Irritations While Out Shopping Yesterday

[LilyWDW]

What store is it? Our HyVee used to be like that.

Ingles

 

[Boxley]

People need to come into the new century, no checkbooks use your credit card. Also the market is a one man job, of course you need to take the kids sometimes. But what is up with all these men standing right besides their wives at the market. That is why they have bars, go get a drink or sit in the car. I do most of the shoping and other people with the whole family, mom dad 4 kids kills me, they must have just got the wellfare check, can't the dad do something else with kids while mom shops. Ok that's it for now. L&G's Dad.

I will reserve the best names I have for you because this is a DIS-friendly atmosphere but I would understand this crude insult from someone if they could actually spell "welfare".

 

[Hal Gurtner]

I was thinking an appropriate name for Lily & Giny's Dad would be "curmudgeon" but I'll let him decide.

I can think of a better one.

 

[MinnieTink]

Oh, and PLEASE...

Don't be so inpatient that you push your cart into mine! This happened recently, while my 2 yr old was with me. He was drinking out of his sippy cup, and the buggy hit so hard that he hit his teeth with the sippy cup. And then she had the gall to roll her eyes at me when he started crying.

Is it really worth hearing my child scream like a banshee with a busted lip b/c you couldn't wait 30 seconds for me to move my cart? Most places you have to load the bags yourself, and even though I've paid, I'm still loading my bags.

I'm sorry, but after my experiences...I find #2 on the OPs list quite rude...

Oh my, your poor baby! This story needs one more busted lip on Miss Rolly Eyes! What a jerk. I don't know how I could have kept my composure.

 

[HoneyPooh]

I can think of a better one.

I'm with you. Curmudgeon sounds like a cute little fiesty elderly man. Not what I would go for in this situatuation.

I have a whole scenario in my head about that poster going by the "wellfare", taxes, foodstamps mentions, but I won't bore you with it.

As to the OP, if you hit me with your cart on purpose I will shove it back at you very much on purpose and yes indeed it will be accompanied by a not so very disney pixie dust look. If someone were to hit you on purpose would you or would you not give them a dirty look?

 

[MIGrandma]

Yes it would be rude to bump the person in front of you, but surely it was an accident!

I really think it is inconsiderate to leave your basket behind you while you stand at the end of the conveyer belt to complete your transaction. Please put your basket in front of you and move to the end of the counter! That gives the next person a chance to unload and be ready to check out.

Thank you! Gosh, I didn't think so many here would think I was rude for slightly bumping the woman with her cart. There was no one ahead of her so she wasn't penned in, she just chose not to pull her cart ahead (which would be common courtesy) so I could start unloading my groceries as well. If I would have waited until she was completely finished, then I would have been holding up the line behind me as well.

But, doh! I keep forgetting this is the Dis.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

As to the OP, if you hit me with your cart on purpose I will shove it back at you very much on purpose and yes indeed it will be accompanied by a not so very disney pixie dust look. If someone were to hit you on purpose would you or would you not give them a dirty look?

If they tipped her, maybe she would be less agressive. How someone who is an experienced waitress get upset when a server is "punished" via her tip for poor performance but then be okay with violence in the grocery store b/c someone hasn't inched as forward as she liked is beyond me.

It's a grocery store and not the roller derby.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Thank you! Gosh, I didn't think so many here would think I was rude for slightly bumping the woman with her cart. There was no one ahead of her so she wasn't penned in, she just chose not to pull her cart ahead (which would be common courtesy) so I could start unloading my groceries as well. If I would have waited until she was completely finished, then I would have been holding up the line behind me as well.

But, doh! I keep forgetting this is the Dis.

Accidentally? No!

Deliberately? Yes!

This isn't a DIS thing--it's common sense.

If you injured her--you would have held up the line even more.

The "common courtesy" thing to do...when someone is in your way...is to say "Excuse me, please. Would you...." Even my 2yo can do that.

 

[Mermaid02]

Ya know what I hate? I hate it when the kids are pushing the cart and they drive it into the back of your heels....

 

[MIGrandma]

People need to come into the new century, no checkbooks use your credit card. Also the market is a one man job, of course you need to take the kids sometimes. But what is up with all these men standing right besides their wives at the market. That is why they have bars, go get a drink or sit in the car. I do most of the shoping and other people with the whole family, mom dad 4 kids kills me, they must have just got the wellfare check, can't the dad do something else with kids while mom shops. Ok that's it for now. L&G's Dad.

While I would never assume a family just got their welfare check (now to ME, THAT is rude) I do agree with you about the whole family at the grocery store. I've never been able to understand why the whole family needs to do the grocery shopping. I prefer to do it alone, and always left the kids home with DH. Now if it's a single Mom or Dad, then of course they may have to bring the kids with them. That's different. But if both parents are there, wouldn't it have just been easier for one parent to go to the store and leave the kids at home with the other parent? The kids usually don't want to be there anyway, and are whiny/crying/loud/annoying, etc. etc.

As for the not writing a check thing, sorry but I'm not putting groceries on a credit card and we don't even HAVE a debit card (don't want one) so I will write a check, or rather the cash register will write it out for me. Besides, if you use a credit card you still have to punch buttons on the machine, and sign for it anyway. So what's the difference?

 

[MIGrandma]

I do have some little annoyances when I am out shopping but to be honest, I don't let them really get to me. For the most part none of them are terrible enough to ruin my day.

Never said they were terrible enough to ruin my day.

 

[MIGrandma]

If they tipped her, maybe she would be less agressive. How someone who is an experienced waitress get upset when a server is "punished" via her tip for poor performance but then be okay with violence in the grocery store b/c someone hasn't inched as forward as she liked is beyond me.

It's a grocery store and not the roller derby.

Wow! I have my very own Dis stalker!!

I have no idea what you're referring to, but it must have struck a nerve with you or something.

 

[MIGrandma]

As to the OP, if you hit me with your cart on purpose I will shove it back at you very much on purpose and yes indeed it will be accompanied by a not so very disney pixie dust look. If someone were to hit you on purpose would you or would you not give them a dirty look?

There would have been no need to purposely hit me with their cart, because I would have moved it to the other side of me as soon as I had it unloaded, so that the person behind me could be putting their groceries on the belt as well. Common courtesy is to move it up (and there was no one in front of her so she could have moved it) so the next person can put their groceries on the belt.

 

[crashbb]

While I would never assume a family just got their welfare check (now to ME, THAT is rude) I do agree with you about the whole family at the grocery store. I've never been able to understand why the whole family needs to do the grocery shopping. I prefer to do it alone, and always left the kids home with DH. Now if it's a single Mom or Dad, then of course they may have to bring the kids with them. That's different. But if both parents are there, wouldn't it have just been easier for one parent to go to the store and leave the kids at home with the other parent? The kids usually don't want to be there anyway, and are whiny/crying/loud/annoying, etc. etc.

As for the not writing a check thing, sorry but I'm not putting groceries on a credit card and we don't even HAVE a debit card (don't want one) so I will write a check, or rather the cash register will write it out for me. Besides, if you use a credit card you still have to punch buttons on the machine, and sign for it anyway. So what's the difference?

So, as long as people do things the way you would do them it isn't rude (i.e. using a cheque, purposefully bumping into people). However, if they happen to do things differently, they are a problem (i.e. shopping as a family).

Good to know.

BTW - why the heck couldn't you have politely asked the person in front of you to move up a little bit, so that you could unload your groceries?

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Wow! I have my very own Dis stalker!!

I have no idea what you're referring to, but it must have struck a nerve with you or something.

Yes, I stalk unruly grandmas who bump innocent shoppers out of common courtesy.

(I very rarely remember threads--and you were quite vocal as were others about not being "rude" to a server even if they were bad.)

In this case, the opposite is true--but you are condoning a little bumping as some how "courteous" as a reminder to someone to not be rude and then not realizing that it is rude to do that.

I don't get it.

 

[jenrose66]

People need to come into the new century, no checkbooks use your credit card. Also the market is a one man job, of course you need to take the kids sometimes. But what is up with all these men standing right besides their wives at the market. That is why they have bars, go get a drink or sit in the car. I do most of the shoping and other people with the whole family, mom dad 4 kids kills me, they must have just got the wellfare check, can't the dad do something else with kids while mom shops. Ok that's it for now. L&G's Dad.

My DH and I work separate shifts and don't get to spend a lot of time together. We enjoy food shopping together and my sons enjoy the grocery store.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

There would have been no need to purposely hit me with their cart, because I would have moved it to the other side of me as soon as I had it unloaded, so that the person behind me could be putting their groceries on the belt as well. Common courtesy is to move it up (and there was no one in front of her so she could have moved it) so the next person can put their groceries on the belt.

What people are saying--is that if you "bump" their cart kindly so as to "bump" them to pay them back for their rude behavior, they will return the favor and bump you back with their cart.

Since they are in your way--you cannot unload and are thus in the path of their cart.

Stop talking about "common courtesy" when you clearly cannot control your actions when someone is in the middle of processing their order.

 

[npmommie]

sometimes my dh and kids come shopping with me, but only if its BJ's Trader joes or Whole Foods, and only because hubby loves to pick out his own cereals, he is a cereal fanatic,and gets several different kinds varieties, and I guess he just likes to pick things. also I let the kids pick out things at WF or TJ's.....
I bring him to BJ's just because I like the help
we are also not on wellfare

sometimes ( gasp ) I go just me and the kids, and once a cashier made rude rude comments like " why do people bring their kids to the store, in my day we never did that"...........my kids were being perfectly well behaved, don't even know what sparked her comment, and even if they were acting up there was no need for her 2 cents.
so I said, well my husband is at work, he works long hours, we needed food, should I have left them home alone????
she didn't say anything else, I was tempted to complain about her to a manager, I felt it was so rude.

 

[OceanAnnie]

sometimes my dh and kids come shopping with me, but only if its BJ's Trader joes or Whole Foods, and only because hubby loves to pick out his own cereals, he is a cereal fanatic,and gets several different kinds varieties, and I guess he just likes to pick things. also I let the kids pick out things at WF or TJ's.....
I bring him to BJ's just because I like the help
we are also not on wellfare

sometimes ( gasp ) I go just me and the kids, and once a cashier made rude rude comments like " why do people bring their kids to the store, in my day we never did that"...........my kids were being perfectly well behaved, don't even know what sparked her comment, and even if they were acting up there was no need for her 2 cents.
so I said, well my husband is at work, he works long hours, we needed food, should I have left them home alone????
she didn't say anything else, I was tempted to complain about her to a manager, I felt it was so rude.

That was totally out of line! I usually go out of my way to seek managers to give compliments about staff doing a good job. I don't generally complain. But I think I might have with that one.

I rarely take my kids grocery shopping with me. They are well behaved, but it's boring for them. I never once thought someone would be irritated if I brought them (or my husband) along. I'm glad most people keep their thoughts to themselves!

 

[Pea-n-Me]

My 84 year old mother shops several times a week.

I'm sure she's probably guilty of whatever it is that annoys you.

Oh, and she uses checks, too.

I never realized she was taking her life in her hands going to the grocery store.

It would not be a good idea to push me.