I need some serious help.

Did you not fall in love when you were just half a year older than me? Did you not decide that marrying her was more important than anything else? Or your honestly with your family? Was it not worth it?

I have been living like a prisoner my whole life I for sure know that life isn't easy.

if you want to get married at 18 nobody can stop you that is your choice and the key 18 not 17. If I had a dollar every one that was married 18 and divorced i would be a multimillionaire if i had to give back 10.00 for everyone that was married at 18 and still married 18years later I would still be a multimillionaire
 

if you want to get married at 18 nobody can stop you that is your choice and the key 18 not 17. If I had a dollar every one that was married 18 and divorced i would be a multimillionaire if i had to give back 10.00 for everyone that was married at 18 and still married 18years later I would still be a multimillionaire

That wasn't my point. You loved her and decided she was worth everything to you. Nothing would stop you. If you had met her and where the same age as me are you saying that would have changed everything? You wouldn't do anything you can to be with her?
 
That wasn't my point. You loved her and decided she was worth everything to you. Nothing would stop you. If you had met her and where the same age as me are you saying that would have changed everything? You wouldn't do anything you can to be with her?
when you are 18 nobody is telling you what to do so if you want to marry someone that is you choice if i was not 18 i would have had to wait because you can't get married with out parent permission
 
when you are 18 nobody is telling you what to do so if you want to marry someone that is you choice if i was not 18 i would have had to wait because you can't get married with out parent permission

she's not saying she wants to get married for goodness' sakes! she just likes this guy a lot. as someone who fell in love at the age of 17, and is still with the same guy, i would have not let anything stopped me from being with him. so again robin, i get it. i know you're not saying you want to be with him for the rest of your life, but right NOW it's really important to you. and it's sucky that you're parents don't see that. :(
 
That wasn't my point. You loved her and decided she was worth everything to you. Nothing would stop you. If you had met her and where the same age as me are you saying that would have changed everything? You wouldn't do anything you can to be with her?

I was out on my own living in my own apt over 18. i am not sure what your point is. we dated not just texted she moved in to my apt before we got married. I was not a child in high school.

to say you willing to give up every for someone you never talked in private face to face text is different. you are not even sure if you tell him the truth that he will wait. I think you need to take one step at a time and slow way down before jumping to conclusions. I think you need to get to know someone before saying what you are saying
 
when you are 18 nobody is telling you what to do so if you want to marry someone that is you choice if i was not 18 i would have had to wait because you can't get married with out parent permission

I'm not wanting to get married at 17. I am wanting a chance to be with someone I care about.

You wouldn't have waited to date her if you had the same kind of parents. When you find someone who accepts your flaws, cares about you, and wants to be with you (in your case your wife) you would do anything to be with them. You may say I am foolish or immature but I can guarantee you would have done the same thing. Don't tell me you haven't betrayed your family to be with her.
 
Speaking from someone who is a bit older, you and your parents need to be on the same page when it comes to your boyfriend. Also, it sounds as though you need to have your priorties straight as well. If your boyfriend doesn't know those your relationship will suffer. You gotta say to him, "hey dude, you know we need to figure out a few things for this relationship to work. I need to speak to my parents before/if we continue."

All your parents want is the best for you, and maybe they know that you aren't right.
 
she's not saying she wants to get married for goodness' sakes! she just likes this guy a lot. as someone who fell in love at the age of 17, and is still with the same guy, i would have not let anything stopped me from being with him. so again robin, i get it. i know you're not saying you want to be with him for the rest of your life, but right NOW it's really important to you. and it's sucky that you're parents don't see that. :(

That is my point exactly. ^^
I was out on my own living in my own apt over 18. i am not sure what your point is. we dated not just texted she moved in to my apt before we got married. I was not a child in high school.

to say you willing to give up every for someone you never talked in private face to face text is different. you are not even sure if you tell him the truth that he will wait. I think you need to take one step at a time and slow way down before jumping to conclusions. I think you need to get to know someone before saying what you are saying

You knew her for two weeks. How can you really get to know someone in two weeks?
You can't say that you weren't a child at 18. That would mean I would be a child in 8 months.

I have talked to him in private face to face. Text has helped filled the bridge when we couldn't see each other face to face.
It's not about being afraid to tell him the truth and seeing if he will wait, its that I don't want to wait.
 
I was out on my own living in my own apt over 18. i am not sure what your point is. we dated not just texted she moved in to my apt before we got married. I was not a child in high school.

to say you willing to give up every for someone you never talked in private face to face text is different. you are not even sure if you tell him the truth that he will wait. I think you need to take one step at a time and slow way down before jumping to conclusions. I think you need to get to know someone before saying what you are saying

okay, just because that was your situation doesn't mean robin's is ANYTHING like that, i mean it's obviously the complete opposite of that.

and are you seriously saying that because she's 6 months younger than you were when you got married that she's a 'child'?? i think her point is that 6 months doesn't make a huge difference maturity wise, i can't say that on my 18th bday i was like 'oh, ok i'm an adult now!' lol.
 
you are one of the few how long have you been together are you married to him ?

nope we're not married, i'm 20 now, we've been together 3.5 years.
and i think if i told my parents tomorrow that i was engaged they would FREAK OUT! i know i'm an adult and can make my own decisions, but personally i KNOW i'm too young right now to get married.
my bf & i do plan on getting married, but once we're both done school. :thumbsup2
 
I'm not wanting to get married at 17. I am wanting a chance to be with someone I care about.

You wouldn't have waited to date her if you had the same kind of parents. When you find someone who accepts your flaws, cares about you, and wants to be with you (in your case your wife) you would do anything to be with them. You may say I am foolish or immature but I can guarantee you would have done the same thing. Don't tell me you haven't betrayed your family to be with her.
again if you betray you family at 18 that is your choice at 17 you don't have the same freedom and if you really wanted this you would have done it the right way and not have hid it. and since you could not tell him that you could not date yet you were afraid he would not accept you. Other wise you would have been honest with him what have you excuses been or has he not asked you out
 
again if you betray you family at 18 that is your choice at 17 you don't have the same freedom and if you really wanted this you would have done it the right way and not have hid it. and since you could not tell him that you could not date yet you were afraid he would not accept you. Other wise you would have been honest with him what have you excuses been or has he not asked you out

He hasn't "asked me out." We mutually agreed that we wanted to be more than just friends, because we really really like each other. The only time he has ever asked me to go somewhere with him was just yesterday. He wanted to take me to his cousin's Halloween party so I told that I wish I could go but I can't. Hence how he knows I can't do anything because I am in trouble.
So the only thing I "lied" about was texting him.
 
nope we're not married, i'm 20 now, we've been together 3.5 years.
and i think if i told my parents tomorrow that i was engaged they would FREAK OUT! i know i'm an adult and can make my own decisions, but personally i KNOW i'm too young right now to get married.
my bf & i do plan on getting married, but once we're both done school. :thumbsup2
sounds like you guys are very mature and thought it through. i wish you luck its not very often a high school sweet heart works out.

now your 20 and you said your parents would freak out what about 17 saying you will throw you life away for someone you don't even know. You known your bf for 3.5 years not 26 days.
 
He hasn't "asked me out." We mutually agreed that we wanted to be more than just friends, because we really really like each other.
So the only thing I "lied" about was texting him.

and how did you plan on being more when you could not date.
 
and how did you plan on being more when you could not date.

I don't know, I couldn't very well ask permission at that point seeing as how I was sneaking around texting him.
You missed this part of my post:
He wanted to take me to his cousin's Halloween party so I told that I wish I could go but I can't. Hence how he knows I can't do anything because I am in trouble.
 


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