Is your mom...

[Nakkira]

My Mom is not my best friend.
She is in a way, more.
There will always be the "Mom" aspect, and as such there are some things I cannot and will not share with her.
She still Mother's me a lot. She is very nurturing.

But we are friends. We have fun together. We sometimes take vacations together. Frequently share wine and stay up late talking.

The change started when I was 16 but was fully cemented when I was 18 after the death of my Father. We became closer.

I feel very lucky to have the close relationship that I do with her.

 

[Robinrs]

My Mom was my best friend, confidante, biggest fan and my hero.

I try to be the same with my son... I had one heck of an example. I remember telling her 21 years ago when I got pregnant that I wanted to be a Mom just like her. She just harummphed and laughed.

It's what I loved about her the most, she never believed she was as good as she was.

I miss her.

 

[Diznotyzed]

Friends? Never.

My mom ruled my two sisters and I with an iron fist, while holding us at arm's length emotionally. I love her, but I don't like her. I have a close relationship with both of my sisters, and they feel the same way about her. We used to bend over backwards to try and make her happy, but nothing was ever good enough so we've basically quit trying other than to make sure her basic needs are met.

 

[luvgoing2disney]

My mom was in a category all to herself. She and I were close as I grew up and she supported me in eveything I tried to do. When I married, she accepted my DW as her daughter yet never tried to interfere with our lives unless we asked her opinion or advice. Both DW and I are very fortunate in that we considered our in-laws as a second set of parents and accepted in every way.

I lost mama last month, after she suffered a stroke. It still seems unreal that she is not there and I expect her to be in the house when I visit my dad. I still have some voice mails and have played them once. It seemed as thought i should just press the "Call Back" tab and give her a call, and I wish that I could.

She was a very special person, and I miss het every day.

 

[Pakey]

My mom is a great mom and grandmother but I have never considered her a friend. She would do anything for anyone in her family but we do not share the same interests.

 

[BlueStarryHat]

I already responded but just wanted to say how sorry I am. This was exactly how my mom and I were. The cancer diagnosis forced us in a way to forget any b.s and focus on what really mattered.

Thanks-I sometimes catch myself wanting to tell her something still. I'm sorry for your loss as well.

 

[tinkerbellandeeyor]

Yes my mom and I are best friends

 

[MAD4EEYORE]

My mom is my best friend. We share similar interests and don't have arguments. We have always been close but in my teen years I needed to find my own way. Since then we've been closer than ever.

 

[NotUrsula]

Well, she's been dead for 15 years now, so I can't answer in the present tense, but no, not remotely. She was my mother, and that relationship was very strictly defined in her terms: from us, she expected unquestioning deference to her wishes in all situations.

I actually have some difficulty understanding the concept of a mother (or father) being a friend in the traditional sense; IME there is never a truly equal give-and-take relationship between parent and child, no matter how old one gets, and I think that without that it isn't truly a friendship, though it may be on friendly terms.

My father was a much warmer person just by nature, and I'm sure that we would have had a much closer relationship than I had with my mother had he survived into my adulthood, but he died young, so I never got the chance to know him as an adult would have.

 

[pigletgirl]

Yep, we love spending time together. I enjoy her company and vice versa. But, we are mother/daughter so make no mistake but we can and do bicker. Blood is thicker than water, ya know?!

 

[Gumbo4x4]

Nope, not Dad either (I'm a guy). Love them both dearly, but not "best friends" or even close to it with either.

 

[Sgt Mickey]

Sorry to to thosee who have lost their moms. I have no relationship with my own mother at all so it is nice to read about yours ♡

 

[wdwmom0f3]

My mother and I are very close. We talk several ones a day and she knows just about everything about me that there is to know. We have always been close. She and my grandmother were the very same way. I was also very close to my grandmother.

I wouldn't say that there was a time that we went from a mother / daughter relationship to just friends though. We still clearly have that kind of relationship but we are both now. I think more so then ever once got married And started a family.

 

[JennaDeeDooDah]

I would say that my mom is my best friend. Growing up, she wasn't a friend. She was very much a mother and she never tried to be my best friend, which I think is best. Kids need a parent. However, she was excellent at communicating with me on my level. I always knew that I could go to her with any questions about my body, sex, or other personal things that many kids are too embarrassed or afraid to talk to their parents about and I knew that she would be very upfront and honest with me. She never made me feel ashamed to no know something or embarrassed that I didn't know something. As I grew up, our relationship evolved. After my husband, she is always the first person I call when something good or bad happens to me. I couldn't give an exact time that our relationship became that of good friends because she is still very much a mother to me, but we are extremely close.

 

[DawnM]

I am always envious of people who say their mom is their best friend. Mine is not. We have never been that close. She is narcissistic and has a lot of issues she has never worked through. I can only spend so much time with her.

Dawn

 

[crz4mm2]

My Mom is my friend. Not my BFF but pretty close.
We are very close and have been for years. I have a much younger sister and brother who are very close in age to my DS.
I love spending time with her.

 

[TinkPirateMom]

My Mom is my best friend We got closer after I had my 1st child.

 

[Leighbra]

No, my mom is not my friend.

I love her so much & she loves me even more, but my mom has a coping style that makes it so I can't go to her with things that are troubling me until I have digested them fully & am prepared for her.

That means we're not "friends". But she's much more than my friend, she's my mama & I wouldn't trade her for anything.

Going to work hard on building a relationship with my daughter where she can come to me with her troubles.

 

[JVL1018]

My mom passed away 9.5 years ago.
I spoke with her on the phone probably 5 days a week, saw her at least once a week, often twice, but I wouldn't say we were best friends, only because we were so much more than best friends.

She was the best mother in law, my husband absolutely loved her, after his mom died he told me he didn't feel as sad as he would have because he still had a mom;mine.
There was no jealousy, no pettiness, no guilt tripping..and she was totally patient with me and never took anything personally during my teenage years.
She was a joy to be around, seriously almost always in a good mood. Everyone loved her.
I was so proud to be her daughter (see my tag-her name was Mickey and people always knew me as Mickey's daughter)

I would rather have had her for 32 short years I had her, than have had any other mom for 100 years. Friend seems too anemic a word for our relationship. I think of her every single day.

 

[avgeek81]

I wouldn't say best friend but I consider my mom a good friend. We really got closer after my dad passed away when I was 24. Thats when we started going on vacations together, going out to eat more and generally spending more time together.
She comes and stays with me for about 2 months every year. And when she is not here we talk 2 or 3 times a week on the phone. I sometimes feel bad for my brother because he is not as close with us as we are with each other and think he sometimes feels left out