I need some serious help.

[MACUSER]

I haven't changed who I am. He knows I am a New Moon, Michael Jackson, Twilighted obsessive freak. He knows I want to work at Disney World when I grow up. He know I can't leave the house without makeup. He knows everything except the fact that I am not allowed to date. I don't see how that changed me as a person.


Should have, would have, could have... really gets me nowhere. I made the wrong decision. It's understood.

Still you were not a 100% honest with him not being able to date is part of you weather you like it or not and pretending is just that pretending . so what to say he is not pretending or telling you a story since you are

 

[disneyworldluvr349]

he should respect you enough to not text you when he is not supposed to. but then you would have to tell him the truth why you got in trouble so he understands why he can't text at certain times

better than not at all plus school and homework comes first plus texting ever minute of a math class you have a c in and then telling your parents you get help durning class is probably not the smartest thing to do .

sounds like you not sure if he is worth giving everything up

I am not understand what isn't registering. I have already lost everything and have no more to give up.
I won't take an "F" in choir and never talk to him again. Which already looses makeup, choir, straightner, concerts, New Moon, and everything else.
I lost half of that for lying anyways.

It seems like my father gives a little only to enjoy getting it taken away.

 

[disneyworldluvr349]

Still you were not a 100% honest with him not being able to date is part of you weather you like it or not and pretending is just that pretending . so what to say he is not pretending or telling you a story since you are

He could very well be telling me a story I would deserve nothing less I suppose.

 

[MACUSER]

I am not understand what isn't registering. I have already lost everything and have no more to give up.
I won't take an "F" in choir and never talk to him again. Which already looses makeup, choir, straightner, concerts, New Moon, and everything else.
I lost half of that for lying anyways.

It seems like my father gives a little only to enjoy getting it taken away.

it seems like you only like to have things taken away since you don't like to do things the right way. if you don't want something taken away don't sneak hid lie be up front honest and mature and then maybe there would be no reason to take anything away

 

[disneyworldluvr349]

Still not that big of a deal. I could think of a billion lies (exaggeration, I don't know that many lies) that are worse. It's probably the least hurtful lie I could think of. I doubt he'll even be hurt by it, I doubt he'll even care.


If you can't reason with your parents, if you have tried everything possible to get this to work out, the only thing you can do is deal with it. Put on a grin, push through school and then move out. If he's not there waiting on the other end, there are 6 billion other people in this world. There's no use being sad, there's no use worrying if he'll be there, there's no use to have any feelings except excitement because you'll almost be done with it all.

Obviously if you've tried to talk to your parents and they're not giving in, there's no use in wanting something that you won't be able to have. You can be mad about it, and be sad about it, but if they're still saying no, there's nothing you can do until you're out of there.

This is what I would do.

Thanks for all of your advice.

 

[disneyworldluvr349]

it seems like you only like to have things taken away since you don't like to do things the right way. if you don't want something taken away don't sneak hid lie be up front honest and mature and then maybe there would be no reason to take anything away

Once again should have would have could have.
I already chose the wrong way. Now I get to be miserable and have nothing.

 

[MACUSER]

I would rather be allowed to have a relationship. I would rather after 17 years have my parents give a little. I would rather them understand that I am growing up and that I want to be with him.

maybe you should have shown them you have grown up by being up front and honest and asking there permission instead of going behind there back and sneaky how does that show you are gowing up

 

[disneyworldluvr349]

maybe you should have shown them you have grown up by being up front and honest and asking there permission instead of going behind there back and sneaky how does that show you are gowing up

Well it's a little late for that.

 

[MACUSER]

The advice I am getting from this is to honest with this boy. If I am honest than what? I still have lost everything.

So I am immature and irrational. Yay.

seems like you have gotten a lot of good advise and most of it seems to be honest with him and he has the same feeling as you then he will wait

 

[disneyworldluvr349]

seems like you have gotten a lot of good advise and most of it seems to be honest with him and he has the same feeling as you then he will wait

I obviously don't want to wait.

 

[::Snow_White::]

Thanks for all of your advice.

I honestly wish you the best of luck with your situation. Life isn't fair, all the time. If it does come to you having to wait until you're out of school, you'll have something to look forward to. Just because you get an F in a class, just because you don't have makeup, just because you have to wait 6 months for a guy, just because you don't have a straightener, just because you get everything taken away doesn't mean that your life has to be miserable. If you choose to be happy and look forward to the future, the next few months will seem like nothing. You've lived with it for 17 1/2 years, the next 6 months is nothing.

 

[MACUSER]

I obviously don't want to wait.

that does not seem very mature and when you do you accept the fact that you went about this all wrong and that by doing that you don't get want you want. you have to earn trust you lost. showing your mature enough to wait takes a lot of growing up and it hard but if it is meant to be it will be 3 months. But you have to start with the truth and build a foundation a foundation can not be built on lies .

 

[MACUSER]

Well it's a little late for that.

then have you really grown up

 

[MACUSER]

Once again should have would have could have.
I already chose the wrong way. Now I get to be miserable and have nothing.

and who's fault is that

 

[DramaQueen]

as someone who COMPLETELY understand where you're coming from, and someone who also agrees that you should live your life without regrets, i'm gonna have to jump in here and defend you lol.

we are all teenagers here, we all lie to our parents, we are all sneaky, we are all immature, we all have bad attitudes, that's part of being a teenager. you get in fights with your parents, it happens. (by all, i mean most, because i'm suuuure someone on here will have never lied to etc, but most of us do!)

i don't think you're doing anything out of the ordinary here. relationships are part of growing up and being a teenager, and i agree that your parents are being much to restrictive, you're almost 18 and to have all those restrictions on you at this point in your life in kiiiind of ridiculous IMHO. i

don't know what to tell you about your parents, it sounds like you don't want to lie and go behind their backs anymore, which is really good for you (better than what i would do ).

but in regards to your bf i would explain everything to him.
i'm sure he'll be understanding, and a bf is someone that you should be able to go to in times like this, i bet he'll be a shoulder to cry on rather than someone whose gonna judge you for 'lying', the lie you told him, to ME, is very forgivable.

but honestly, i definitely understand where you're coming from, i've been majorly infatuated with guys before and would've given up ANYTHING to be with them, even if it meant going behind my parents back.
call me selfish, call me immature, but i'm a teenager, that's what we do!

sounds like you have a lot of thinking, explaining and rationalizing to do, i would honestly try talking to your parents, it sounds like they're really strict, but it can't hurt to try, right?

 

[imabrat]

I know need to tell him. But I don't want to he will be so hurt and I don't want to hurt him.

I am selfish and I don't want to wait, I would rather text him for the little time I am allowed to than never be able to talk to him again.

But you will let him hurt you, like he's doing now? You ARE hurting, whether you think so or not. It doesn't seem like he's willing to wait for you. You may think otherwise, because love does strange things to people, but this relationship is not worth fighting for. You are almost 18, you have your WHOLE life ahead of you to find "what's meant to be".



And just as a footnote to anyone, the word is ADVICE. Not ADVISE. You may advise someone with advice, but you cannot give advise.

 

[disneyworldluvr349]

as someone who COMPLETELY understand where you're coming from, and someone who also agrees that you should live your life without regrets, i'm gonna have to jump in here and defend you lol.

we are all teenagers here, we all lie to our parents, we are all sneaky, we are all immature, we all have bad attitudes, that's part of being a teenager. you get in fights with your parents, it happens. (by all, i mean most, because i'm suuuure someone on here will have never lied to etc, but most of us do!)

i don't think you're doing anything out of the ordinary here. relationships are part of growing up and being a teenager, and i agree that your parents are being much to restrictive, you're almost 18 and to have all those restrictions on you at this point in your life in kiiiind of ridiculous IMHO. i

don't know what to tell you about your parents, it sounds like you don't want to lie and go behind their backs anymore, which is really good for you (better than what i would do ).

but in regards to your bf i would explain everything to him.
i'm sure he'll be understanding, and a bf is someone that you should be able to go to in times like this, i bet he'll be a shoulder to cry on rather than someone whose gonna judge you for 'lying', the lie you told him, to ME, is very forgivable.

but honestly, i definitely understand where you're coming from, i've been majorly infatuated with guys before and would've given up ANYTHING to be with them, even if it meant going behind my parents back.
call me selfish, call me immature, but i'm a teenager, that's what we do!

sounds like you have a lot of thinking, explaining and rationalizing to do, i would honestly try talking to your parents, it sounds like they're really strict, but it can't hurt to try, right?

Thank you for defending me. I think I need to spend time talking with them.

and who's fault is that

Mine.

then have you really grown up

I have grown, which is why it is getting harder to keep me from everything I want.

that does not seem very mature and when you do you accept the fact that you went about this all wrong and that by doing that you don't get want you want. you have to earn trust you lost. showing your mature enough to wait takes a lot of growing up and it hard but if it is meant to be it will be 3 months. But you have to start with the truth and build a foundation a foundation can not be built on lies .

I know I went about this all wrong. I know I have to be honest with Connor. It's not easy and it will break my heart because I don't want to have to not spend time with him. How will it be in 3 months? It's 8 months until I am 18.

I honestly wish you the best of luck with your situation. Life isn't fair, all the time. If it does come to you having to wait until you're out of school, you'll have something to look forward to. Just because you get an F in a class, just because you don't have makeup, just because you have to wait 6 months for a guy, just because you don't have a straightener, just because you get everything taken away doesn't mean that your life has to be miserable. If you choose to be happy and look forward to the future, the next few months will seem like nothing. You've lived with it for 17 1/2 years, the next 6 months is nothing.

Thanks

 

[disneyworldluvr349]

But you will let him hurt you, like he's doing now? You ARE hurting, whether you think so or not. It doesn't seem like he's willing to wait for you. You may think otherwise, because love does strange things to people, but this relationship is not worth fighting for. You are almost 18, you have your WHOLE life ahead of you to find "what's meant to be".



And just as a footnote to anyone, the word is ADVICE. Not ADVISE. You may advise someone with advice, but you cannot give advise.

I am assuming he won't wait. I haven't given him the chance to see if he will.

 

[MACUSER]

I have grown, which is why it is getting harder to keep me from everything I want.

you feel you have grown you should trying show people how you have grown and not show them how you have not.

I know I went about this all wrong. I know I have to be honest with Connor.

you have to be honest with someone and if it was the person i was going to spend the rest of my life with i would be dam sure to be honest with them .

It's not easy and it will break my heart because I don't want to have to not spend time with him. How will it be in 3 months? It's 8 months until I am 18.

If you think life is easy and that you'll never have your heart broken you have a lot of growing up to do

 

[disneyworldluvr349]

you feel you have grown you should trying show people how you have grown and not show them how you have not.


you have to be honest with someone and if it was the person i was going to spend the rest of my life with i would be dam sure to be honest with them .


If you think life is easy and that you'll never have your heart broken you have a lot of growing up to do

Did you not fall in love when you were just half a year older than me? Did you not decide that marrying her was more important than anything else? Or your honestly with your family? Was it not worth it?

I have been living like a prisoner my whole life I for sure know that life isn't easy.