I was in an accident today (Car Pictures, Pg 5)

[grinningghost]

Sad, but glad you're alright.

 

[newholiday]

sorry to hear this

 

[Disney Doll]

Probably the reason the man passed out was the cause of his death more than bouncing off the windshield. Sounds like he had a stroke or something.

 

[Pop Daddy]

hey

 

[mamajoan]

Glad to hear you are AOK!

Jeff, you did a really good job sharing this experience with the DIS crew... and you did it with a tone of kindness and empathy for the elderly man whose medical mishap caused the accident....
alot of people would have been angry and pointing the finger at this man. Thank you for being one of the good guys!

 

[jfulcer]

Dilema:

His funeral is on Tueday night. I'm considering going to go pay respects.

Should I go, and not say who I am?

Should I go, and approach the family and offer condolences?

Should I not go at all?

 

[hrh_disney_queen]

I admire your thoughtfulness in attending his funeral. I personally would not want to explain my connection with the gentleman, I'm not really sure what the families reaction would be. Guilt, I don't know. I don't really know what you should do, but I wanted to let you know that I think you are a wonderful person for considering it...

I have always considered that the respects to be paid are not only for the deceased and their family, but to God. You do have a lot to be thankful for right now..

 

[Mickey's sunshine]

Jeff, it is obvious that you care enough so I would say go. As far as talking to the family I think I would play it by ear. I would go and see if it feels right or not.

{{{hugs}}}

 

[Ragmop]

I don't think you need or should go.

Sorry, but bringing up the connection you have to his accident would be very painful to the family AND put them in the position of apologizing to you for the damage that happened to your vehicle. Don't go.

 

[mom2boys]

I see nothing wrong with you going. But as others have said, it might be best that you not let the family know your connection to their loved one.

 

[BrerMom]

If you wanted to go for you, I'd say go. I wouldn't tell them why I was there, though.

Could you send a sympathy card and explain how you feel and your connection? If you contact the funeral home, I bet they'd either give you a contact address or let you mail them the card to forward.

 

[tiggersmom2]

Personally, I would not go. I see a funeral as a time of closure for the family and loved ones. I know you feel badly but I don't know how the family would react to you and I wouldn't want you to go through anymore unnecessary pain.

 

[princessariel]

Personally, if I was in your position, I would not go.

I realize you only want to pay your respects to the family because you feel bad about what happened. But put yourself in their place. They may think you want something of them. And I'm sure you wouldn't want to make them feel uncomfortable in that way in their time of grieving.

As BrerMom has already said..... Better to send a card expressing your sympathy. to you for being so caring.

 

[Poohbear123]

Go, just wait and see what happens. To you.

 

[Blondie]

Sorry, I'm just getting around now to reading this thread.

I'm sorry Jeff, you definitely had someone looking out for you on that day.

As far as going to the funeral, no, I wouldn't go. There may be family members that may hold some resentment; why are you here and he's not kind of thing. People don't always think rationally when they're grieving and lash out.

 

[FroggyinArk]

personally.. i would go, if for bo o hter reason but to provide closure for yourself and to pay respects, i would try not to approach the family, but if they approach you , just tell them you were at the accident and wanted to pay respects, truthful,, just not quiet the whole truth some time the family would like to see the survivors and llet them feel better that the gentleman didfnt hurt you anyworse, the insurance is taking care of your vehicle so they shoiuldnt be bothered by that aspect , but if they bring it up, let them know you are not holding a grudge or there for any reason other than to pay respects to someone that made an impact on your life.. pardon the pun, i would go and take it as it comes

 

[HappyMommy2]

I don't think I would go (simply because there may be family members there who, in their grief, might feel awkward around you), but I'd definitely send flowers and a nice sympathy card.

You sound like a very thoughtful and conscientious person. I'm sorry you have had to go through this ordeal. I'm glad you are safe, though!

 

[nativetxn]

How very sad. If you want to go to his funeral, just go and pay your respects. Bless.

Katholyn

 

[Dopeygirl]

I'm sorry to hear about the accident but I'm glad you're okay. And I'm sorry to hear about the driver.

I would probably go to the funeral but leave out your connection. If asked, I would probably say something to the effect of "Just someone who was touched by ______'s life" and leave it at that.

 

[Kallison]

I wouldn't go -- send a sympathy card and explain your connection that way. Like someone else said people don't always think rationally. My neighbor was in an accident where the man had a heart attack and ran a stop sign, he hit the car and the man died. He was in a major lawsuit. I also agree it would just be a painful reminder.