Is it Just Me?

[doxdogy]

It sounds as if your daughter is more mature then her aunt.

 

[poohandwendy]

No it's not just you. You sister singled out your DD and made her Christmas present a point to insult her. I don't find any reason to be 'happy' about a 'gift' that was given with the purpose of insult. JMHO

Very, very rude and there would have been nothing that would have stopped me from making it known (probably not the right way to handle it, but I have a temper like that)

You DD handled it beautifully, though. Shows she has more class than her aunt could ever wish for.

 

[alliecats]

Hmmmmmmm.....sounds like SIL is suffering from a bout with the green monster. She appears to be pea-green with envy towards your daughter.

ITA. I also agree she was looking to get a rise out of your daughter, who does sound like a great kid!

 

[Luv'sTink]

I don't think she was being cruel, but I have to say--I think she wanted a reaction out of your daughter. The fact that she "followed up" on the gift like she did, implies to me that she wanted your daughter to be upset.


Your daughter handled it well

ITA!

 

[Fionasmommy]

IMO that's not the best gift for family, and certainly not if you're getting traditional gifts for everyone else. But the kicker to me was that she came back later and made a point of saying the donation was made because your DD has too much stuff already. What on earth was she thinking, behaving like that?! That's incredibly rude, and I don't see what lesson your DD was meant to take away from that. I have too much stuff, and charitable donations are a last resort gift for when you can't think of anything else or want to teach someone a lesson? Hmm... Some lesson. I'd say your SIL completely negated the generousity of the donation with her judgmental attitude about it.

 

[Jeafl]

No it's not just you. You sister singled out your DD and made her Christmas present a point to insult her. I don't find any reason to be 'happy' about a 'gift' that was given with the purpose of insult. JMHO

Very, very rude and there would have been nothing that would have stopped me from making it known (probably not the right way to handle it, but I have a temper like that)

You DD handled it beautifully, though. Shows she has more class than her aunt could ever wish for.

As usual, I agree with poohandwendy

 

[mytwotinks]

I'd think twice before I'd give this "adult" another chance to taunt my child. Is this woman always so inmature? Did the rest of the family think that the gift was appropriate. She sounds like a real looney toons to me.

 

[Louise-Montreal]

Bump for the evening crowd.

 

[PlainJane]

According to your post your DD hadn't expressed any displeasure in having received that gift, so for your SIL deciding to bring it up just so she could call your DD a brat I find very rude. IMO you have every right to be upset with her.

 

[DisneyfeverTN]

I agree with some of the other posters. I think your SIL is very jealous of your DD. What I would do is let her know later on in the year that you have decided not to exchange gifts with her because everyone has "too much stuff." I think she used the gift as an opportunity to hurt your DD's feelings. It was great that your DD turned it around and was nice about it. That shows class.

 

[TDC Nala]

ITA. Glad that your daughter took it so maturely.
Perhaps your sister is secretly jealous of your having a real family, while even though she seems to have it all, she wants what you have and tries to control the situation.

Somebody always chalks this stuff up to "single and bitter." Maybe she's just a jerk.

Anyway, the action itself isn't cruel - but to tell the girl it was done because "she has too much stuff" is.

Not crazy about people measuring up how much their kids' gifts must have cost, either.

 

[princess pooh]

I think your sister behaved like a nasty snot . Hopefully she'll learn some class from your daughter before next Christmas.

 

[Hixski]

To the OP: You should be very proud of your daughter for the way she acted. I would be tempted to give the SIL a lump of coal next year and tell her you did it since she has too much stuff. But I am a mean and horrible person. (Just ask my brother, he ruined Christmas for me this year).

 

[ZPT1022]

The look on her face would be priceless!! Have your dd tell her that she picked out the donation that best fit her!!!!

It should really be donate a donkey then

In all seriousness though, I would love it if someone made a donation in my name. I'd be very happy, especially if it were one of the causes close to my heart. To single someone out though, and make it seem like a punishment is where the SIL went wrong though. It's only a good gift when it's done out of love and as a meaningful tribute. Good luck getting that through SIL's head though.

 

[marsha123]

sil is a loser .your dd does not need her input. keep your distance, contact at a minium.