan like that." How about "no" for an answer and leave it at that?

I have been a DIS site supporter for many years, and have learned tons of extremely useful information from these boards, but the unnecessary judging I've seen is leaving a bad taste in my mouth. We all love Disney and our goal is the same-to plan the best Disney experience we can.
I'd really like to see posters who answer questions do so without judging.

You do realize that you are doing exactly what you are accusing others of doing - judging posters and how they answer?

 

[Suzie Zoo]

What I find even more disturbing is the callousness and lack of compassion for fellow human beings..

Of course the offenders always have an excuse - but that's all it is - an excuse..

I find it shocking.. I was certainly not raised that way (nor did I raise my children that way - nor is my DGD being raised that way) and I wonder how it's possible to raise ones own child with compassion when one doesn't possess it themselves?

As for your actual reason for this thread, I was reading a thread a little while ago (that had been locked) and there was a comment in there that literally made my jaw drop.. Completely unnecessary and totally irrelevant.. Then came the speech - "Well you're posting on a public board.." blah, blah, blah - but again, it was nothing more than an excuse to make a nasty comment that had nothing to do with the question asked..

Some days I just have to step away from the DIS - or stop posting on a thread.. The comments make me incredibly sad..

And brace yourself - because the "speech" will be coming - if it hasn't already while I'm typing out this response..

I think I know exactly what thread you're talking about. I will never understand the need to be rude and hurtful.

 

[LaraK]

I have noticed a lot of judging of the OP in threads lately when a simple yes or no or statement of the rules will do.
For example, someone asked if the rental strollers will hold a 95 pound child-rather than replying yes, as the weight limit is 100 lbs., posters who didn't answer the OP's question jumped in saying that the child should be walking as he is clearly overweight and unhealthy...

Others have been called liars. When asking about the ages for girls to go to BBB (the OP's daughter was "almost" 3, someone replied, "...your choice to lie is up to you." A simple statement of ages 3 and up would have sufficed.

Sharing of TS credits is another subject, where upon asking if it's okay to do, posters have eluded to the fact that the OP is a cheater..."I would never cheat on the plan like that." How about "no" for an answer and leave it at that?

I have been a DIS site supporter for many years, and have learned tons of extremely useful information from these boards, but the unnecessary judging I've seen is leaving a bad taste in my mouth. We all love Disney and our goal is the same-to plan the best Disney experience we can.
I'd really like to see posters who answer questions do so without judging.

Nope, not gonna happen. To answer your implied question without judging you, too many people are right all the time, they will not be able to resist judging others.

 

[Pin Wizard]

Some people just can't answer a simple question. It's been going on a long time.

 

[Uncle Remus]

I have noticed a lot of judging of the OP in threads lately when a simple yes or no or statement of the rules will do.
For example, someone asked if the rental strollers will hold a 95 pound child-rather than replying yes, as the weight limit is 100 lbs., posters who didn't answer the OP's question jumped in saying that the child should be walking as he is clearly overweight and unhealthy...

Others have been called liars. When asking about the ages for girls to go to BBB (the OP's daughter was "almost" 3, someone replied, "...your choice to lie is up to you." A simple statement of ages 3 and up would have sufficed.

Sharing of TS credits is another subject, where upon asking if it's okay to do, posters have eluded to the fact that the OP is a cheater..."I would never cheat on the plan like that." How about "no" for an answer and leave it at that?

I have been a DIS site supporter for many years, and have learned tons of extremely useful information from these boards, but the unnecessary judging I've seen is leaving a bad taste in my mouth. We all love Disney and our goal is the same-to plan the best Disney experience we can.
I'd really like to see posters who answer questions do so without judging.

Hey Darlin', I came here over two years ago, was so glad to find a board that talked Disney coz I was plannin' a trip after 20 years of not bein' to Disney, knew it had changed quite a bit from '86. Anyway, I was back in the Resorts forum for my 2nd post and someone accused me of bein' a troll coz I asked about room keys.

It's sometimes hard to not take some of this stuff personal, but some folks just get carried away with their beliefs about message boards. Ever see this cartoon?

Take a short break, remember you've made some good friends here 'n come back later.

 

[Suzie Zoo]

that cartoon rocks

 

[phorsenuf]

I love a good locked thread. Which one is it?

 

[raysnkaysmom]

I love a good locked thread. Which one is it?

hmm...I had my thread locked.... and I tend to agree with OP..
It saddens me to know that people are so 'perfect' and so 'right' that no one elses opinions, lifestyles or ideas could ever be 'perfect' and 'right' for THEM...

It's been happening more and more lately, but with all going on in my life and this world, I've learned to tune out the 'let me take away your happy sail' people and try to ignore it the best I can... it's all we can do Take the lemons and make lemonade...yanno?

 

[Uncle Remus]

hmm...I had my thread locked.... and I tend to agree with OP..
It saddens me to know that people are so 'perfect' and so 'right' that no one elses opinions, lifestyles or ideas could ever be 'perfect' and 'right' for THEM...

It's been happening more and more lately, but with all going on in my life and this world, I've learned to tune out the 'let me take away your happy sail' people and try to ignore it the best I can... it's all we can do Take the lemons and make lemonade...yanno?

Tune, did you say tune?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HvPcO7-FzW0

 

[Suzie Zoo]

hmm...I had my thread locked.... and I tend to agree with OP..
It saddens me to know that people are so 'perfect' and so 'right' that no one elses opinions, lifestyles or ideas could ever be 'perfect' and 'right' for THEM...

It's been happening more and more lately, but with all going on in my life and this world, I've learned to tune out the 'let me take away your happy sail' people and try to ignore it the best I can... it's all we can do Take the lemons and make lemonade...yanno?

I have a feeling it was this thread C Ann was referring to... I know it was the one I meant!!! The thread itself wasn't nasty, but one of the comments was so out-of-left-field that my jaw certainly dropped when I read it. Actually, 24 hours later and I'm still stunned!

I haven't perfected that "let it roll off your back" technique. I'm a big baby.

 

[Turtlegirl]

Ryan, so you think I'm judging others for judging? In the words of a very wise man...Mr. Brady..."tattling on others really means you're tattling on yourself..."
I wrote this after reading a thread one night and then I actually couldn't sleep...I guess it's my way of putting it in a bubble and blowing it away.

I understand that this is a public forum, but I still believe that when a question is asked, a yes or no will do-except when the OP is asking for opinions...then replying posters are free to give their 2 cents.

 

[raysnkaysmom]

Tune, did you say tune?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HvPcO7-FzW0

Dang wish I had sound....lol

 

[WebmasterMaryJo]

I've seen these types of responses on the DIS and other forums ever since I started visiting the online community back in the late 90's. Some people put common courtesy aside when they are posting behind the anonymity of the computer screen, and what may be unacceptable to you and me is totally okay from their perspectives.

It is a shame, especially when people are capable of being better, but choose to go to that lower level.

I like to believe that for everyone who chooses to show their mean side on the internet there are that many more who are sitting at their computers shaking their heads at such responses. They just don't participate.

 

[raysnkaysmom]

I have a feeling it was this thread C Ann was referring to... I know it was the one I meant!!! The thread itself wasn't nasty, but one of the comments was so out-of-left-field that my jaw certainly dropped when I read it. Actually, 24 hours later and I'm still stunned!

I haven't perfected that "let it roll off your back" technique. I'm a big baby.

I've actually had several PM me to tell me how that reponse was uncalled for.. so at least I know I'm not alone in the shock

 

[Turtlegirl]

Love the cartoon, Uncle Remus...so true, but I really don't like that it gets to me. I think you're right on, Mary Jo, that's it's the anonymity that gets people going. One poster, knowing she was going to be rude, started off with "not to be rude..." Then why do it?
Anyway, I certainly don't want to start a judgment of the judgers, after all, Judge not, lest ye be judged! It sure is nice to know that others feel the same way!

 

[LaraK]

OK...someone totally has to PM me the link to that thread!!!

 

[Suzie Zoo]

I've actually had several PM me to tell me how that reponse was uncalled for.. so at least I know I'm not alone in the shock

Glad to hear it!