Is Living together instead of Marriage

[low-key]

Good deal for men, and bad deal for women ?

I feel thats the general thought, but I think its really a better deal for who ever has they most money ? anit so ?

 

[J'aime Paris]

If two adults agree to live together unmarried, that's their choice.
I'm hoping it's a mutually beneficial situation.

 

[kimblebee]

You are having some weird opinions tonight. That’s what makes the world go ‘round though.

 

[low-key]

You are having some weird opinions tonight. That’s what makes the world go ‘round though.

lol, your right, I was looking for some ideal for questions and I ended up on this website and its just not me


https://socialmettle.com/

 

[BLAZEY]

Good deal for men, and bad deal for women ?

I feel thats the general thought, but I think its really a better deal for who ever has they most money ? anit so ?

Depends where you live. Here the law is co-habitate for 2 years is equal to common law marriage, assets acquired during that time could be divided 50-50 in a break up, should one partner push it. It's even less if there is a child involved between both parties. Inheritances and some gifts are exempt, provided they remain in a personal account of the party that inherited. Put it in a joint account and it's common property
Sister had boyfriend sign a "co -habitant" agreement which was voided upon their marriage. They have now been married for 6 year and have 2 kids.

 

[kimblebee]

lol, your right, I was looking for some ideal for questions and I ended up on this website and its just not me


https://socialmettle.com/

I give you credit for keeping the boards lively.

 

[Disneylover99]

I’m not going to necessarily say good deal for men, but in general based on the couples I know, I’m going to say better deal for men than women.

 

[jevs]

It doesn’t matter in Australia. De facto relationships are seen as marriage after a certain time frame.

 

[kimblebee]

It doesn’t matter in Australia. De facto relationships are seen as marriage after a certain time frame.

Same in Canada. I have a heck of a story in how it can backfire.

TL;DR my cousin lived with my Uncle after her divorce and in exchange for her doing the chores and cooking, she lived there rent free. They were first cousins. He died of liver failure (hep C) and before he died he fixed his will to give her his house. His four nieces and nephews (me and my siblings) were to share his savings and stocks etc. She knew the will and agreed to it. After he died she contested the will claiming common law marriage and walked away with half of everything. Needless to say her name is banned around us.

 

[disneychrista]

Why would it be a bad deal for the woman?

I have never been married. Lived with the father of my daughters for 3 years.

I am not sure if marriage is something I want at this point. I want the committed loving relationship & someone to share my life with but the legality of it doesn't much matter.

 

[dotfurio]

I think it can be a good deal for one and bad for the other who may have no laws to protect their rights or share of the property. So yeah, whoever has the most money/property has the better deal. Not necessarily the woman, though. Besides, what if the relationship is between 2 men? or 2 women?

 

[Cannot_Wait_4Disney]

Good deal for men, and bad deal for women ?

I feel thats the general thought, but I think its really a better deal for who ever has they most money ? anit so ?

It's a bad deal for both, especially if you start pooling money or items and the like.

 

[Marchand63]

I don't think there is one answer. We met in out late 40's never planned on marriage but things change and we basically did it for health insurance. His stunk mine is a cadillac plan. so - married.


As long as you have an adult talk about money, etc..
And put things in writing through a contract if need be.

 

[MrsCobraBubbles]

I think it's generally considered a better deal for men because they can move on and start over at any age, women have a shelf life on our uterus. My situation isn't quite the same because I was married, but my husband and I split after 14 (3 months shy of 15) years of marriage. He has the option of finding a younger woman and starting a new family. However, at 37 I don't have those same options. Please don't anyone get offended, but my personal opinion is that men age better than women. Maybe that's just my own perception of society's standards, but age and gravity take more of a toll on women's bodies than men's.

 

[Marchand63]

I think it's generally considered a better deal for men because they can move on and start over at any age, women have a shelf life on our uterus. My situation isn't quite the same because I was married, but my husband and I split after 14 (3 months shy of 15) years of marriage. He has the option of finding a younger woman and starting a new family. However, at 37 I don't have those same options. Please don't anyone get offended, but my personal opinion is that men age better than women. Maybe that's just my own perception of society's standards, but age and gravity take more of a toll on women's bodies than men's.

I think it depends where in life you are. In my case I make much more money than DH, so it would be way easier for me to start over & it was in my 1st marriage. Oh and the 1st guy I dated was 35, me 46. Older women younger men is very common now days. My DS married a women 14 years his senior him 22, her 36. 12 years & 1 child later still going.

So don't count your options out at 37.

 

[dosekies]

Probably depends on the couple. My fiancé and I are on our 7th year together, 4th year engaged, 2nd year officially living together, and I feel like we're practically married. We're open with financials, split the bills, etc. so we honestly keep pushing getting married off because at this point it just feels like a piece of paper. Only reason I'm still pushing for it soon is because I'll be kicked off my parents insurance next year and he gets great insurance through work haha

 

[MrsCobraBubbles]

I think it depends where in life you are. In my case I make much more money than DH, so it would be way easier for me to start over & it was in my 1st marriage. Oh and the 1st guy I dated was 35, me 46. Older women younger men is very common now days. My DS married a women 14 years his senior him 22, her 36. 12 years & 1 child later still going.

So don't count your options out at 37.

Maybe it's just the people I hang with. Most are religious and want a bunch of kids. I wanted a bunch of kids too and that didn't happen. Now I can't have any more kids, so I feel kind of used up. I guess maybe I am looking in the wrong places There are no single men in my church under the age of 70. I would have to drive about an hour away to attend church in a singles ward where I could meet some men closer to my own age, but they are all going to want kids which is a problem because I can't. And dating outside of the church scares me, I haven't dated anyone but my ex-husband since I was 17 years old!

 

[Marchand63]

Probably depends on the couple. My fiancé and I are on our 7th year together, 4th year engaged, 2nd year officially living together, and I feel like we're practically married. We're open with financials, split the bills, etc. so we honestly keep pushing getting married off because at this point it just feels like a piece of paper. Only reason I'm still pushing for it soon is because I'll be kicked off my parents insurance next year and he gets great insurance through work haha

I know alot of people older & in your situation who get married for the same reason. I love my DH and would be with him married or not, but the financial ruin no insurance can wreak is horrid.

 

[Marchand63]

Maybe it's just the people I hang with. Most are religious and want a bunch of kids. I wanted a bunch of kids too and that didn't happen. Now I can't have any more kids, so I feel kind of used up. I guess maybe I am looking in the wrong places There are no single men in my church under the age of 70. I would have to drive about an hour away to attend church in a singles ward where I could meet some men closer to my own age, but they are all going to want kids which is a problem because I can't. And dating outside of the church scares me, I haven't dated anyone but my ex-husband since I was 17 years old!

I met my DH on a dating site, I went through a ton of idiots before him. There are religious dating sites. You may have to kiss(figuratively) a few frogs until HE comes along. At 37 you are not even on the cusp of used up. Oh and not all guys want kids, some are done with having them.

 

[AnnaFloridaLover]

I think it's generally considered a better deal for men because they can move on and start over at any age, women have a shelf life on our uterus. My situation isn't quite the same because I was married, but my husband and I split after 14 (3 months shy of 15) years of marriage. He has the option of finding a younger woman and starting a new family. However, at 37 I don't have those same options. Please don't anyone get offended, but my personal opinion is that men age better than women. Maybe that's just my own perception of society's standards, but age and gravity take more of a toll on women's bodies than men's.

It's amazing what a healthy diet, exercise, yoga and a little Botox can do to help women look and feel much younger. You're only 37 and you have children so you are lucky even though you may not have more. My sister had her first child at 46 so it can happen.