I couldn't answer the poll because the link wouldn't work.
For me, planning IS half the fun...it's like playing a game of Chess (which I'm actually terrible at) or maybe better analogy is Stratego, how can I get the most out of my trip to keep the Disney money-sucking machine from "winning"? But I do realize that the planning is not for everyone.
I don't think every change that has come out from DME is good, some are and some aren't. But the more things change, the more they stay the same. I remember my first adult trip in 1997 with my DGF (now DW) There was no FP back then, but I still had a guidebook and park strategies and ADRs, yet ended up waiting in long lines frequently. Now with FP/FP+ we rarely wait in lines and have no problem getting to do what we want. It doesn't feel "worse" to me.
But if it does to you, than you can either deal with the changes and find a way to enjoy the trip, or your other choice is to stop going. It's supposed to be fun. If you are not having fun, then you really should consider a different vacation destination. It's too much money to spend to be miserable.