Is this odd?

[Gaspode]

Hiya,

As others have said - not odd at all! I didn't date until I was 17. I met my bf at 17 and we became good friends, started dating just a few months before I turned 18 and now, 6.5 yrs on we will be married very soon as you can see from my counter

I don't regret not dating sooner, if you are not ready, or not met the right person yet, then, no matter! Have fun and don't fret - it'll happen when it happens.

Best Wishes,
Gaspode

 

[Buckalew11]

My 17yo niece doesn't date. She went to prom last spring but that is it. So many of the HSers that I know don't one on one date these days. They go out together in groups. (She's not even into that--she works and studies for the most part).

I think when you date too young the timing can be off for what could be a really good relationship. But at the same time, one of my clients didn't really date until the end of her senior year of HS and it turned serious enough that it lasted about 1 year and she was away at college when he broke up with her. I felt really bad for her because it was her first heartbreak and she could have used the comforts of her family being there for her.

But like others have said, you have plenty of time. Most often people seem to meet the people they will marry during college or after anyway. Good luck with both!

 

[apirateslifeforme]

I went on my first real date about 3/4 of the way through my senior year of HS. Believe me, it wasn't for lack of trying - the guys just weren't interested in me

 

[laura001]

My DD is almost 22 (4th year University), and has been on a total of 3 dates, all of them while in University. She is a pretty girl (yes, I know I am her Mom). I don't think there is anything wrong with not dating early, I guess the when the time is right it will happen.

Here are two pics of her, she is the second one in from the left in both of these pics....just in case anyone has a cute DS out there....

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[NMAmy]

Another non-dater in high school checking in. My problem was that I went to the same school from kindergarten up until graduation. I'd known those guys forever and I just wasn't interested in dating them. I did start dating after high school. I think it's better to wait than to just date for the sake of dating.

Don't worry, you're perfectly normal, hon!

 

[Hillbeans]

not odd at all - in fact my first real "date" was when I was a Junior in High School and I had just turned 17.

I turned out ok, and went on to have a very active social life and I married at 28. I am glad I waited until I was older to start dating actually.

 

[tkd lisa]

I didn't date until I was almost 18. No one I was interested in who was interested in me.

But I changed that once I got to college. In fact as a "gag" Christmas gift, my sorority sisters willed me 12 fraternities, so I could pick a different fraternity guy each month to date.

I do think that sometimes high school guys aren't looking for relationships with an adult type girl, which results in those responsible teens not dating (unless they date college guys) until they get out of high school.

 

[Narnian_Princess]

Well, I'm 18 now and I've never dated, or even looked for a guy. I've had a few crushes, but I was too shy to even look at them, lol. I just figure I have waaaay too much to do to be worried about boys. And it's not like I'm the prettiest girl around or anything; guys seem to like nauseatingly pretty girly-girls and I'm strong-willed, tough as nails, and very, very geeky. Yeah, and I'm not a makeup girl so that might have something to do with it. Eh, who knows? But don't think you're odd or anything; if you aren't mentally or emotionally ready to date, don't force it.

 

[curiouser]

I didn't really date in high school. I wanted to, but I couldn't find anyone I thought was worthy of my time. Yes, I was really picky, but I didn't want a superficial relationship just because everyone else was dating.

Things changed when I got to college and things are much easier in college, too. You can hang out with various guys and really get to know them and explore your options without the social pressures of "omg! lyke r u 2 dating?!".

I may not have dated as much as some of my friends, but its not about having a laundry list of guys. Its about learning what you ultimately want in a guy and now, at 25, I have the love of my life!!

 

[minkydog]

No, you're not odd. I didn't date much until I was about 17-18. Definitely more in college. I grew up in a small South Alabama town and the boys there were pretty...boyish Their idea of a great date was driving down to the Pizza Hut in Pascagoula and stealing a beer glass. My sister, who was the valedictorian of her class, didn't date at all in high school. She was busy with High School Bowl and band and being the smartest girl on skates.

I met my future husband in college--an exotic Greek boy from Florida who just was more together than any good ol' boy I ever met. Got married when I was 24. My sister thought she'd never get married. She went to college, dated but didn't find the one. Worked as a teacher in Mississippi. Then one weekend we all went back to college for homecoming and there he was--the one. A guy we all knew & went to school with & loved to pieces. Somehow they connected and she came home with stars in her eyes. They married when she was 28 and have been together for about 20yrs.

It will happen. Don't worry, you're not odd. You have high standards. Nothing wrong with not settling for second best.

 

[horseshowmom]

It will happen. Don't worry, you're not odd. You have high standards. Nothing wrong with not settling for second best.

My DD had her first date at 16, and they saw each other for about 3 weeks but just weren't suited to each other. She met another guy through friends just before she turned 17, but he lived in Ohio (nowhere near us).

Right after she turned 17, she started dating the young man she's dating now (been well over two years ago). They broke up for a few months, and she dated a guy from college. They got back together last June.

If you add that up, it's not a long list of guys. She's gorgeous (beauty pageant winner), but she has high standards.

Her cousin is 18 and has been on one date (when she was 17). The guy acted like a jerk, got fresh, and she made him take her home. She's pretty disgusted right now too and wonders if she's ever going to meet someone. She's also a beautiful girl - long blonde hair and big blue eyes.

As she and DD discuss, the pickings are pretty slim around here too. The cousin is a senior in high school, so hopefully, things will get better in college (she actually wants DD's BF cloned, but I think that's out of the question ).

 

[RSoxFan]

I'm 23 and have never had a serious boyfriend, so I don't think you're strange at all! I dated a few people in high school, but never seriously. I went to an all-girls' college, so there were NO pickings. I dated some friends of friends, but never "clicked" with anybody. Now I'm in grad school and have my eye on a few prospects.

It's also my biggest fear that I'll never find true love and get married and have kids.

 

[DisneyAddict_M]

I went on my first date 5 days before I turned 18. I wasn't allowed to date until I graduated H.S., because my mother wanted me to concentrate on my studies and not on boys. I was a good girl up until my senior year and snuck out that one time.

FTR, I was married a year and a half later. And divorced a few years after that....but we won't talk about that.

 

[curlybop]

I never dated through high school. From the time I was 16, I held a part time job and went to h.s. Sure, I had boyfriends off & on a bit, but we never really went out anywhere. Besides, they were all a bit immature anyway.

After high school, I worked about a year, and met someone the summer I turned 19. I didnt' have time to be lonely or go out a lot, since I worked. But that particular year, I met the greatest guy, and we were married the next year. That's been eleven years ago.

So, I don't think it's odd at all. I think it is quite smart. There's really no need to rush. It may take a lot of time before finding the "right" one, but it does happen. Take time to just enjoy life as it is now!

 

[Sandy V.]

No, you're not strange at all. I had 2 whole dates in high school. There were pretty slim pickings at my small, rural school, and I knew that I wanted OUT of there so it didn't bother me in the slightest.

Things changed when I went to college. I dated quite a bit and had several steady boyfriends, one that was "serious". We broke up right before our senior year.

Then I went to law school. Coincidentally, the serious boyfriend went to the SAME law school (I sent my acceptance in LONG before he did ). Two weeks in, my husband (another classmate) saw me at school in a blue dress. Told me that he knew right then and there that I was the girl for him. We were married less than a year later and we're still going strong 23+ years later.

Love and dating aren't on a timetable. You will date when the timing is right. So don't worry about it!!

 

[hlbtimes2]

I never date or anything until I was about 20. Never went to prom or home coming- none of those things. Between 19-20 I dropped 65 pounds, and a whole new world opened up! LOL Now, I'm 38, have been with the same wonderful guy for 15 years.

 

[smartestnumber5]

I'm 24 and I technically have only been on 3 "dates" in my life and on all three of them I was joined my friends or she was joined by hers (we lived a good drive away so we only met up when we already had a reason to go to each other's city, and usually that reason meant we had other people with us)--so they weren't even very date like! That was when I was 21.

For the last year and a half though I've been in a relationship--but I never did go on a date with my GF. We met through friends when she was visiting the area getting ready to move a few months later. We began a kind of "long distance" thing and by the time she actually moved we were past the "let's go on a date" stage and more into a relationship phase.

So I wouldn't worry about your age--sometimes things just happen when you're not expecting it!

 

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