Inspired by Emily

[Sparx]

How come whenever someone says "I'm good at ...." they always end it with "but I'm not trying to brag or sound snobby." Or whenever someone takes a picture they're always like "Oh I'm so ugly", even when you KNOW you're not? You know you rock outloud at whatever you're good at. You know you look amazing in that picture. You know all of that....so why not say so? How come when I say "I can draw" it sounds like I'm full of myself. Is everyone so insecure in themselves that they honestly can justify thinking less of someone because they say they're good at something? I think we would all be a hundred percent happier if we stopped trying to please everyone around us, stopped thinking less of ourselves, and started saying "yeah, I'm good at this, Yeah, I'm proud of myself, etc"

Just a random thought that ran through my head. I dunno if it makes any sense to anyone else, but it makes perfect sense to me.

 

[SplshMtnLvr28]

I dunno. It probably makes them feel better about themselves.

 

[U Just Got PUNKD]

I don't know why that happens.
To me.
It happens all the time.
I always looks at my friends and they seem so prettier than me or are better then me at something.
And whenever I take a picture with them I'm like 'Oh, great whenever someone is gonna see this picture they're gonna say ohh she's so ugly.'
And they make me feel bad too.
They are always like 'You run funny' or 'At the game all you were doing was standing there' but I know they aren't trying to be mean, it just hurt my feeling. And I feel like if I tell them that it hurt my feelings they're gonna be like whatever.
So, I guess it just happens to almost everyone.

 

[Pearls]

Because they either a) dont want to sound like they're full of themselves or b) are fishing for compliments

 

[Babyjustrun]

Nine out of ten times people are fishing for compliments, looking for pity, etc.
If you want people to compliment your work, ask them if they like it.
Sure, they'll say yes either way (people don't generally say no) but maybe it doesn't sound as bad.
Don't continue as, "Are you sure?"

I honestly think:
If you KNOW you're good at something, say so.
If you'are okay, say that you are okay.
Don't say you're bad at anything, unless you really are ( and guess what, you're not. You're just not the best)

 

[pigletgirl]

Most of the time, they're fishing for your attention...btw, was this thread inspired by me?

 

[EeyoreFan1]

I'm very hard on myself, and I'm a perfectionist. I can find something bad in anything I do. When I'm proud of myself, I keep it to myself. No idea why.

 

[EeyoreFan1]

Most of the time, they're fishing for your attention...btw, was this thread inspired by me?

I think it was the other Emily. (milkabum) No idea.

 

[Sparx]

Most of the time, they're fishing for your attention...btw, was this thread inspired by me?

no, I'm sorry. I should've specified. Milkabum was the muse for this one.

I noticed the "not to sound snobby" in one of her posts. It invoked the questions.

 

[HSMndLKfan92]

I, like Jessie, am a perfectionist. I can't help it. And if I think I've excelled at something, I brag. And it annoys people.

 

[Captain Brain]

I, like Jessie, am a perfectionist. I can't help it. And if I think I've excelled at something, I brag. And it annoys people.

Like Jaimie and Jessie, I'm a perfectionist.

I can't help it.

 

[PatriotsRule]

With my writing, my art, and my perfomances, I'm a real perfectionist. Nothing I do ever seems to really reach my definition of perfect, but I think that's a good thing. I'm not easily discouraged, so instead of giving up, I just keep trying to improve. That makes me better and keeps me on top of things. I may express this when I'm showing something I've done to somebody.

When I read over something I've written, I always make changes, whether small or major. When I look at a work of art I've made, I always tweak it a bit to make improvements. When I watch performances I've done in the past, sometimes I literally squirm because I hate how I look or sound, but at the time I thought it was good.

So when I say something I've created is terrible, that's just my inner perfectionist critiquing my work, but I don't always do this. There are things I've done and made that I really am proud of, and I express that too. If I say I look horrible in a picture, I'm just poking fun at myself, I'm not being serious.

 

[GirlWithSpunk]

Just happens to all of us.
Maybe low self-esteem.

 

[WORLDwarQUIFFLE]

Because my self esteem is too low.

 

[MyHappyEnding_]

I'm usually pretty modest.

I don't like to brag because I don't want people to think I'm full of myself or a jerk.

But I'm definately not fishing for compliments.

 

[GirlWithSpunk]

I'm usually pretty modest.

I don't like to brag because I don't want people to think I'm full of myself or a jerk.

But I'm definately not fishing for compliments.

I do that too.
I feel bad if I dont.

 

[tinkerbelle22]

I'm pretty modest, but when it comes to things that make me self-conscious, I'll kinda shut up about it, unlike other people. I know I'm not skinny, but I still won't say, "I'm so fat," to feel better. I might say that about my singing voice, but I've just picked that up from everyone in our company I do hate when my friends will, right in front of a person who's not even close to their size (me), say, "Jeez, why am I so fat? Look at my stomach..." It can really make me want to dig a hole and bury myself. I wouldn't really do that though