Kate is a very controlling women who seems to burn bridges wherever she goes. My friend was on a crew for a television show she was on and said she was a very stand offish type person. Not sure if this is her being mean or just her defenses??
"warm and fuzzy" are not words I'd use to describe Kate. I think that's just who she is. she behaved similarly when she spoke here. from where I was sitting in the church, I could see Kate standing (outside of the sanctuary) with her publicist (I think?) and 2 people from the church before she came in to speak and not once did she smile or engage any of them in conversation. She did not look happy to be there, from my vantage point.
I will say that Kate may be strong because she HAS to. Jon never had a successful career or job stability. This is nothing against him because he had 8 kids in his 20's but still, he was not a major breadwinner. That said, if any of us woke up with 8 kids under the age of 5 we wou ld have to scramble to make a living too! I think Kate just scrambled harder than Jon and both began to resent it.
Jon and Kate chose to try the fertility treatment again after having twins. They knew raising children was expensive .. and they knew becoming pregnant with multiples was a very real possibility when they tried again. They didn't just wake up with 8 children under the age of 5. If finances were a concern, they could have waited to have more children....build savings and other resources first. I get so sick of people making excuses for Jon having children in his 20's. That's a cop out.. it has nothing to do with anything. People have children in their teens and work hard to provide for their family. If Kate was so concerned about Jon's ability to keep a job, then she could have gone back to work as a nurse and Jon could have stayed home with the children. Heck, Jon could have done IT work from home! As a parent, you do whatever it takes to provide for your family ... work at McDonald's as a 2nd job, etc.
IMO, neither of them wanted that life. They shopped their home video around, and Discovery Health liked it. For a brief period of time, Jon and Kate Gosselin won the lottery. They had it all.
It appears to me that Jon resents Kate's success, strength and abusive behaviors. Kate resents Jon's lack of strength and wishy washy attitude.
makes me wonder what attracted them to each other in the first place, LOL
Personally, I think that Jon is really off the rails now. As a social worker I would be concerned about the people he brings around to the children. He seems to latch on to all the wrong people and he makes really bad decisions. I have wondered about his use of substances too, although its just a hunch. He seems altered sometimes, not sure if it is stress, nerves or maybe something else?
good points!
Kate needs to stop bringing her marital business out in public forums. Lay low for a while, concentrate on her kids and focus on new projects. You know Kate gets a lot of criticism from people for hiring nannys and babysitters. But when you have 8 kids, a spouse who is traveling to Vegas and Europe with his girlfriend, and lots of expenses you HAVE to work. Single moms with less than eight kids have help, why is it her fault that she needs some too??
The issue of not-a-nannies has been around long before the divorce. For a time, Kate was the one who was traveling and Jon was the one who needed help with the children. What I don't understand is why they need help 24/7 now that the children are older? Not a criticism, just a curiosity? They don't need diapers changed, potty training, etc. 5 and 9 year olds can do many things for themselves and shouldn't need constant supervision.
The Gosselin's living expenses can be cut. that's been discussed here many times. the fact of the matter is that Kate and Jon like their current lifestyle. their lifestyle takes a lot of $$. they should be the ones doing the work to maintain it, not their children.