Its official. My FIL doesn't like me. LOL

[Silent1CB]

He joined FB. Looks like everyone else if friends with him. But I never got a friend request.

I was cleaning out DH's never ever used email account & found a friend request from his dad. DH never ever uses FB either. He just doesn't have time for stuff like that.

If you want an update on DH or what we are doing, I'm the one to ask. So, no updates for him I guess since he doesn't want to be my friend.

Honestly, I can handle it. He's made it clear over the years he doesn't like me. Funny, its only him & his daughter that don't like me. And they are like 2 peas in a pod.

His loss. Not mine.

 

[MushyMushy]

Count yourself lucky.

My MIL and her hubby didn't try to send me a request either, and I'm much happier that way! It saved me the trouble of making the decision whether to ignore it or set all my privacy settings so they couldn't see anything.

 

[apirateslifeforme]

I have to admit, for a while I wondered why my DBF's brother and SIL hadn't "friended" me while his sister has. I'm sure they've both seen me on her list, and since my profile picture is of me and DBF, there's no mistaking who I am. Apparently they're both on FB a lot as well. But I'm past it now...besides, I hardly ever post anything worthwhile anyway!

 

[Jennasis]

double post.

 

[Amy8888]

I'm sorry, I know the sting of ILs completely snubbing you, even when you are the one in your family responsible for ANY acknowledgement of anything in their lives. Like when you are the one who buys all their gifts, then at a party they specifically single out your husband for his thoughtfulness but never thank you even though your names are both on the card. But I digress. It just sucks but you are right, HIS loss!

 

[drag n' fly]

Don't feel bad OP my FIL can't stand me......the feelings mutual

 

[Buckalew11]

Count yourself lucky, lol.

 

[HelenePA]

Don't feel bad OP my FIL can't stand me......the feelings mutual

Same here! I even put him on my block list! the block list!

 

[bumbershoot]

Now, see, I think it's WEIRD to have in laws as FB friends. So I wouldn't find any little bit of a thing weird about your FIL not friending you there.

I don't "friend" friend's husbands or boyfriends, or wives for that matter (for the few guys I have on my FB page)...just doesn't make sense to me.


I like FB for the most part, it's been a lovely easy simple way to keep in touch with people I used to write long-winded letters to. I wouldn't write a long letter to my MIL, so why would I want her on FB?

 

[disykat]

I have accepted friend requests from everyone in the family who sends them. I'm rarely on facebook, so I've never sent friend requests myself. I figure those family members who aren't my friends are thinking "why doesn't she request to be my friend?"

Did you request him?

 

[Jennasis]

People have been begging me to join Facebook for years now. I keep refusing. I hope they don't think I don't like them or anything. I jut don't have the time (and I really don't want people knowing what I'm up to).

 

[sbell111]

I can't imagine being concerned that someone who I knew didn't like me didn't send me a friend request. They are not my friend, after all.

 

[declansdad]

Did you send him a request? Seems strange to complain if you didn't.

 

[Silent1CB]

I'm sorry, I know the sting of ILs completely snubbing you, even when you are the one in your family responsible for ANY acknowledgement of anything in their lives. Like when you are the one who buys all their gifts, then at a party they specifically single out your husband for his thoughtfulness but never thank you even though your names are both on the card. But I digress. It just sucks but you are right, HIS loss!

Oh, thanks for the reminder. I need to go buy him a sympathy card. I had completely forgotten I should do that.

 

[Silent1CB]

I can't imagine being concerned that someone who I knew didn't like me didn't send me a friend request. They are not my friend, after all.

Did you send him a request? Seems strange to complain if you didn't.

I think you both missed the fact that I was laughing about it & not complaining.

I think its funny he doesn't like me. Everyone else notices it too. Even my parents. Its his problem. Not mine. Its like a game he plays. He's the one hurting his relationship with his son. He won't call our house to talk to DH because I might answer the phone. He has told DH he doesn't want me on the phone when they talk.

Real mature.

My DH will be deployed. IF his father wants any updates, he's going to have to come around & talk to me once in a while. I've been nice enough to keep him included in any update emails I send out, but he never replies.

 

[sbell111]

I believe that it's perfectly fine to not like some people. In fact, I think that it's rude to expect someone to interact with those people that he/she doesn't like. Honestly, why is it a big deal if he wants to communicate with his son, not you?

 

[Goobergal99]

Mine hates me to, has for 13 years always will! But it's ok because the feeling is mutual

 

[Magic Mom]

Now, see, I think it's WEIRD to have in laws as FB friends.

Unless you dislike eachother, why is it wierd? Dh has my mom and my brother as friends, and I would friend his parents if his father had FB and his mother knew how to sign on to her internet.

 

[Silent1CB]

Update for those that wondered why I didn't try to friend request him? Well, I have since done that. Twice. And both times he's clicked Ignore.

Don't worry. Still not losing any sleep over him.

 

[sbell111]

Update for those that wondered why I didn't try to friend request him? Well, I have since done that. Twice. And both times he's clicked Ignore.

Don't worry. Still not losing any sleep over him.

... and yet you've twice sent him a friend request knowing full well that he doesn't like you. He clearly is not your friend and you are not his. I don't understand why you are making a big deal of him not being your friend on facebook.