I agree with you with the "if all she says is true" But how do we know? We are not flies on their walls, we want to be but we aren't! This is a phrase I said over and over when the couple that introduced me and DH were getting a divorce Ah hem! Ready! There is his side, her side and the truth lies somewhere in the middle.
As far as Jon isn't happy just doing the show. I was under the impression that once Jon started working for Bob and coming home shortly before Mady and Cara got home from school Kate saw how easy her life would be if he were home all the time dealing with the kids when she didn't want to so badgered him in to quitting. I could be wrong but it just seemed that way. Lets face it. It's Kate's way or the highway and well I personally don't think a marriage can last in that situation. (And I believe that's why my sister never got married
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I remember those episodes too where Jon would be able to come home early enought to get the twins from the schoolbus and Kate seemed thrilled! It's sad, remember how happy she was when he'd walk through the door, she'd hug him or at least greet him with happiness?
I honestly don't remember what Kate said about their day to day care (bath, meals, etc) .. IIRC, she never really got that specific. She mentioned diaper changing and stuff like that when they were babies. The speech I saw, which I think is pretty much the standard Kate speech, mirrored Multiple Blessings. She talked mostly about the earlier years, when they were struggling. The whole theme of the talk I saw was God will provide more than you can imagine if you just trust in Him and pray enough.
With that said, she mentions being a SAHM being the best job, she also comments on how much she enjoys being out doing speaking engagements. It's definitely a mixed message.
That is a confusing message isn't it?
I feel the same way...which makes me wonder if the marriage is more over then she leads on. Like maybe it's already known that they will end their marriage but they aren't talking about that part yet?
I don't know but I would feel like a fool if my spouse wrote all that in a magazine. Even if he is guilty of being an idiot. I dont know it just makes me wonder how much she really wants to work on the marriage.
Besides she says they are dealing with it privately and now everyone in the world gets to read about it. I would have picked privately.
Of course Jon is guilty of being an idiot! If there were an Idiot University, he'd be teaching classes! I really think Kate saying what she did in the People interview was very calculated because she knew the mess they were in. I do think part of it were true but it didn't sound like someone who'd be willing to work on their marriage. I wonder how Jon feels about it? Ya, they're both "dealing with it privately", what a joke. It's looking more and more like a 3-ring circus.
You are right. They never beat around the bush about this. Even when he worked outside the home, he oversaw all 8 baths and pj's. She couldn't get up early when he was working and left the babies in their cribs awake until around 9am, put them back in from 12-4 and he was home around 6pm. Her job was feeding them. After Jon stopped working, he did lots of routine childcare tasks. We saw it on the shows all of the time. Now there is obviously full time help, probably multiple people; I don't know who is taking care of the kids. She seems to be lately more interested in scrubbing a soon to be discarded fridge with a q-tip than taking care of kids. Jon appears to be hands on on the show.
I agree, I've always felt Jon was more hands on with the kids.
I think Kate had something to do with Jon being home too. I think she liked it. Do you remember the Disney episode when he wanted to get the trailer and she begged him to go the next day because she was so tired and needed his help? And I think it worked out great for her too because he's "home" while she is out traveling. I think if Jon had just sit back and never said anything about wanting something else, she would have just kept it up. Oh wait she is still keeping it up...which really makes me think the marriage is already over anyway.
I remember that episode, they were both acting like kids....Jon, I'm so tired can't you do all that later? Kate, I have my own list of things to do...yada, yada, yada!
I always saw him as being more hands on in the show. He was always getting them dressed and trying to find their shoes.
In my home it's which parent is readily available. If I'm doing dishes, then he is giving our son his bath. If he is out mowing the lawn, then I'm the one changing the diapers. It's never just one of us doing the parenting. Heck now that my son is almost 3, he pretty much pickes who he wants to do something for him. That's always fun too.
Yup, I feel like Jon was usually the one dealing with the kids. Geez, how many times did Kate call his name JJJJJJOOOOOONNNNN! when one the kids threw a fit or fell down and got dirty?
From what I saw, she did do somethings too, but it seemed she was more in the kitchen then anywhere, which I can understand and I only have 3.
I did find it odd that he would get up in the morning to go to work and would have to get the two older girls ready while Kate was asleep and the babies stayed in their crib. I don't know how she was able to do that because mine would have screamed until I got in there. He would even bring her a cup of coffee because she was not a morning person. I am not a morning person either but I am able to get my two older kids ready for school while the baby is sleeping.
It did seem she was in the kitchen alot. I thought the same about him getting the twins all ready for school so Kate could sleep in and then he'd bring her coffee. Normally that would be a very sweet thing for a DH to do but I get the impression he was ordered to do it! For the record I am SO not a morning person but manage to get my kids together.
