I really need to decompress....

[phorsenuf]

Lately I have been under a tremendous amount of stress. Stress and me are a very bad combination. I get sick, literaly.

My son is in Afghanistan and worry constantly about him. He's due to come home in September for 2 week leave and we planned to go for a week to Disney with him and his fiancee that is flying in from Germany. This will be our first time meeting her. My MIL decides to invite herself along on this vaction. I told her we would like at least a few days to get to know FDIL before she shows up. I thought maybe she'd take the hint and decide to not go, she chose to come the day after us.
Then my DS tells us that R&R's have been getting delayed and changed around so it would be best not to go to Disney and lets do it instead when he comes home for a month in February.
In the meantime I asked DH about the 2 of us running off to florida for a little couples time. Since my oldest son will be around to watch the younger ones before he leaves in the beginning of June, I thought now would be a good time since DH is slow at work at all. No can do, he wanted to make sure nothing messed up the September trip with my DS. Well, that's cancelled now, so why can't we go??? We own points down there, why not use them??
My dad went in for triple by-pass, the ended up doing 5. He's home and doing fine now though. He and I are very close and this is the second time we have had a major health scare.
My health has been going downhill and I really just need some time to decompress. Why doesn't he get that? He knows I'm stressed but when I try to talk with him he just doesn't get what I'm saying and then reads other things into it. Then he complains I don't talk to him about things.
I know there is nothing anyone here can do, but I really just needed to unload I guess.
Thanks for putting up with my moaning an groaning. LOL

 

[Cantw8]

Will this help????

 

[Christine]

Cathy,

I understand completely. It is so frustrating to be "one of those people" with whom stress affects physically. I am one of them and my DH is not. Sometimes he just shakes his head at me. He doesn't understand that all the stress really just makes me ill. I guess everyone deals with stress in their own way and I can understand that but WHY CAN'T THEY EMPATHIZE WITH MY WAY????

I hope you get your trip. I know that the only place I start to feel "human" again, is on a Disney trip.

 

[escape]

More hugs.

We all need to vent every now and then. Otherwise, we'd go completely

 

[phorsenuf]

Cathy,

I understand completely. It is so frustrating to be "one of those people" with whom stress affects physically. I am one of them and my DH is not. Sometimes he just shakes his head at me. He doesn't understand that all the stress really just makes me ill. I guess everyone deals with stress in their own way and I can understand that but WHY CAN'T THEY EMPATHIZE WITH MY WAY????

I hope you get your trip. I know that the only place I start to feel "human" again, is on a Disney trip.

Maybe you and I should go together. I've always thought how much you and I are alike. I bet we'd have a blast! LOL

The thing I like about Disney is it so easy to get lost from the world and sometimes that's exactly what you need to do. He's not a Disney fanatic but he never wants to go anywhere else I suggets. He has no desire to go to Vegas or NYC or anywhere else exciting. I just wish he'd "get it".

 

[diznygirl]

Sorry you are having a rough time. Maybe a day at the spa?
Or, maybe the Ladie's Only Disney trip...... that's at the end of September I believe.....
At the very least, I recommend a glass of wine before before bed.

Hope you feel better!

 

[4nana]

((big hugs)) Kathy,

Sending prayers your way. Vent all you need here to your Dis friends, honey we've all been there in some form or fashion. Sorry you have had so much stress to deal with and hope you get that much needed break with your family. Could you convince your DH to go away for a short much needed decompression wk end?

Godspeed your son and all our brave soldiers in harm's way. Know the toll that alone can take . Our soldier and wife are expecting their first baby soon and sadly he has rec'd orders to reploy to Iraq again late summer, so I feel your pain . It's easier said than done, but I try hard to think positive, keep the faith ^i^ and assure myself that this too shall pass.

 

[laura001]

Wishing you some stress free time.

 

[we3disneygo]

 

[Marseeya]

I'm sorry, Cathy.

I'm not handling my life very well right now either, and like you, it affects me physically. I can't eat or sleep, and I feel lousy. I'm near tears all the time and I'm not crying over what IS wrong, but things unrelated are making me cry.

I hope things get better for you.

 

[Pooh67_68]

 

[SillyMe]

It sounds like a vacation or even a mini-vacation would be great medicine for you right now.

Apparently, I'm also one of those people who gets sick when stressed. I never get sick. I've had one thing right after another for the past 2-3 months. I guess the stress is catching up with me.

 

[Mackey Mouse]

Big hugs Cathy..

Just thinking out loud here, what about taking a mini break for yourself... Go away somewhere and be pampered.....sleep as late as you want, maybe have some spa treatments.

Hey when I feel down and out, I go shopping, that is therapy for me.

 

[mickeyboat]

Man, Cathy, it sure does sound like you could use a little break. Maybe if you can't talk your DH into Disney, you could find something closer for a long weekend. Sometimes just a short change in scenery can give you renewed energy.

How far away are you from Burlington? It's still a little chilly, but we love Burlington - the VT Teddy Bear Co. is a fun place to tour, and the Lake Champlain Waterfront is pretty neat.

Your doctor's appointment is coming right up, isn't it? Good luck!

I just got back from a weekend away, and already I feel like I could use another one - I am having a rotten week at work.

Hope you are feeling better soon.

Denae

 

[lovemygoofy]

Hi Cathy, I hope things get better for you soon. I'm also someone who gets sick from stress but I just let it build up until it almost takes over. Do something to get away even if its just a day trip to a nice hotel or a spa like someone else mentioned. I know that your son's deployment isnt even half over but you can't let it eat you alive. Just keep thinking that most of the time its not as bad as the news likes ot make it. Plan your disney trip and "accidently" tell your MIL the wrong dates Hope you are better soon

 

[phorsenuf]

Man, Cathy, it sure does sound like you could use a little break. Maybe if you can't talk your DH into Disney, you could find something closer for a long weekend. Sometimes just a short change in scenery can give you renewed energy.

How far away are you from Burlington? It's still a little chilly, but we love Burlington - the VT Teddy Bear Co. is a fun place to tour, and the Lake Champlain Waterfront is pretty neat.

Your doctor's appointment is coming right up, isn't it? Good luck!

I just got back from a weekend away, and already I feel like I could use another one - I am having a rotten week at work.

Hope you are feeling better soon.

Denae

My appointment was supposed to be last friday and they changed it to the 28th of April. I was not happy about that, but what can you do. I just keep getting worse everyday and its scary.

I don't really want to go away by myself. My Dh and I haven't been away alone for 13 years since I suprised him with a 10th anniversary trip to the mountains. I thought us getting away together would be a good time to talk and just enjoy each others company. Silly me. LOL

I'm at work right now but I'd really prefer to go home. My DS just sent me a text message saying his Fafsa was due on March 1st, not May 1st like the Fafsa website says. But of course he never told me about the March date so now another thing to add to my list.....

 

[kimmikayb]

I'm right there with you! My DH doesn't get it either. I hope it gets better.