i want to ask my aunt for a date

[sunnyday123]

she is my aunt through marriage. she is getting a divorce from my uncle. they will be divorce in march. she is only 4 years older than me. i have always liked her. the whole family still loves her, and they should shes a great women and the divorce is all my uncles fault as he cheated on her. i am just recently singled now myself. do you think i should wait until the divorce is final before i ask her? do you think i should tell my uncle first? if i ask her and she says no, at least i know i wont have to be wondering what if. i been posting here for a little over 5 years just had to start a new name for this post for obvious reasons. i know someone is going to ask what if he want to date my old girlfriend,it will be ok with me.if i wait the almost three months for the divorce to become final she might meet another man before than, than i will be too late.

I think this bothers me the most. Well, that and ending up Cousin Daddy.

 

[punkin]

I'm my own grandpa! I'm my own grandpa!

It sounds funny, I know, but it really is so!

Oh, I'm my own grandpa!

 

[shouldiask]

I know i shouldnt ask her,maybe I will maybe I wont ask her. As I stated before I dont want to go through life wondering what if. I know it does sounds sick of me for thinking this,but I have always liked her shes a great lady.

 

[MrsJackSparrow4Life]

It doesn't sound sick...it is sick. I can almost guarantee you, if you ask her out you will not only lose her (while totally creeping her out) you will lose a good chunk of your family as well.

 

[shouldiask]

I could ask her to move in with me not letting on that I like her. they are losing their house either one of them is not going to be able to keep the house they are so far in debt. they are filing for bankrupty (sorry i know its spelled wrong) she will have to rent a house or apartment. I live in the same township that she does. that way the kids will be able to go to the same schools. theres not too many houses for rent in the township. Than I could slowly start coming on to her.

 

[Magic Mom]

I could ask her to move in with me not letting on that I like her. they are losing their house either one of them is not going to be able to keep the house they are so far in debt. they are filing for bankrupty (sorry i know its spelled wrong) she will have to rent a house or apartment. I live in the same township that she does. that way the kids will be able to go to the same schools. theres not too many houses for rent in the township. Than I could slowly start coming on to her.

That sounds like a healthy honest way to begin a relationship.

 

[Cinderella94]

This is sad and insane.

 

[Laura24]

I should of said this before but he is only a half uncle. my mom and him have the same mother but not the same father. so technically she is only a half aunt and the girls are only half cousins. I do think of my uncle and all of them as being fully related thou. so does this make it better or is it still bad to ask?

It just keeps geting better as the saga goes along.

 

[kaytieeldr]

Oh, I definitely think she *should* pass on this little bit of gossip. It's gonna be the biggest scandal in your family history. And for the record, bad behavior isn't limited to "people in the south", as you imply.

In fairness to shouldiask, someone else on the first page of this thread made the initial reference to the South - something about banjos. Let's not vilify the OP for his comment without also criticizing that other poster for stereotyping, okay?

 

[snowywhite89]

If this is a real post then she is off limits.

You want your cousins to be your step-kids? Now that is awkward.

 

[kaytieeldr]

I could ask her to move in with me not letting on that I like her. they are losing their house either one of them is not going to be able to keep the house they are so far in debt. they are filing for bankrupty (sorry i know its spelled wrong) she will have to rent a house or apartment. I live in the same township that she does. that way the kids will be able to go to the same schools. theres not too many houses for rent in the township. Than I could slowly start coming on to her.

Not if you want ANY chance of a relationship with her AFTER the divorce. You're going to offer her a place to live, seemingly with no strings attached as far as she knows, while WE know you're attracted to her? No way, pal. I was sort of on your side - before this.

Now? Forget about it. You just BLEW IT. Big time.

 

[wdwmom0f3]

Don't even go there. Someone your age should know better. This is wrong on so many levels.

I totally agree with this.

 

[DaParkers]

In fairness to shouldiask, someone else on the first page of this thread made the initial reference to the South - something about banjos. Let's not vilify the OP for his comment without also criticizing that other poster for stereotyping, okay?

Ok. In that case, to everyone that has something negative to say about the South............A fight come with that.

 

[dislaney]

I know i shouldnt ask her,maybe I will maybe I wont ask her. As I stated before I dont want to go through life wondering what if. I know it does sounds sick of me for thinking this,but I have always liked her shes a great lady.

You know I think my uncle is a great person but I would never date him. To me it would be like - oh I don't know, dating my father or brother almost. It's just not done.

 

[shouldiask]

You know I think my uncle is a great person but I would never date him. To me it would be like - oh I don't know, dating my father or brother almost. It's just not done.

but its my aunt not blood related. being blood related will absolutely be sick. she is my aunt by marriage and only half aunt.

 

[terribm]

On a lighter note...this reminds me of the best selling greeting card in WV...HAPPY BIRTHDAY, UNCLE DADDY. Sorry, I couldn't resist.

PS. Please forgive me, mountaineers and Go Pack.

 

[smb6]

Well, it sounds like your mind is made up.... She is not blood related, so I don't think it's sick. Wierd- yes. Sick-no. I personally think going through a divorce is different than being divorced- so if you date her while she is still technically married- then she is now cheating like your uncle did! JMO. If your worried she will meet someone else- you could share your feelings with her, but hold off on being in a relationship until the divorce is final. So- go tell her and come back and tell us what she said

 

[shouldiask]

thanks everyone for your honest opinions. Im going to go watch some football now. I will probaly come back here tomorrow to see the new posts.

 

[pixiechick]

I could ask her to move in with me not letting on that I like her. they are losing their house either one of them is not going to be able to keep the house they are so far in debt. they are filing for bankrupty (sorry i know its spelled wrong) she will have to rent a house or apartment. I live in the same township that she does. that way the kids will be able to go to the same schools. theres not too many houses for rent in the township. Than I could slowly start coming on to her.

Dude, I totally think this would work for you. I know I would fall for your sweet talk.

And nothing says smooth like coming onto your cousins' mother while living in the same house!

 

[Jennasis]

I could ask her to move in with me not letting on that I like her. they are losing their house either one of them is not going to be able to keep the house they are so far in debt. they are filing for bankrupty (sorry i know its spelled wrong) she will have to rent a house or apartment. I live in the same township that she does. that way the kids will be able to go to the same schools. theres not too many houses for rent in the township. Than I could slowly start coming on to her.

thanks everyone for your honest opinions. Im going to go watch some football now. I will probaly come back here tomorrow to see the new posts.

Please do!