I need a little advice...

[The Dark Dancer]

I never thought I'd be posting a thread like this but, I need a little guy advice, please.

Okay, I am having a bit of a situation with my boyfriend. We have been together for a year and 2 months. We get along great....we never fight....He's a real sweet & shy guy. I am real shy, too. lol.

Well, we rarely do anything together that isn't for school....Now I have made the softball team and he is a baseball player. We were at an auction fundraiser last night from 3until 10' together but, honestly...that isn't my idea of me and him hanging out together.

So, lately I have been inviting him over to my house to watch movies or something but, he is always coming up with an excuse saying he can't. He's done it enought that I am thinking now that either his parents won't let him or that he is too shy to. I mean, I know he is interested but....idk.

I thought last night and decided to invite him to come over with another couple coming tonight. I texted him (figuring he'd be asleep already) and asked him to call me in the morning that I had something to ask him. He usually gets up pretty early and it is 12:17 here and guess what? Still no call.

What do y'all think? I am very confused.

 

[ktbutterfly2011]

Well all I can say is that I know it and it has been proven that communication is the main key to any relationship. So if there isn't communication... its probably not working.

 

[BabyPiglet]

OK,Sarah first of all I ahven't talked to you in a while... So hello...

Now, I think he is avoiding you because he is too shy. You say you know he's interested so it must be because he is too shy and might not know exactly how you feel or something...

But there is one thing that you absolutly need to do. And that is to call him right now or soon and TALK TO HIM. I know when my ex bf was acting like this everyone told me to talk to him. And when I did I found out the problem. Talking helps. Now off you go Sarah go talk to him....

 

[PatriotsRule]

Just wait a little while, maybe he's busy at the moment. Call him later today. It's up to you if you ask him what's wrong, but I definitely would. He's shy, and I can say from experience that shyness is a really hard thing to overcome. He may be having more trouble getting over it than you are. Communication is always a good thing.

 

[The Dark Dancer]

First of all, thank you all for your advice! I agree with everything y'all just posted. Shyness has been our #1 problem from the get-go. I think I'm gonna call him here in a minute. How should I bring it up? I can't wait too long because he has baseball practice at 2.

 

[BabyPiglet]

No don't wait too long then...

Too come over your shyness just talk. Talk a lot, be random. Lossen up...

The shyness will soon disappear. Most shy people aren't too shy around people they're comfortable around...

 

[PatriotsRule]

Yeah. Just shake it off. Once you do, you'll know what to say. I know, easier said than done, but you can do it!

 

[The Dark Dancer]

Alright...I tried calling his cell and house number but didn't get an answer on either....he must have already left for practice.... I just talked to my friend tiffany (the one who I was gonna ask if her and her bf wanted to come) and she and her bf are going to the movies tonight. She said me and my bf could come if we anted to meet up but....i don't want to crash her date. I guess I should just give up today...huh?.. I suck at relationships, lol.

Thanks.

 

[BabyPiglet]

I'm sorry Sarah. Long term relationships can be hard.

Just try and call him when practice is over. Talk to him. Deep questions, up front ones. Ask him why he was avioding you,etc. Then if that works out, try to loosen him up a bit...

 

[The Dark Dancer]

Thank you Yeah, I am going to really "talk" to him tonight and see what is going on. Thanks again!

-Sarah

 

[PatriotsRule]

Good luck!

 

[The Dark Dancer]

Good luck!

Thank you!

 

[meeshheartsdisney217]

wait

how do you know he's ignoring you? like maybe he just likes having his space? well i obviously don't know your boyfriend, but i'm just kind of wonderig how you know he doesn't just want to be alone?



and i agree with everything else.

 

[dopeygirl156]

My advise for you is to talk to him. He will never know that your feeling like this if you don't tell him, and if he really likes you he will understand. I think compuntcation is a big part of any relationship my friend and her boyfriend broke up because they did talk that much. What your telling us you should tell him. He's your boyfriend and he will understand and everything will work out, good luck with this hope i helped.

 

[BeachBabi0]

maybe he just hasnt checked his phone. i know i miss calls all the time, and find out about it three hours later when i go to check the time. have you tried calling him?

 

[The Dark Dancer]

have you tried calling him?

Yes, I tried earlier but he didn't answer. I figured he was at practice but, my friend Tiffany went to watch and said he never showed up.

 

[TheItalianOne]

Well sorry but I think he's avoiding you then. Why he would be avoiding you I don't know. But everyone's right, whenever you get the chance talk to him. It's the best thing...

 

[TOWERofTERRORluverr2]

yeaa i know wut u mean... it is the same way with my bf!!!!!!
(but im not realli that shy)
idk wut to say to help u sry =\

 

[kjkcool]

Sarah!Hey girl!
I'm so sorry your having problems with your bf.I'd adress the lack of communication with him,you've got to talk!
Good luck hun!I don't have much bf experience and I can't help you more.lol!
I'm glad to see you on!

 

[The Dark Dancer]

Thanks y'all!

I talked to him some last night (only for like, 20 minutes because he had to get off the phone, though).
First of all, I asked where he was yesterday. He said he was out of town for a few hours visiting his grandparents (which him and his family do on some weekends). I then asked him if he had got the text messages I had sent him. He said that he didn't get the 1st text message until 10 o'clock in the morning (I sent it a 10:30 the night before and it said for him to call me in the morning). I forgot to ask why he still didn't call when he got it, but...anyway.... He then asked what had I been wanting to ask him. I told him about what I had been planning to do with him and the other couple and he apologized. He sounded sincere so, I decided to drop it. I told him that I had just had a bad day yesterday. He kept on apologizing even though I said it was okay.

I really did have a bad day yesterday and I am just really stressed right now (with my grades, softball, friends, etc.) and I guess that's partly why I kind of got frustrated with him. Thanks for helping me!

Tonight I am gonna try and talk some more with him about it.

Wish me luck!