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[jazzielady]

Thank god it wasn't Justin Bieber that your daughter dissed.

She did that too, but just as an "....& jb too".

 

[peanut1967]

Hi

I am sorry but I have to agree with others, 12 is much too young for facebook. You need to keep your child safe if you do decide that she can keep the account then limit it to when you can go on with her and keep an eye on her.

Angie

 

[ksjayhawks]

I wouldn't report the other girl. Unfortunately profanity is part of FB.

Instead, I would have your daughter delete the comment and then defriend this girl if that is what she wants to do.

Also, go into her account and check her privacy settings and be sure that only her friends can see her page and profile. You will want to check this fairly often as whenever facebook makes changes, the privacy settings are often affected.

 

[Praying Colonel]

Ya know what folks? I was asking how to do something, not for opinions about my parenting, or whether dd should be on fb, or whether she's old enough, or anything else.

Yep, but when you were given fairly easy instructions on how to look up the answer--twice--you shared your Plan B (sending a demand message to the minor). And this being a discussion board, it's going to be discussed.

No offense, but you need to understand that if you're going to participate in online social communities like Facebook or the DIS, you can't have a thin skin.

 

[marlynnp]

At the top of my screen it says:

The DIS Discussion Forums - DISboards.com > Just for Fun > Community Board


I should probably do a poll, but does anyone else have a header that says Answers Only Forum????

 

[Magic Mom]

I thought the FB rules say only ages 13 and above? Either way, she's too young to be on facebook if she friends people that she hardly knows.

 

[rgf207]

Or just googled it....

http://lmgtfy.com/?q=Report+someone+on+facebook

 

[Robinrs]

Welcome to the CB.

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Don't want opinions? Don't want parenting advice? Do NOT post. That's the only way.

 

[Tink888]

I don't know how to report things to facebook, sorry. Is it against facebook's rules to use the f word? But just wanted to point out that your dd is breaking facebook's rules as well, as facebook has an age requirement of 13 years old in order to have an account.

This. So you are okay with allowing your child to break a FB rule but you are reporting someone else who did?

Also your dd can delete the post from her page.

This. Delete the comment. Unfriend the person. End of story. Problem solved.

Profanity is all over FB. It's all over school. You can't control another's use of it, only your own. I'm sorry, but reporting the girl, and then sending her private messages is creating more drama than necessary and it's as juvenile as what the other girl posted. The difference being that you are the adult in this situation and the other girl is not.

 

[MaryAnnDVC]

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Well excuse us.

As stated in the thread, she didn't just ask a question...she put out information showing she knows very little about how FB works, including that her DD is underage. She added later that she sent an email telling the other girl to unfriend her DD, again showing she doesn't "get it" about FB. So what's the problem? Saying she's setting her DD up for further unnecessary embarrassment (since the DD could unfriend or block the other girl, or shut down her FB, without the other girl taking any action) by getting in the middle? It kind of fits the discussion, no?

 

[MushyMushy]

You PM'd a child? You're the one who crossed the line now and went way overboard. If you were in that much of a tizzy over it, why didn't you speak to the girl's mother? You "should" be the grown adult in this situation.

A very similar thing happened last year with my 18 year old son. His girlfriend called another girl a name (the girl is 19), and the girl's mom went all mama bear on the gf, my son, me, and the gf's mother. She's become quite the laughing stock for causing all that drama over a teen tiff that would have been water under the bridge in a day or two.

Seriously, it sounds like you all need to take a step back from Facebook. It really wasn't *that* big of a deal.

 

[Anjelica]

So you are okay with allowing your child to break a FB rule but you are reporting someone else who did?

Or at least reporting someone who you think broke a rule.

Sorry OP that you feel attacked, etc. but you gave a full scenario (which always help to puts things in perspective) and I think you got alot of good unsolicited advice. Whether you take and heed that advice is up to you.

 

[Cornhusk]

Double Post

 

[Cornhusk]

If your daughter is too young to hear (or in this case read) a profanity then she may be too young for Facebook. You wanted advice? Let it go. The fact that you went "Mama Bear" mode and messaged the other person shows that your daughter is too young for Facebook. It was a curse word and I am pretty sure your daughter knows what one is and perhaps has said it once before. If the friend was attacking your daughter, sure, but that was clearly not the case here.
It is not against the rules to use a profanity on Facebook. It is against the rule to have someone under the age of 13 use it.


"Ow my freakin ears"

 

[Nancyg56]

Why not just MAKE her delete this friend. Tell the daughter to tell the other girl that "mom saw your words and didn't like them and is making me delete you and a few others."

I think you should have control over this and nip it in the bud showing your daughter to take control over these situations as it will only get worse as she gets older. I'm not sure reporting this girl is going to get you resolution you want especially since your daughter isn't even 13.[/QUOTI know you are sick of opinions but Holy Smokes! This would be the best way IMO. You are the parent so make DD delete the girl and from now on monitor the friends she has on FB. If you do not get a handle on how to manage teenage girl drama you are in for a whirlwind for the next several years.

I sent the girl a message telling her to unfriend my daughter as she will be doing so when dd gets home from school.

Oh my goodness! If I was the other girls parent you would be answering to me and unfriending anyone would be the least of your worries. If you were in that much of a tizzy it would have been better to contact the parent as contacting a child is not an appropriate reaction to internet profanity.

You PM'd a child? You're the one who crossed the line now and went way overboard. If you were in that much of a tizzy over it, why didn't you speak to the girl's mother? You "should" be the grown adult in this situation.



Seriously, it sounds like you all need to take a step back from Facebook. It really wasn't *that* big of a deal.

This. I do hope that this blows over quickly for your DD's sake.

 

[Liberty Belle]

Profanity in and of itself does not offend me or my daughters. However, if the F-word is specifically directed AT me or a family member, that bothers me a lot.

As far as dd12 breaking fb rules, you're right. I'm not going to defend myself on this one, but I'm sure many of you have/know kids too young who have accounts. Two wrongs don't make a right, but it's a fact.

My dd would prefer that I report her, so that I can be the "bad" guy, which I'm happy to do. This has nothing to do with her level of maturity or ability to handle profanity. She handled it very well & I am proud of her responses.

Then just tell your daughter "you must delete her as a friend" and then your daughter can truthfully say, "my mom said I must delete you as a friend." You're still the bad guy, without bringing facebook into it and I'm not sure they'd do anything, anyway. I have several friends who use the F word on facebook.

 

[Liberty Belle]

Well, googling didn't help much. Found a lot of info about child predators and terroristic threats though.

I sent the girl a message telling her to unfriend my daughter as she will be doing so when dd gets home from school.

I would not have sent the girl a message. Why could your daughter not just unfriend her?

 

[jazzielady]

The child pm'd me back and apologized. All is well.

 

[phorsenuf]

Profanity in and of itself does not offend me or my daughters. However, if the F-word is specifically directed AT me or a family member, that bothers me a lot.

As far as dd12 breaking fb rules, you're right. I'm not going to defend myself on this one, but I'm sure many of you have/know kids too young who have accounts. Two wrongs don't make a right, but it's a fact.

My dd would prefer that I report her, so that I can be the "bad" guy, which I'm happy to do. This has nothing to do with her level of maturity or ability to handle profanity. She handled it very well & I am proud of her responses.

If you feel she is mature enough to be on Facebook than she should be mature enough to handle issues on her own that arise from Facebook. If she can't handle it than she shouldn't be on there.

 

[Liberty Belle]

The child pm'd me back and apologized. All is well.

Sounds like a nice girl - someone I'd like my child to be friends with.