In a bit of a job dilemma

[Madjock]

as i look at it. we are doing a brilliant job and there isnt many people that could do or handle what we go through daily. i give myself and yourself credit and to others of same job role.

Jeannette, as Kizzy says, you both, and many others, are doing a brilliant job and I for one couldn't do it!

now it will come a time when i myself will say that i cant do it anymore or the stress of the clients is getting to me. the minute i take it home and it starts to effect me on a daily basis then you are telling yourself something. please dont continue to go on like this. it will change your whole outlook on learning disabilities. change job title. you have given so much in 5 years to these service users lifes. dont give up just change jobrole. give to someone else now

Personally, I think this says it all.

What you do is wonderful and probably means more to many than you'll ever know but it's time to put yourself first

 

[Chilly]

Dear Jeanette, sending you lots of I hope you work out what you want.

 

[Netty]

Thankyou
I am going to see the head and see if i can be moved to another class. even if the lad isnt in the class from september i still feel i have to move and have a fresh start! thankyou for all your wishes, i'll let you know what happens.
it is so nice to be able to talk about anything(within reason!!) on this forum

 

[CustardTart]

Good luck and best wishes, Jeanette! Let us know how you get on with the Head...

 

[Minniespal]

Good Luck Jeanette ~ Hope things improve for you

 

[mikki.young]

Good luck Jeanette. You are obviously a very dedicated person who has made a big difference in a lot of peoples lives. When you are feeling stressed out even trying to make decisions just adds to the stress so don't be hard on yourself because you are finding it difficult to decide. Talking to the head may well help - you may not be the first person they have had working there who has suffered in this way. I am sure they will not want to lose you if there is a way that will work for you and for them.

Meanwhile lots of

 

[Goofyish]

Good luck Netty.

My DW is a classroom assistant and has a few children in her classes that have various 'problems'. She often comes home with bruises where she been kicked, or had things thrown at her etc. - and that's with 6 year olds! God knows how you manage with older kids

There seems to be plenty of stories in the press about teachers' stress at work and the increase in violence towards teachers - but it never seems to mention the abuse and violence that classroom assistants have to put up with - for a lot less money than teachers.
Most of the time, certainly at DW's school, when a child is being disruptive in class it's the classroom assistants that have to deal with them.

 

[Netty]

Good luck Netty.

My DW is a classroom assistant and has a few children in her classes that have various 'problems'. She often comes home with bruises where she been kicked, or had things thrown at her etc. - and that's with 6 year olds! God knows how you manage with older kids

There seems to be plenty of stories in the press about teachers' stress at work and the increase in violence towards teachers - but it never seems to mention the abuse and violence that classroom assistants have to put up with - for a lot less money than teachers.
Most of the time, certainly at DW's school, when a child is being disruptive in class it's the classroom assistants that have to deal with them.

Your right Tim, most of the time its us lsa's dealing with it! Not very nice when they don't understand, but even more frustrating when they do!

 

[saratogagirl]

big hugs to you Netty, I am sorry to hear that you are having such a difficult time and that it is making your poorly, we are all here for you x

 

[Kristina]

Hang in there Jeanette, whatever you decide! I too work with these children in a respite care center for children with developmental disabilities, mostly ASD kids as of late and I've made a lot of trips to the schools and have always admired the staff for the dedicated and wonderful job they do! We have kids from very young up to 15 years old and at the moment quite a few older children, all boys as well. We have had some act out and one in particular and though it has gotten bad at times it's not as bad as what you have been through so hugs and please take care of yourself no matter what.

One idea perhaps you can take a year of leave while you try something else, just in case you change your mind?

 

[MulanFan]

aww, hugs to you, I hope it works out. I think you are doing an awsome job in helping others but you also have to do what is good for you. Good luck with your decision.