If your sister ignored DD's Graduation announcement

[annegal]

From College, would you be upset?


Would you just shrug it off?

I'm perplexed, although I do realize that an announcement does not require a gift.

I guess my feelings are a bit hurt also.

 

[DisneyDotty]

Well, if it were my sister I'd expect a card to say the least, but she and I are very close.
You're right--an announcement is just that--and a gift shouldn't be expected. But wouldn't you expect some response from a sister? What kind of relationship do the two of you have, anyway? Have you given her enough time to respond?

 

[PixieDustTink]

Maybe something came up that she hasn't talked to you about yet?? I'd discuss it with her if you can??

I'd be a little hurt for my kid that a card didn't come at all but, perhaps there was one sent? Things do go astray sometimes.

 

[diznygirl]

Maybe she's got something planned? Something on order that hasn't come in yet? Something special she wants to do?

Hard to say unless it's been about 6 months six DD graduated....

 

[kdibattista]

Maybe she never got it

 

[disney4us2002]

It has been 20 yrs since I graduated but it seems cards were still arriving into July. Perhaps she has just been busy?

 

[minkydog]

I hope my sister doesn't take it personally that I haven't mailed my nephew's graduation card. I want to put some money in it, but right now things are very tight.

On the other hand, all my siblings except 1 ignored my DS graduation--after he struggled all the way through 5yrs of HS, which included 2 psychiatric hospitalizations and a stint of leaving home, you'd think they would be proud of him Oh well. Just one of those "that's life" experiences.

Don't hold your breath and don't hold it against her. She may have good reason for not sending money. Give her the benefit of the doubt.

 

[luvdzne]

Maybe she never got it

This was my thought.

My mom has sent cards to my dds and on several occasions it has taken 2 weeks to get here and she only lives about 5 hours away. Maybe you could casually mention it to her

 

[DISUNC]

oops! I just realized I forgot to respond to my cousins son graduation!!!!!!!!!
I hpe she aint posting about me!

 

[annegal]

She e-mailed me a week ago that she had received it & I had e-mailed her that I had mailed her DD a grad card (High School)-which contained a nice check. We live several states apart & have a good relationship.

 

[kdibattista]

I would give her some more time

 

[powellrj]

Maybe May wasn't a good month for them and she was waiting until June to mail something. I know May was an awful month for us expense wise, and I am waiting until June to send out our graduation checks.

 

[inaminute]

She e-mailed me a week ago that she had received it & I had e-mailed her that I had mailed her DD a grad card (High School)-which contained a nice check. We live several states apart & have a good relationship.

Good grief! It's only been a WEEK! Give the poor woman some time.

 

[Lorix2]

I'm a little confused....does the announcement state that she is about to graduate on a certain date or does it state that she has already graduated?

 

[RobinMarie]

Maybe she is waiting for the graduation party to present the card/gift in person.

 

[helenabear]

Considering it hasn't been too long, no I wouldn't be upset.

Also, keep in mind, for some, a college degree isn't something they give any gifts for. Some people see it as unecessary and don't see the point of giving a gift or the like.

It could also be that her card is on the way and just hasn't gotten to you yet, or that what she ordered as a gift is on its way.

When I graduated from college, my gift from my brother was over 2 months late in getting to me. The place they ordered from had it on back order and I just had to wait. Not a big deal in the long run.

No matter what though, I wouldn't be upset since she acknowledged it anyway in the e-mail. Ignoring it all together would bother me, but not getting a gift.

 

[KarenAylwood]

I agree that it's only been a week... but something similar happened to me:

My dad's brother has 3 children. My dad has sent them $200 each for graduation from high school, and gave one of them a computer as well.

My dad has 3 children, 2 of which are my half siblings and they are about 10 years older than me. I am the same age as my oldest cousin. For my graduation from high school I got... NOTHING.

No card, no phone call, no check, no pat on the back, NADA, NOTHING.

My oldest cousin graduated from college the same year I did and sent out an announcement along with a letter about what had been going on in his life. My dad sent him a nice "congrats" card and no $$ since my uncle hadn't even congratulated me on 1) my graduation from high school 2) my graduation from college and 3) still hasn't said a word about my graduating with my MASTERS.

I do hold some resentment but there's no use in bringing it up- it's water under the bridge in his presence, and I don't let it get in the way of our relationship, I just don't have as much respect for him as I once did.

I might add that he's in a much worse financial situation than my parents, but still people- a card costs about $2 and a stamp is 39 cents. You have no excuse.

So in the end- yes I'd be upset if it never came, but give her more time than a week to do something about it. Heck, I'm lucky if I get out cards to people within a month of the event happening!

 

[Puffy2]

I would definately shrug it off.

Once we are in college and graduate we are big boys and girls and the usual "good for you" praises, although nice and appreciated, shouldn't really be necessary anymore, and it certainly isn't worth getting all in a lather over.

 

[annegal]

Thanks for all the replies.
You are some wise people & I tend to get hurt too easily.

 

[crz4mm2]

My sister ignored DD's HIGH SCHOOL graduation announcement. Well, I guess ignored is not the right word. She said she got it,but was going to be 'out of town' the weekend of her open house, but would bring her a 'nice gift' when she got back. Still haven't seen it and that was over a year ago.
She didn't give DS anything either. Not even a card.

I gave her DD a nice card and money (she and DS graduated the same year).
Sigh.

I feel your pain.