Is it possible

[jazzielady]

To report a " friend " of my daughter's to the PTB at Facebook? My daughter expressed a negative opinion - no profanity, she knows better - about the Jonas Bros and this girl responded with the worst profanity, starting with an 'F', directed TO my daughter.

I asked my daughter who this girl was, and she said that she's in a different grade and that they're not friends in real life. This was one of those " friend of a friend " things. I told my dd12 that I want her to report her and delete her as a friend.

I will be happy to take the heat for reporting her, but I can't figure out how.

I plan to use this as a teachable moment with both daughters as to who to accept as a friend.

 

[happygirl]

To report a " friend " of my daughter's to the PTB at Facebook? My daughter expressed a negative opinion - no profanity, she knows better - about the Jonas Bros and this girl responded with the worst profanity, starting with an 'F', directed TO my daughter.

I asked my daughter who this girl was, and she said that she's in a different grade and that they're not friends in real life. This was one of those " friend of a friend " things. I told my dd12 that I want her to report her and delete her as a friend.

I will be happy to take the heat for reporting her, but I can't figure out how.

I plan to use this as a teachable moment with both daughters as to who to accept as a friend.

I wouldn't report her. Even if you did What will they do? I think that would only make trouble for your daughter

 

[allison443]

To report a " friend " of my daughter's to the PTB at Facebook? My daughter expressed a negative opinion - no profanity, she knows better - about the Jonas Bros and this girl responded with the worst profanity, starting with an 'F', directed TO my daughter.

I asked my daughter who this girl was, and she said that she's in a different grade and that they're not friends in real life. This was one of those " friend of a friend " things. I told my dd12 that I want her to report her and delete her as a friend.

I will be happy to take the heat for reporting her, but I can't figure out how.

I plan to use this as a teachable moment with both daughters as to who to accept as a friend.

I don't know how to report things to facebook, sorry. Is it against facebook's rules to use the f word? But just wanted to point out that your dd is breaking facebook's rules as well, as facebook has an age requirement of 13 years old in order to have an account.

 

[dislaney]

I'm not sure I would report her. You do have other options like deleting her as a friend or blocking her. I think I would choose one of those instead.

 

[allison443]

I'm not sure I would report her. You do have other options like deleting her as a friend or blocking her. I think I would choose one of those instead.

Also your dd can delete the post from her page.

 

[foolishmortal]

wow someone has an opinion other than what your daughter likes and they chose to use profanity to express thier feelings, what has facebook become...opps I mean welcome to life! instead of teaching them that you can blab to authorities even in minor situation you should teach them that hey sometimes people have different views then they might and that some people react differently to things so to chose words and what you say to certain people wisely.

 

[akhenaten]

Sorry... i agree with those who say you should not report her...

If profanity offends you.. your 12 year old should NOT be on facebook!!!

 

[tasha99]

I would not report her--Facebook couldn't possibly keep up with trivial infractions like that. Your daughter should just unfriend her.

 

[MushyMushy]

I agree with the others. Your daughter is breaking rules as well and from the sounds of things might be a bit too immature to handle a social network at this point. You're going to be causing way more harm than good for your daughter by reporting this girl.

I would say, delete the post, unfriend and block the girl, then go through your daughter's friends list with her and only allow her to be friends with people she is directly involved with. I do that with my 14, soon to be 15 year old! Somebody using the F word around her wouldn't even be a blip on my radar.

 

[Anjelica]

As a side note per Facebook rules NO ONE under the age of 13 is to have a Facebook account. They have a forum/contact us section where you can report those under the age of 13 who have a FB account. They recommend parents "help" their child under the age of 13 to remove the account instead of reporting them.

Your daughter shouldn't have a FB account per the rules. Additionally, if the child in question who posted the profanity is under the age of 13 then you can report her and they will remove the account.

 

[jazzielady]

Profanity in and of itself does not offend me or my daughters. However, if the F-word is specifically directed AT me or a family member, that bothers me a lot.

As far as dd12 breaking fb rules, you're right. I'm not going to defend myself on this one, but I'm sure many of you have/know kids too young who have accounts. Two wrongs don't make a right, but it's a fact.

My dd would prefer that I report her, so that I can be the "bad" guy, which I'm happy to do. This has nothing to do with her level of maturity or ability to handle profanity. She handled it very well & I am proud of her responses.

 

[allison443]

To report a " friend " of my daughter's to the PTB at Facebook? My daughter expressed a negative opinion - no profanity, she knows better - about the Jonas Bros and this girl responded with the worst profanity, starting with an 'F', directed TO my daughter.

I asked my daughter who this girl was, and she said that she's in a different grade and that they're not friends in real life. This was one of those " friend of a friend " things. I told my dd12 that I want her to report her and delete her as a friend.

I will be happy to take the heat for reporting her, but I can't figure out how.

I plan to use this as a teachable moment with both daughters as to who to accept as a friend.

When you say you "can't figure out how"...did you think to google "report someone to facebook"? The first several links that come up are to the faq on facebook on how to report people. Very simple.

 

[jazzielady]

When you say you "can't figure out how"...did you think to google "report someone to facebook"? The first several links that come up are to the faq on facebook on how to report people. Very simple.

Thanks. Very helpful.

 

[lovemygoofy]

Profanity in and of itself does not offend me or my daughters. However, if the F-word is specifically directed AT me or a family member, that bothers me a lot.

As far as dd12 breaking fb rules, you're right. I'm not going to defend myself on this one, but I'm sure many of you have/know kids too young who have accounts. Two wrongs don't make a right, but it's a fact.

My dd would prefer that I report her, so that I can be the "bad" guy, which I'm happy to do. This has nothing to do with her level of maturity or ability to handle profanity. She handled it very well & I am proud of her responses.

I'm guessing I'm missing WHY you want to report her. Using I understand the other girl used a word you don't approve of. However, it's not like your daughter HAS to have her listed as a friend. Why not just MAKE her delete this friend. Tell the daughter to tell the other girl that "mom saw your words and didn't like them and is making me delete you and a few others."

I think you should have control over this and nip it in the bud showing your daughter to take control over these situations as it will only get worse as she gets older. I'm not sure reporting this girl is going to get you resolution you want especially since your daughter isn't even 13.

 

[MzDiz]

I think a better lesson is that it's probably more productive to ignore those online that ruffle your feathers. It's a big internet out there.

 

[allison443]

Just wanted to add that even if not everyone agrees with reporting this, it is good that the OP is either monitoring her dd's facebook or else her dd is coming to her with something that was an issue. There are so many parents who don't even know their kids (even those under 13) have a facebook account.

My friend (who is a teacher at my dd's elementary school) insisted to me her kids weren't on facebook, they had no interest in it, etc. Well eventually my dd got a fb account when she turned 13 and lo and behold my friend's two kids friended my dd, they were on fb and had been for months. Just one example of many I have seen.

 

[phorsenuf]

Over reaction. Delete the comment, move forward.

 

[Scurvy]

Profanity in and of itself does not offend me or my daughters. However, if the F-word is specifically directed AT me or a family member, that bothers me a lot.

As far as dd12 breaking fb rules, you're right. I'm not going to defend myself on this one, but I'm sure many of you have/know kids too young who have accounts. Two wrongs don't make a right, but it's a fact.

My dd would prefer that I report her, so that I can be the "bad" guy, which I'm happy to do. This has nothing to do with her level of maturity or ability to handle profanity. She handled it very well & I am proud of her responses.

I'm not understanding what you would be reporting her for. Is there a Facebook rule against using profanity? I looked through the terms but didn't see such a rule. From what I can tell, your daughter is the one breaking the rules of Facebook. If the other girl is under 13 then she is too, of course, but clearly you don't consider that to be a reportable offense.

Regardless, if your child is mature enough to be on Facebook then she should be mature enough to handle this the way everyone else does. She should delete or block the girl, tighten her privacy settings and be done with it.

 

[jazzielady]

Well, googling didn't help much. Found a lot of info about child predators and terroristic threats though.

I sent the girl a message telling her to unfriend my daughter as she will be doing so when dd gets home from school.

 

[Scurvy]

Well, googling didn't help much. Found a lot of info about child predators and terroristic threats though.

I sent the girl a message telling her to unfriend my daughter as she will be doing so when dd gets home from school.

Why would you do that? This makes me think you aren't very familiar with the way Facebook works. You are making this much more complicated than it needs to be. They don't have to unfriend each other. As long as one of them does it, it's done. The other girl doesn't have to be involved in this at all. Your daughter just needs to unfriend her.