Hi- I've been reluctant to post this, as I am just coming to terms with some of it myself. Our youngest son, Chase, has always had something different and special about him. Now at 3 we enrolled him in preschool and he has done pretty well- his speech is still unitelligible so we start the evaluation process. We knew he was excessively shy and I guess we just didn't see some of the other signs- he's the baby and I just kept thinking he would "catch up"- well reality is hitting and they are coming up with diagnoses' such as "mild" autism and selective mutism- nothing confirmed yet by doctors or specialists. Well the evaluation process is really taking its toll on both Chase and I mentally right now- One behavior specialist in particular seems so hasty and almost cruel to him- after they traumatized him to the point that he stripped down naked and was shaking in a corner while I was in another room- I asked that everything be stopped so I could comfort and settle him. It took me almost an hour to calm him down and dress him. Then today when I took him to his preschool the anxiety was all back- I was so upset after he had made so much progress in school and in seperating from me! What do you all do when you run into a situation like this with a teacher? Also does anyone have any good books or websites they can recomend? Thanks!