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[jazzielady]

All I have to say is hang out in the hall at the middle school for a few minutes- you'll hear all kinds of bad words.

I might have mentioned the girls language to her face, said "you do realize EVERYONE could see that right?" but I would not have taken her to task on FB and I would not have made dd delete her. The curse word reflected on her, not your daughter. See, knowledge is power- - I'm always checking my son's fb page and the kids he's "friends" with, tells you a lot about what's going on.

Per your first comment, you must not have read all my responses as I was a middle school teacher for over 23 years and know the creaturs well.

I like your second comment and would have pursued the issue that way if possible.

 

[Scurvy]

Per your first comment, you must not have read all my responses as I was a middle school teacher for over 23 years and know the creaturs well.

I'm thinking your middle school experience must not be very recent. Those creatures have changed quite a bit in the last few years - they are much more like high schoolers than they used to be. As much as I hate it, that sort of language is very common among middle schoolers now. Most of them still have the sense to be discrete with it around the teachers, but around the other students the language can be shocking.

 

[jazzielady]

I'm thinking your middle school experience must not be very recent. Those creatures have changed quite a bit in the last few years - they are much more like high schoolers than they used to be. As much as I hate it, that sort of language is very common among middle schoolers now. Most of them still have the sense to be discrete with it around the teachers, but around the other students the language can be shocking.

I just retired in January, after 4 months of sick leave. I'm very aware of middle school culture and language. Maybe it's the teacher in me that wouldn't leave these comments to my daughter unanswered.

 

[legalsea]

I have not bothered to read any of the posts, but I will give my opinion:

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Oh, off topic, I wish to report to the Facebook authorities concerning some inappropriate language by another person. Could someone please tell me how to do this? Please note that I do not have access to Google, since I live in China. The person I wish to report is 8 months old and simply writes gibberish, which I find offensive. All anonymous replies accepted!

 

[Robinrs]

I'm thinking your middle school experience must not be very recent. Those creatures have changed quite a bit in the last few years - they are much more like high schoolers than they used to be. As much as I hate it, that sort of language is very common among middle schoolers now. Most of them still have the sense to be discrete with it around the teachers, but around the other students the language can be shocking.

Recent???

I'm older than the OP and I remember it WELL when I was in Jr High school. When wasn't it typical? In the 1800s???

 

[Scurvy]

Oh, off topic, I wish to report to the Facebook authorities concerning some inappropriate language by another person. Could someone please tell me how to do this? Please note that I do not have access to Google, since I live in China. The person I wish to report is 8 months old and simply writes gibberish, which I find offensive. All anonymous replies accepted!

I'm sorry, gibberish isn't against the Facebook TOS so there's really no reason to report it. Gibberish is pretty common on Facebook so I'm afraid if you can't deal with it Facebook might not be the site for you. You only reasonable choices are to leave Facebook, unfriend and block the infant or just remove him from your newsfeed. Although, since the infant is under 13 years old, he is breaking the TOS that way. You could report him for being under age and Facebook would probably ban him. Good luck!

Recent???

I'm older than the OP and I remember it WELL when I was in Jr High school. When wasn't it typical? In the 1800s???

You might have a point. I don't remember it being as common when I was in middle school as it is now. But I do remember the "bad" kids using that sort of language even then. Now, even some of the "good" kids do it. Most of them don't seem as scared of the teachers as I remember my classmates being. It makes me feel old! I always want to lecture them - "Well in MY day, we didn't use language like that! We respected our elders!" Maybe every new generation of teachers feels that way, even back when I was a kid.

 

[Mermaid02]

Per your first comment, you must not have read all my responses as I was a middle school teacher for over 23 years and know the creaturs well.

I like your second comment and would have pursued the issue that way if possible.

I see that- which makes me wonder why the overreaction. It's not a "nice" word and I wouldn't want it showing up on my dd's fb page for her Aunts and Uncles to see- but I would not have taken the other girl out on FB.

 

[luvmy3]

I just retired in January, after 4 months of sick leave. I'm very aware of middle school culture and language. Maybe it's the teacher in me that wouldn't leave these comments to my daughter unanswered.

It would be one thing if this happened in your class or the hallway of the school where it isn't allowed. However it didn't, so it sounds like it has nothing to do with the teacher in you, but more of the mama bear in you.

 

[legalsea]

I'm sorry, gibberish isn't against the Facebook TOS so there's really no reason to report it. Gibberish is pretty common on Facebook so I'm afraid if you can't deal with it Facebook might not be the site for you. You only reasonable choices are to leave Facebook, unfriend and block the infant or just remove him from your newsfeed. Although, since the infant is under 13 years old, he is breaking the TOS that way. You could report him for being under age and Facebook would probably ban him. Good luck!
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Ah! But you see, neither I nor the infant are members of Facebook. Indeed, if you read my post very, very, very carefully, I simply stated that this 8 month old child was writing offensive (to me) gibberish, but the baby was obviously not using the computer! How silly! The child writes gibberish on his bid, using a red lipstick thingy that I, somewhat irresponsibly, gave to him.

Not knowing who else to report it to (the infant's mother, my sister, simply shrugged her shoulders and told me to not give the baby lipstick to play with) I thought that the Facebook authorities might be appropriate. I confess, I am not sure what the owners of Facebook could do, but I thought it worth a try. I tried Amazon but they just sold me a bunch of stuff, while Twitter (which I also keep reading about) was no help whatsover. I mean, their answer was so short!

Now, please, no posts about whether or no I was being irresponsible in giving this child lipstick to play with!

 

[Anjelica]

Oh, off topic, I wish to report to the Facebook authorities concerning some inappropriate language by another person. Could someone please tell me how to do this? Please note that I do not have access to Google, since I live in China. The person I wish to report is 8 months old and simply writes gibberish, which I find offensive. All anonymous replies accepted!

Now that is funny!!!!

You could send a note to the 8 month old informing them that you want them to "unfriend" you and you will do the same. You can also inform them that you don't appreciate that language and it is offensive. Hopefully the 8 month old's parents don't get involved and you can keep the drama down to a minimum.

I think 8 months say some of the most offensive things these days. I don't remember it being this bad when I was 8 months old. I truly think the culture of today has changed and 8 month olds act more like pre-schoolers than they used to. I personally blame the Baby Einstein phenomenon and the perpetual exposure 8 month old's get today.

 

[Scurvy]

Ah! But you see, neither I nor the infant are members of Facebook. Indeed, if you read my post very, very, very carefully, I simply stated that this 8 month old child was writing offensive (to me) gibberish, but the baby was obviously not using the computer! How silly! The child writes gibberish on his bid, using a red lipstick thingy that I, somewhat irresponsibly, gave to him.

Not knowing who else to report it to (the infant's mother, my sister, simply shrugged her shoulders and told me to not give the baby lipstick to play with) I thought that the Facebook authorities might be appropriate. I confess, I am not sure what the owners of Facebook could do, but I thought it worth a try. I tried Amazon but they just sold me a bunch of stuff, while Twitter (which I also keep reading about) was no help whatsover. I mean, their answer was so short!

Now, please, no posts about whether or no I was being irresponsible in giving this child lipstick to play with!

No, no, no. This is not acceptable. You can not ask advice on a discussion board like this one and then expect to dictate the direction the discussion will take. You have to expect that people will share opinions and advice that they feel is helpful or relevent, even if you don't want to hear it. Clearly, this whole situation is your own fault. You gave the lipstick to the infant; you can't expect other people to solve the problem for you now. You caused the problem and you can't pawn it off on other people just because you regret your decision. You are either going to have to put up with the gibberish or you're going to have to take the lipstick away - which would be rude, since you should never take back a gift once you've given it. So really I suppose you're stuck with the gibberish until the lipstick has all been used.

And from now on you really ought to be more responsible, and not give lipstick to infants. They are too young for it anyway; it makes them look cheap and tacky. They need to at least be in kindergarten before you give them any makeup.

 

[Tinker'n'Fun]

Ah! But you see, neither I nor the infant are members of Facebook. Indeed, if you read my post very, very, very carefully, I simply stated that this 8 month old child was writing offensive (to me) gibberish, but the baby was obviously not using the computer! How silly! The child writes gibberish on his bid, using a red lipstick thingy that I, somewhat irresponsibly, gave to him.

Not knowing who else to report it to (the infant's mother, my sister, simply shrugged her shoulders and told me to not give the baby lipstick to play with) I thought that the Facebook authorities might be appropriate. I confess, I am not sure what the owners of Facebook could do, but I thought it worth a try. I tried Amazon but they just sold me a bunch of stuff, while Twitter (which I also keep reading about) was no help whatsover. I mean, their answer was so short!

Now, please, no posts about whether or no I was being irresponsible in giving this child lipstick to play with!

Now the real question lays on the company that distributes said red lipstick. Did it come with the specific warning: DO NOT allow 8 month old babies handle this product or gibberish on bibs may result? Did that said red lipstick also come with 64 sheets of extra packaging with other said warnings also??

 

[sunnyday123]

It would be one thing if this happened in your class or the hallway of the school where it isn't allowed. However it didn't, so it sounds like it has nothing to do with the teacher in you, but more of the mama bear in you.

Let's just hope the other girls mom isn't a mama bear...then we'd have a beat down in the forest!!!

 

[legalsea]

No, no, no. This is not acceptable. You can not ask advice on a discussion board like this one and then expect to dictate the direction the discussion will take. You have to expect that people will share opinions and advice that they feel is helpful or relevent, even if you don't want to hear it. Clearly, this whole situation is your own fault. You gave the lipstick to the infant; you can't expect other people to solve the problem for you now. You caused the problem and you can't pawn it off on other people just because you regret your decision. You are either going to have to put up with the gibberish or you're going to have to take the lipstick away - which would be rude, since you should never take back a gift once you've given it. So really I suppose you're stuck with the gibberish until the lipstick has all been used.

And from now on you really ought to be more responsible, and not give lipstick to infants. They are too young for it anyway; it makes them look cheap and tacky. They need to at least be in kindergarten before you give them any makeup.

Hmm. So what do I do with the eyeliner I just purchased off Amazon?

Anyway, surely wigs are ok? I mean, I enjoyed watch Bret Michaels on Apprentice, so I got the baby a Bret Michaels wig (sorta like I had a Beatles wig when I was a child; only that wig was stupid looking and obviously not made of real human hair. The Bret Michaels wig is made of 100 percent hair from carefully selected Swedish women, picked personally by Bret himself in an up-coming reality TV series, "Bret, Pull My Hair Out!").

Anyway, my sister's baby (I have yet to discover whether this baby being my sister's infant makes me related to him; I am looking for genealogical advise on another website) is pretty well bald, so I figure the wig would help.

 

[legalsea]

Now the real question lays on the company that distributes said red lipstick. Did it come with the specific warning: DO NOT allow 8 month old babies handle this product or gibberish on bibs may result? Did that said red lipstick also come with 64 sheets of extra packaging with other said warnings as??

Actually, I picked up this tube of red lipstick in China last year. At least, I guess it is lipstick. I found it in a parking lot. I can't read the Chinese characters on it, although the skull on it is rather delightful to look at.

 

[luvmy3]

Let's just hope the other girls mom isn't a mama bear...then we'd have a beat down in the forest!!!

I was picturing the other mom to be a lioness protecting her cub, much like the mom in the movie Role Models

OP, if you are easily offended by foul language used by children DO NOT watch this movie

 

[Scurvy]

Hmm. So what do I do with the eyeliner I just purchased off Amazon?

Anyway, surely wigs are ok? I mean, I enjoyed watch Bret Michaels on Apprentice, so I got the baby a Bret Michaels wig (sorta like I had a Beatles wig when I was a child; only that wig was stupid looking and obviously not made of real human hair. The Bret Michaels wig is made of 100 percent hair from carefully selected Swedish women, picked personally by Bret himself in an up-coming reality TV series, "Bret, Pull My Hair Out!").

Anyway, my sister's baby (I have yet to discover whether this baby being my sister's infant makes me related to him; I am looking for genealogical advise on another website) is pretty well bald, so I figure the wig would help.

Well, you could use the eyeliner yourself. Have you ever had an urge to be a rock star? Because the eyeliner could come in handy if you wanted to go that route. The wig too, for that matter. If not, maybe you could use the eyeliner to practice caligraphy or to write Asian characters. You could start by copying whatever is on the lipstick.

I think the wig might be good for the infant. I've noticed bald little infants are often sort of alien looking. The wig might help with that, and could keep the kid from having hair-related insecurity issues until the kid's real hair shows up. If the kids never gets hair you might have to continue to support the child's wig habit, though, since you would have been the one to start the addiction.

 

[disneymom2one]

I have a daughter in middle school.

Last week, one of her friends called her and several others the "f word" followed by idiots. It was in response to the other kids (including my own angel) stepping on tree frogs. They were at p.e. walking the track. I think more "stuff" happens walking that track but I digress.

You know what I did? Told my daughter to please quit stomping out the lives of innocent tree frogs. That was it.

I didn't go to the school. I didn't email the kid's mom (we're friends). I certainly didn't contact the kid.

As expected, all was better by Monday. It's middle school. You really, really have to learn to take a deep breath and pick your battles. We don't tolerate that language at home and her school (a super selective charter school) absolutely has zero tolerance for any kind of shenanigans. But you know ... stuff happens.

And by the way, I allow my 14 year old a FB page but I monitor it closely. I also know my way around FB. The most I would have done is told my daughter to put her on "Hide" for awhile until things blow over. Maybe unfriend her. There was no need for the other kid to be contacted because if your kid unfriends her, that's all it takes. Not knowing how FB works was probably the OP's first mistake (in my opinion).

Per your first comment, you must not have read all my responses as I was a middle school teacher for over 23 years and know the creaturs well.

I like your second comment and would have pursued the issue that way if possible.

 

[BelleRocks]

I understand the OP, because I think all moms have that instinct to respond in kind to someone who threatens our babies.

However, I try with my DD to stress that we can't control other people's behavior, we can only control ourselves. Hence the lesson, you can't control your friend if she chooses to talk like that, but you can control how you respond. IE, unfriending, avoiding, etc.

Also, food for thought to the OP, if an adult has a problem with my child, I expect the adult to come to me. I consider it disrespectful to ME as the parent to be bypassed by another adult.