I think I will stop dating for a while...

[BarryHom]

The last date broke the camel on the straw's back. The person wrote a few e-mails and never did again. This always happens to me. They seem to be interested, but after a few e-mails or phone calls, I get no replies. I tried to do follow-up "How have you been?" messages, but no replies to those either.

So I've decided to temporarily retire from dating. I think I've been trying too hard. I've used the personals and failed miserably. I tried to meet people in person, but no luck at that. I even had an interest towards some people here, but no luck either.

I won't be working so hard to find someone. If someone does come along and it's right, I might date again. For right now, though, it's time to concentrate on me. Maybe I ought to spend more time on roller coasters. At least we both will love each other.

 

[browneyes]

How sad. Maybe you'll meet your dream lady tomorrow. Good luck.

 

[olena]

Poor Barry......*HUGS*

 

[TigerBear]

Trying too hard never helps. I bet you will meet her one day - here's to hoping its sooner and not later.

 

[vickyBaby]

Awww Barry. You are such a sweetie. The right girl is out there. Don't try so hard and you will find her or she will find you

 

[A kid at heart]

That song keeps running thru my head, Looking for love in all the wrong places, looking for love in too many places...........

 

[JasonLyons]

women are bad, thats when there really good

 

[Saffron]

Uh oh Barry! As soon as you take time for yourself, as soon as you start doing the things you want to do, as soon as you start planning things that don't include someone, as soon as the last thing on your mind is dating ................ you'll meet her! LOL!! That's what seems to happen!!

 

[WDWHound]

I know what you are feeling. Your dating life sounds like most of my dating life. I wasn't looking when I found my wife. We were both working a haunted house when we met. It took me completely off gaurd becuase I had given up on looking for a date. One day earlier I would have told you there was no one out there for me.

The standard advice (and I know I got very sick of hearing it) is true. Relax, be yourself and try not to try too hard. I know its hard to beleive today, but it really could all change tomorrow.

 

[Dan Murphy]

Just letting you know I wish you my best, buddy. Don't give up. Looking forward to seeing you in December, Barry.

 

[Mickey's sunshine]

Aww, I am sorry Barry. Like the others say, dont give up your lady is out there. One day you will find her, and yes I hope that it will be soon. Just go out and have some fun, you will find her when you least expect it. Good luck. {{hugs}} You can always hang out with us crazy Tampa girls till you find the right one. Wait, we are all coaster chickens. Maybe that is not such a good idea.

 

[Disney Doll]

Barry, I met my DH when I was absolutely NOT looking!!!!! I had been through a difficult relationship with a guy and we had broken up about a year prior to my meeting DH. That whole year, I hung out with my friends, travelled and did what I wanted to do. A friend had DH and I over, I was just looking for a fun evening, and here we are 14 years later(11 of them married!). Make your life, and someone will join you in it when the time is right.

 

[A kid at heart]

Have you checked to make sure that you're doing things right? Like showering before the date? Using a good deoderant, brushing your teeth? Not putting on too much of that cologne? If you're not doing these things, that can turn a woman off ya know!
LOL

 

[EROS]

Barry, my sources tell me that HEIDI is going to be coming through Florida soon. She LOVES fast rollercoasters and a slooooooooooow touch ........

 

[shep]

OMG...EROS posted a fully clothed woman..
Maybe this is a sign Barry..

 

[JohnTBap]

LOL WAGS!!!!

 

[catsrule]

It will happen when you least expect it.

 

[TIGGERSMOM]

Baryy - Someday your princess will come.

Hang in there. Enjoy your friends and relax. Right when you least expect it there she will be.

 

[Boo'sMom]

Hang in there Barry...when you're not looking....POWWWWWWW

 

[Jeff in BigD]

Barry - I believe you may have the wrong MO when it comes to dealing with women. At the end of the date give them the standard line of "I had a great time & I'll call them." Don't call for a 7-10 days. They'll be iritated that you haven't called before, yet intrigued that you aren't falling all over yourself for them.

Calling the very next day or two seems a little needy or clingy & that's never a good thing. I'm not saying to be rude or aloof, but don't let them think that they're the primary focus of your life. This is important for 2 reasons: 1 - it lets them know right off the bat that you have a sense of self-worth & won't be taken advantage of or walked all over; 2 - if things don't work out they won't think you'll be so upset that you'll do a swan dive off of the nearest sky scraper.

I went through a period of non-dating & while I did have more energy to focus on creative things & learned a lot about myself, I was also very lonely. Monks could use that time in my life as a model & there were more then a few opprotunities I missed because I was totally out of the looking mindset & was oblivious. While I do think it's a good idea to not constantly think about it or go to every place looking for "the one", it's still important to keep your eyes open - just in case.