I'm apparently the bad guy (child vent ahead)

[Chocolate Cake]

I am addressing your blanket statement that all children with disabilities can be taught to behave not the OP's situation.

Why did you add the word "all"? Odd. I never said the word all.

I stand by my original statement. Children with disabilities can be taught to behave.

Your statement had nothing to do with the OP's post it only addressed children with disabilities.

My statement had everything to do with the OP's post. I know because, well.... I wrote the post addressing the OP's issue.

It isn't what the parents or the children signed up for but it is what God handed them.

I don't believe that God is in the market of strategically "handing out" disabled children to certain people.

 

[DisneyOma]

LOL. That is such an incredible stretch!! One person was irritated by children on a train, so they said something to the mother about it. Other passengers came to the defense of the mother, with one specifically saying, "it's not her fault".

I suggested that there may be other things to consider, like maybe the mother has a disability (there are many possible scenarios).

And your conclusion is that the kids should not be in her care!!!

WOW! That is harsh. I don't think it was ever stated that the kids were in any danger whatsoever. Simply that they were annoying the OP.

If the mother had a disability that kept her from being able to take of of her children, yes she shouldn't have them to raise. Just witnessed two kids taking care of their grandmother at the airport - that woman was mentally challenged and no way should have been taking a 4 year old and 10 year old on a plane. Airline staff came and assisted, thank goodness. But I responded to the disability card tossed into the conversation.

There you go. This quote is from a person that feels that the children should be removed from this mother's care if the reason for their misbehavior is at all related to a disability.

I'm not the one that said they should be removed for misbehaving. And I agree that the extreme rhetoric is ridiculous.

I happen to think there could any number of factors that led to the misbehavior. I think it is wrong to call out others parenting skills based on one episode of bad behavior.

My quote was a reply to the excuse that the kids were misbehaving because the mother had a disability and couldn't handle the kids. Do you really think it's best for kids to stay with an incompetent parent? People can pop kids out left and right, doesn't mean they are equipped to raise those kids. If a parent is too disabled to manage taking care of a child, then that child's safety and security should be taken care of first and foremost.

If anyone was thinking that I made my original statement based on the OP's scenario, they are wrong. It was based on the person who threw in the disability card.