If your son (approaching teens) wanted to pierce his ears, would you let him?

[aprilgail2]

I would have no problem at all..I loved when my godson got his first ear piercing in kindergarten....it looked so cute! He got his second around second or third grade..but once he joined the fire dept as a junior at 13 he took them out sice he couldn't go to meetings etc with them...

 

[disney1990]

Having 2 grown daughters (21 and 28) I definitely would let my son pierce his ears. There are so many battles that we as parents have to fight with our children -- drugs, alcohol, curfews, being in the car with other people that were drinking. Some battles just aren't worth fights -- especially one that has no lasting effect -- holes in ears close and long hair eventually gets cut. I learned to focus on the things that really affected my children's lives.

 

[luvsmickeymouse]

I would and I did let my boys. I also let them color their hair orange. I pick my battles. I figure if that is the worse thing they do, I am pretty lucky in this day and age. My oldest is in college and my youngest is in 10th. Both honor students.

 

[mtblujeans]

I probably would. It's not a battle I would want to fight. My dh though, is a different story...

That is what I was thinking. I would not have a problem with it but DH certainly would! I would tell DS to limit the additional holes in his head to one in each ear because that will be easier to ignore later when he is an adult and he wished he hadn't done it!

 

[disneymom3]

I think that I would let them at 12 which is the age that DD is allowed to do it. I would strongly prefer they just get one ear done--don't know why--but I think I could deal if they did both. Now, Dh I am not too sure about. He might freak.

 

[Disneymaddness]

I have 3 sons, ages 22, 19 and 13, none of them have wanted to but it would be OK if they did. There are so many things to be concerned about these days that a little hole in your ear is nothing!

 

[summerrluvv]

Nope. I don't like earrings on boys at all. When he is no longer under my roof, then that would be his own choice. There was a boy in his kindergarten class last year that had his ear pierced. It looks trashy in my opinion.

 

[bettyann29]

I pick my battles with my children.. If it were my child I would have no problems with letting him get his ears pierced.. If thats the worse thing I have to worry about, then Im doing pretty good

 

[bizeemom4]

NO. I think it's my job to allow him to have some freedom but to make sure he doesn't make a mistake that cannot be fixed. So no matter how much he begged, no way. Same for my DD and belly piercing, double ear pierces, nose rings, etc.

 

[chattyann]

My 14 year old DS has wanted to pierce his ear for the last 3 yrs. DH and I told him
when he is 16 that is his choice but till then the answer is no. He is fine with it, but I
dread the day he turns 16. LOL. I am sure he will come home sporting an earring.

 

[Lil_Tink]

(Im not a parent, but..)Yes. Many people at my school get them..Well...1..And if they dont want it they can always let them close up. I mean, girls get their ears pierced. I got my ears pierced when I was 10 and doubled when I was 13. Now I dont want anymore and am happy with what I have. Its better than some people who I have met who pierced their ears all the way up, but themselves. I mean, belly buttons and tounges no but ears, yes. Maybe if he paid for it, I remember my parents said "You can get it, if you pay for it"

 

[Lil_Tink]

I would and I did let my boys. I also let them color their hair orange. I pick my battles. I figure if that is the worse thing they do, I am pretty lucky in this day and age. My oldest is in college and my youngest is in 10th. Both honor students.

Its better then what some kids do at that age...

 

[gr8tpanther]

I don't have any sons, but if I did, they would be able to get their ear pierced if they wanted. My DD13 wants a tattoo, I have no problem with that either, but nobody will do it till she is 16.

 

[motherhen17404]

I guess I am a bad parent. I took DS to have his ear pierced last year, he was 13. It is his body, and holes do close up if he decides to take it out. Now, he knows that there will be no other piercings until he is on his own. As for tattoos, well, I got my first one at 42, and DS thinks it is gross! So I guess I don't have to worry about that.

 

[jodifla]

My parents wouldn't let me have my ears pierced. So I went on my 18th birthday and had it done.

ANd I've always held a grudge against my parents for their ridiculous decision. And I still have my pierced ears 25 years later.

 

[krcit]

My ds is only 4 right now but I think if he wanted a pierced ear at around 13 I'd let him. There was a little boy in his preschool class last year with a pierced ear and hair well past his shoulders. He was 3 I though it looked ridiculous

 

[va32h]

I have never liked wearing a lot of jewelry myself - I only wear my wedding rings and sometimes a watch. Never had my ears pierced. No moral object, just don't like jewelry.

Dd 9 does not have her ears pierced. She has never expressed any interest in doing so, and when she watched her friend get her ears pierced, she decided it looked too painful.

If my son asked to get his ears pierced - I'd say no. I just don't like the look of pierced ears on boys/men.

Hair color - fine, no big deal, hair grows back and I've been coloring my hair for years.

Tattoos - well, dh has eight tattoos so far, so I guess that tells you how our family feels about those. I wouldn't let them get tattoos when they are underage though - but once they turn 18, I expect their father would be happy to take them to get their first tattoos.

 

[klmall]

While I'm not against ear piercing in men over 18 in general I am so turned off by seeing it on all the boys here at school even if they are 14 and up.

So many of the guys have huge, fake, I'm sure, rhinestone looking studs in their ears and along with the long chain jewelry it really looks trashy to me. Guess I'm really showing my age again! Several have a second stud in also compounding the look. Since our dress code doesn't forbid "bad taste" teachers can say nothing about their choices.

And as several posters noted, I really hate seeing little toddler boys with pierced ears! What are parents thinking?

FYI - My niece who had her ears pierced as a baby has decided at 14 to let her ear holes close because she didn't ask for pierced ears and is tired of them.

Thank goodness only a handful out of almost 2000 in our suburban high school have a nose, lip or eyebrow piercing.

 

[stinkerbelle]

Yes, I would let him do it.

Of course, I'm one of those people with piercings all the way up my ear...(trust me - I've had them so long I look nekkid without them)...I'd be a hypocrite if I said no.

Heck - even my DH still has 3 holes in his ears...doesn't wear them often because he's a volunteer firefighter now...but he looks so dang cute with them in.

 

[person]

Thnx for the replies , people.

It's a custom here to stay. Even though it's their call, parents need to get used to the fact that it's a custom here to stay.

Personally, I think that values matter most: (Faith, Bible, family and so forth). So studs in ears are no big deal.