Chicago526
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It's an 8 page thread now, I've only read the 1st page and the 8th page, so I'm sure the following has been posted at some point. But, just it case it hasn't:
1) Make copies of every single piece of financial documentation that exists. Insurance, credit cards, bank accounts, tax records, property records, anything and everything that has to do with your financial mariage from the day you said "I do".
2), Run your credit report with all three credit buearus. Make sure he hasn't taken out new accounts in your name that you don't know about. Then put a fraud aleart on your credit report, no new accounts can be opened (be sure you open anything you may need before you do this). Start getting him off as many accounts as you can that you hold jointly. Also run your kids credit reports and put a fraud aleart on them, I've heard of parents using their kids SS numbers to start opening accounts when they can open their own. Hopefully your ex isn't THAT big an SOB but why take the chance!
3) Get a lawyer, especially one with a nick-name of "pit bull" or something
. Don't make any agreements about anything, let your lawyer and the courts decide who gets paid what, when, and how. Money is tight, I'm sure, but a good lawyer is worth their weight in gold, get the best one you can possibly afford.
4) File (or have ex file) ASAP, the sooner the law gets involved, the better. Plus the sooner you start, the sooner it's over with.
5) Get conseling for both you and your kids. My best friend's parents divorced when she was in jr. high. Her mom made her and her sister go to counseling but never went herself, and she really needed it! Almost 20 years later, she's STILL bitter. Don't let that happen to you!
I'm so sorry this is happening. If you ever need advice, just post here on the Dis, we've got your back!
1) Make copies of every single piece of financial documentation that exists. Insurance, credit cards, bank accounts, tax records, property records, anything and everything that has to do with your financial mariage from the day you said "I do".
2), Run your credit report with all three credit buearus. Make sure he hasn't taken out new accounts in your name that you don't know about. Then put a fraud aleart on your credit report, no new accounts can be opened (be sure you open anything you may need before you do this). Start getting him off as many accounts as you can that you hold jointly. Also run your kids credit reports and put a fraud aleart on them, I've heard of parents using their kids SS numbers to start opening accounts when they can open their own. Hopefully your ex isn't THAT big an SOB but why take the chance!
3) Get a lawyer, especially one with a nick-name of "pit bull" or something
. Don't make any agreements about anything, let your lawyer and the courts decide who gets paid what, when, and how. Money is tight, I'm sure, but a good lawyer is worth their weight in gold, get the best one you can possibly afford.4) File (or have ex file) ASAP, the sooner the law gets involved, the better. Plus the sooner you start, the sooner it's over with.
5) Get conseling for both you and your kids. My best friend's parents divorced when she was in jr. high. Her mom made her and her sister go to counseling but never went herself, and she really needed it! Almost 20 years later, she's STILL bitter. Don't let that happen to you!
I'm so sorry this is happening. If you ever need advice, just post here on the Dis, we've got your back!
Just want to send thoughts,prayers, and hugs your way.
Anyway, the courts will decide what he pays, not him. My brother pays child support, alimony and half of day care. He also pays for their health insurance. Here and hopefully there, it gets automatically deducted from his check and sent to her, so he has no choice but to pay.
