I need the advice of other parents please

[mogwoi]

The couple living next to our house have a daughter younger than our girl (by about 2 years). The two girls sometimes play togheter but they don' t particularly get along well. My daughter wanted to invite some of her friends for a special late night of movies and popcorn. It was a small party, she invited 3 of her friens but did not invite this particular neighbor, because she did not get along with those friends either. Her father heard about the party and came to me saying I had not right not to invite her daughter to the party. He was very nasty to say the least. We had troubles in the past with the parents of this girl but tried our best to be polite with them. We now fell that enough is enough. I would like to know what will you do in a situation like that?

 

[Lucky4me]

I would ignore the father if possible but let the girls decide to work things out for themselves. And I probably wouldn't let my daughter play at their house. Sounds like the Dad may be a bit ustable.

 

[jfulcer]

IMHO...

You are not responsible for entertaining your neighbors children. You had a party with your daughter, she was allowed a certain number of other children to be invited and the neighbor's didn't make the cut. Too bad!

If your neighbors have a problem with it, it's their problem and not yours. It sounds as if your DD already has started to not want to play with this other girl, so my guess is she's going to be around less and less. Don't sweat it. I think that in a short time, you won't be seeing any more of this neighbor.

Good luck!

 

[Serena]

That neighbor was totally out of line. You daughter has every right to invite who she wants to invite to her little party.
His daughter may very well need friends, but your daughter doesn't have to be one.

Do what you want.

 

[Blondie]

How tacky!

If my kids were left off an invitation list, I'd never think of gonig to the parents to complain about it!

I'd probably think that they couldn't afford to have "x" amount of kids and had to draw the line somewhere!

How rude of some people! What is wrong with people today? I'd stay away from this guy....sounds like he's not playing with a full deck!

 

[mogwoi]

Thank you very much for your reply. I feel SO bad about the whole situation. I guess I will just ignore the father the best I could. That is probably the best I could do anyway.

 

[dedala]

Something similar happened at my sons 4th bday party we live on a new dead end street (only 4 houses) in one of the houses live a couple wh don't really "bother" with the rest of us. The day of his party we saw them (young w/ no kids) and said "hey come on over" since we are always all outside talking and we all have motorcycles, the other house has a 5 year old daughter who always plays with my son & whom I babysit on occasion anyhoo....

The day after the party I was outside cleaning up firework rements when the other neighbor comes over & balls me out for not inviting them,,,,,,, meanwhile they NEVER come out when we are all outside together......


NERVY!!!!!!

 

[dedala]

Something similar happened at my sons 4th bday party we live on a new dead end street (only 4 houses) in one of the houses live a couple wh don't really "bother" with the rest of us. The day of his party we saw them (young w/ no kids) and said "hey come on over" since we are always all outside talking and we all have motorcycles, the other house has a 5 year old daughter who always plays with my son & whom I babysit on occasion anyhoo....

The day after the party I was outside cleaning up firework rements when the other neighbor comes over & balls me out for not inviting them,,,,,,, meanwhile they NEVER come out when we are all outside together......


NERVY!!!!!!

 

[believe]

Sounds like the parents may be the issue....their DD can't have everything she wants.
I would just act like it never happened. If he was to approach again, then I would probably have to tell him the issue 'nicely'.

 

[kinlaw6450]

It's not your place to make sure his daughter has friends. Obviously if she doesn't get along well with the girls...why invite her? I think you did the right thing!