Is your mom...

[powellrj]

I am always envious of people who say their mom is their best friend. Mine is not. We have never been that close. She is narcissistic and has a lot of issues she has never worked through. I can only spend so much time with her.

Dawn

This is pretty much how my mom and I are. It has always been about her. Her narcissism has destroyed my fathers health and has ruined their finances. While I know my father is an adult and should have stood up to her years ago, I also know the hell there is to pay when you cross her so he took the easy way out and gave into her. I will have a hard time forgiving her when my dad is gone.

 

[Tozzie]

I was always close to my mom even as a teenager, I learned to cook as a teen just by hanging out in the kitchen while she was cooking. As I got older and started working we remained close and always went shopping together, my work schedule was in a word difficult and she always planned our shopping trips around my schedule. Sadly she had a massive heart attack on our front lawn and died when I was 22. I couldn't read this whole thread without getting teary I really miss her and yes she was my best friend, still is in a way when I have really difficult things going on I go to the cemetary and talk to her it really helps me deal with life at time.

 

[ZephyrHawk]

My mom is a friend, but certainly not my best friend. I'd say we became friends after I graduated from college and was no longer financially dependent upon her or my father.

 

[ceemys]

No. My mom and I get along best when we are geographically distanced. She says it is because I am so much like my dad that we don't get along. sigh. But having someone criticize me on my parenting, budgeting, house keeping, relationships, work, and my friends I find it best to not to say anything. My older sister and I can do the same exact thing at the same exact time with the same end result and she is the perfect person and I did something wrong. eh. I keep things to myself and stay sane.

 

[MrsDuck]

She's definitely my friend. Probably my best friend (after my husband). I think we became "friends" when I graduated from college or towards the end of it.

 

[Kathryn Merteuil]

BFF, probably 24 or so I'd estimate.

 

[luvmy2sams]

My mom and I had the normal teenage rebellion relationship, but we became close again when I went to college. As I grew up, married, and had children, we talked on a daily basis, and we visited her every chance we got. DH sometimes commented that it was odd that we were always the ones making the trip or placing the phone calls, even though my parents were in a much better position financially than DH and I were at the time. In retrospect, I spent years forcing a relationship that my mom just didn't feel for me. Unfortunately, she waited to make her feelings clear until my DD and DS were in the picture and attached. They became nothing more than something stuck to the bottom of her shoe when my younger sister started her family. Choosing to not allow my family to be subjected to the drama took a long time and lots of prayer, and it was painful for all of us. My mom made her feelings crystal clear on Christmas morning one year, and the words are forever etched in my heart and mind. We all mourned the loss of the extended family we thought we had, but in retrospect we know that this family never really existed.

Doesn't make me miss my mom any less though. I'm envious of those of you who have a loving mother in your lives. Cherish the relationship! I work every day to ensure that my kids will never feel the pain I still feel.