(Inspired by GailT) Question for the women

[shep]

What attracted you to your BF.SO or just companion? I am so curious how women think, what they want, what they need. Do they like men who are passive or ones that are foward, say what they want and go for it?

I just did a copy & paste & a little editing from Gail's question...

 

[EsmeraldaX]

He stood by me through a VERY difficult situation. Also, he's very funny and we have a lot in common.

 

[Breezy_Carol]

I met my husband on a blind date. I had been having some bad luck in dating and an old friend said I needed to go back to some old values I had. When I was in high school I had dated several Eagle Scouts and scouting had always been important to me. So, when my then future husband told me he was an Eagle Scout, I was hooked.

 

[Maleficent13]

Do they like men who are passive or ones that are foward, say what they want and go for it?

I don't like passive...someone who's just going to let life happen to him without taking an active role in it. I like someone who knows what they want and works to go after those goals. I also like someone who's comfortable with himself and comfortable letting me be myself. Mutual respect is a very big part of what I value in a relationship.

edited to add: I LOVE a guy who can make me laugh outloud. That is so sexy.

 

[WDWLVR]

I liked the fact that he was a very caring person. Getting to know him as a friend first I found out that he also had a lot of the same values as I did. That's what make us click.

When we were talking about getting married is when I found out I had cancer. He stood by me and took care of me through all that. That's when I knew he was truly a keeper!

15 years after meeting we're still together and things are better than ever.

 

[grinningghost]

He was very edgy and a little bit dangerous - in a sweet way. He really took the lead and immediately I could see he would take care of me like no other man. I was so right. All these years later, he's still that way.

 

[Chattyaholic]

There were three things that attracted me to my DH...

1) his warm, brown twinkling eyes

2) his beautiful smile

3) his really cool car!!

We've been married almost 29 years

The car is long, long gone...but the twinkling eyes and beautiful smile are still there!!!

 

[tkyes]

I guess I don't know exacty what it was, we were only 17 when we started dating.

I don't like passive men though. I'm too shy to ask a guy out, so I need to know that he is interested in me for sure.

My DH has a great sense of humor, he has always made me laugh!


tamie

 

[pirateofthecarolinas]

My husband has a great sense of humor. He is always the life of the party and keeps people laughing.

He is tall. I'm short and I guess I was looking for someone to give my future children any chance of height.

He is very intelligent.

He is religious, caring and compassionate.

We balance out each others strengths and weaknesses. We are complete opposites. It makes for an exciting marriage. We never agree on anything except our children. We compromise a lot.

Lori

 

[snoopy]

I like men who act like men -- nothing turns me off more than a guy who has feminine qualities -- I have plenty of girlfriends, I sure don't need one in my partner.

Yes, that means we don't always see eye to eye and communication is at times difficult, but I prefer it that way. I was just saying the other day on the pet peeve thread that one of my biggest pet peeves are men who gossip - that is just so wrong as far as I am concerned. I sure as heck don't want my man sitting around swawking with all the hens.

DH met the above criteria -- I knew he would be a strong and supportive partner, and 18 years later, I can happily say I was right.

 

[tiggersmom2]

Here is what attracted me to DH.

1. He is Gorgeous

2. He loves me more than anything and he would do anything for
me.

3. He is a kind and compassionate person

4. We have the same values and morals

 

[NMAmy]

We take care of each other. He is the most considerate man I've ever known. I've always been a caretaker (ex-husband, my daughter, and elderly parents)--it's so nice to have someone actually make an effort to take care of me. And he is very appreciative of everything I do for him and our family.

These don't have to be big things... he usually gets in our bed first while I'm tidying up, getting the kid to bed, etc. In the winter, he'll lie on my side of the bed until I get there so I won't have to climb into cold sheets. He scrapes the ice off my car before he leaves in the morning. And nothing is as romantic as a man who helps with the dishes and cooks a meal from time to time!

It sounds sappy, but he is the man I was meant to be with. He's my best friend and a wonderful stepfather to my daughter.

 

[believe]

I definitely fell in love with my DH from the inside out. He was a very affectionate husband who is willing to work as our relationship to make it the best it can be. No matter how many times I told him I didn't have time for a relationship he made compromises to make it work. He supports me in my moody times. He is willing to go anywhere with me, even if it includes a tupperware party. I don't think there is anything he wouldn't do for me. His respect for his parents and his need to honor them was a key factor since I hold the same for my parents. His willingness to understand my Faith and to grow in his Faith really helped us to grow in each other.

Of course those tender lips were the sealer of the deal

 

[CamColt]

We had fun together. We were alike in some ways and different in other ways. The likenesses were in the important things(family money, etc...) and the differences were in things that offset each other(Im the freak out type, hes the calm type, etc...). We just worked out well together.

 

[Mishetta]

What probably attracted me to my DH first was his looks! He just had that sexy Italian look! Then beyond that, he was so sweet, funny & very, very romantic!

After 10 years of marriage, he still takes such good care of me. I have not pumped gas in my own car since 1994 (he insists on doing that for me), he helps me around the house, he's a great Dad & helps me with the kids, he never wants to go out "with the guys" because he says he'd rather be home with me! He's very supportive, giving & always puts my needs & wants before his own! He makes me laugh out loud all the time & he was so loving & caring to my Mother (especially) when she was dying of cancer. He'd bring her flowers & bring her juice, fruit, anything to make her eat or drink. He let me put my Mom first when she was ill & never thought twice about it.

I guess I'd better stop, but I could probably add another 3 pages of what attracts me to my husband!! Did I mention, he's very passionate too?

 

[helenabear]

What got me first was his looks... he is just extremely good looking to me. His eyes also got me... to die for I don't like a man who is passive, but I don't like an agressive one either. I wanted an equal. He is a bit shy and was not that outgoing when he met me, but we've grown on each other over time

 

[Pooh67_68]

What attracted me to my DH... Was how he interacted with childern. I have a cousin, Michael who when he was really young would never and I mean never go to anyone, if someone even tried to talk to him he would start to cry and run away. Well one day when DH was visiting his boss my cousins dad, Michael walked right up to him and climbed in his lap and stayed there until DH left. I was verry impressed that someone so young was good with children. Also what attracted me to DH was his personality, very funny. And to be a little shallow I loved that he had blond hair and blue eyes.
My DH is very straight foreword and will tell you like it is, and I like that about him too.

 

[Ella2]

What initially attracted me were his blue eyes, broad shoulders and his height.

As I got to know him I was attracted by his dry sense of humor and the fact that we saw the world in a very similar way.

As I know him now (15 years later) I am attracted to so many more things...he is an incredibly strong, honest and loving person and I'm very lucky he's mine.

 

[makaylee]

His looks initially (see how cute he is). Then I learned he has a great sense of humor. He always makes me laugh. He's very out going and Im not so we balance each other out. The longer we're married ( 9 years now) I see things that make me love him even more. He is a great father and he always puts me first and does things he doesnt really want to just to make me happy. He would have much rather gone to Hawaii instead of going on a Disney cruise, but he took us because he knew how much I wanted to go. He would still rather go to Hawaii but as you can see we have cruise number two planned and we have not been to Hawaii yet. He bought me a very expensive Suburban even though he hates them and we only have one child with no prospects of more. I don't need that big thing I just like it so he bought me one. He always does stuff like that. He's wonderful!

 

[Disney Doll]

He had a good sense of humor, a friendly personality, I felt very comfortable with him on the first night we met, and he has beautiful blue eyes!