i need a hug

[vanyel]

I just have to say this in a neutral setting where no one knows any of the parties involved.

These last few days at work - ok, the last few months - have sucked but the last 2 days, including today, have just been awful.

I love what I do but I hate workplace politics. I'm so fruststrated - my assistant called off today - the day a huge project is due - and she was responsible for compiling everything. It's a mess and I'm feeling really low today.

There's so much going on and I won't bore you all with the details but I wouldn't mind a new employer about now.

 

[rlovew]

I am so sorry you are having a hard time at work! We love you here.

Rebecca

 

[ddavis860]

Hope your day improves!!

Here, think about doing this to those people you work with

Better yet, send them our way!

Seriously, when you get home tonight... Hot bath and adult beverages are in order!

 

[morgansmom2000]

Here's hoping things improve, or if not, you are able to find a new employer!

 

[PrincessNancy96]

OMG! Hon, if I were closer, I would have come up and helped out!!

You've still got my number.. call to vent when needed!!!!

 

[PinballFamily]

Hope a good night's sleep (and adult beverages and/or a funny movie or retail therapy!) helps you feel better!

Sorry to hear things have been stressful lately.

Sounds like the workplace stress might have gotten to your assistant too...and she perhaps chose a passive-aggressive way of dealing with it by opting out today?

Depending upon the circumstances, you may want to have a "come to Jesus" meeting with her on Monday morning to clear the air, find out what is *really* up with her, explain clearly and without emotion how additionally difficult she made it for you today. She might be trying to stick it to you, or stick it to the company somehow and forgot you were in the middle, or...? Or maybe she was just genuinely sick! But, you deserve to know.

With the way some "adults" act, don't offices seem like glorified playgrounds sometimes?

Hope things improve now that this project deadline has passed!

 

[jacksmomma]

Sorry you are having a bad time. At least today is Friday! Go home, get some ice cream and some comfy lounge wear and just chill for the evening.

Hugs!

 

[New England Eeyore]

I'm sorry you have to deal with this. Hope things get better one way or another soon!

 

[Lisa]

Sorry to hear everything blew up at work. I hope the weekend off gets you recharged and ready to face it again Monday.

 

[Sheree Bobbins]

Office politics, can be awful. I hope things look up from here.

 

[vanyel]

Thanks everyone. I needed some positive words and some virtual hugs and reading this has made me feel a smidge better.

Honestly, it went from bad to worse and I don't know what's going to happen on Monday. To make a long story short - my assistant was responsible for a major project and she didn't handle the stress well. So then she didn't finish the project and called off sick the day it was due. She had a meltdown and told the hr director that I was yelling at her, all the time and it was a hostile workplace. Luckily I have witnesses (all the other employees) who are as perplexed as I am about the accusation. So I'm still feeling really low, actually lousy. And if she comes in on Monday, we have to meet with the HR director. If she doesn't come in, we have other things to figure out.

I can't clear this out my mind. I can't concentrate on anything and I'm depressed. I've always tried to be a fair and decent supervisor and this is just beyond me. I know I'm not perfect and never claim to be but i've never been mean.

My plans this weekend were to start some christmas craft projects. Haven't touched anything.

 

[ddavis860]

Thanks everyone. I needed some positive words and some virtual hugs and reading this has made me feel a smidge better.

Honestly, it went from bad to worse and I don't know what's going to happen on Monday. To make a long story short - my assistant was responsible for a major project and she didn't handle the stress well. So then she didn't finish the project and called off sick the day it was due. She had a meltdown and told the hr director that I was yelling at her, all the time and it was a hostile workplace. Luckily I have witnesses (all the other employees) who are as perplexed as I am about the accusation. So I'm still feeling really low, actually lousy. And if she comes in on Monday, we have to meet with the HR director. If she doesn't come in, we have other things to figure out.

I can't clear this out my mind. I can't concentrate on anything and I'm depressed. I've always tried to be a fair and decent supervisor and this is just beyond me. I know I'm not perfect and never claim to be but i've never been mean.

My plans this weekend were to start some christmas craft projects. Haven't touched anything.

Wow. Sounds like it's her problem, and she is trying to take you down too. The truth will come out, it always does. And you have wittnesses on your side, so while HR has to take her accusation seriously, it doesn't sound like she has any grounds, and it will all be dismissed.

But so sorry that this is ruining your whole weekend! I would be dreading Monday too!

 

[MazdaUK]

These sort of things are always horrible, but try not to let it poison your home life - leave it in the office (easier said than done, I know ) Do you have a supportive line manager you can discuss this with? Or can HR give you an independent person to talk to? for a better Monday!

 

[mcco5543]

These sort of things are always horrible, but try not to let it poison your home life - leave it in the office (easier said than done, I know ) Do you have a supportive line manager you can discuss this with? Or can HR give you an independent person to talk to? for a better Monday!

I actually quit my job a month ago over this very type of thing. I know it sounds like I did something stupid in this economy but I couldn't take it anymore and I'm happier , poor, but happier!

P.S. this is not a suggestion to quit, just saying I am feeling your pain!

I agree do everything in your power to not let this ruin your personal time at home. Start those Christmas crafts. If you can't have a stance at work, take a stance at home and refuse to allow anyone to ruin your personal time and your holiday time! This is how you can fight back.

Lots of love.

 

[vanyel]

I do so appreciate the support - most of my friends here are work colleagues which means I have to keep my mouth shut about this and I'm the kind that needs to share.

Mazda - the hr director was very supportive and my boss will be back on Mon. She's usually supportive but doesn't like anything going wrong.

mcco - sorry to hear about your job - hope things are going better and your happy - wouldn't mind doing that myself right now.


So my motto today comes from Anne Frank (who had a much problem than me) Today I choose happiness.....

I'm getting ready to go to church
Doing some christmas shopping after
then coming home to either read the book I have waiting or to work on Christmas cards.

I will do these things!

Oh, I'm listening to a book in the car as the car is where I tend to overthink most things.

This too shall pass but timing is everything

 

[PrincessNancy96]

vanyel.

I know from talking to you, you are NOT a yeller!!!! I think she just got in over her head and instead of asking for help she is using this as a cop out to make herself feel better.. Sad, sad situation.

If you need anything call me!!

 

[AlexWyattMommy]

I too feel the assistant was overwhelmed and that colored everything and anything that was said to her. In her place, she would have yelled at herself for the poor performance, therefore she only hears in her mind that you are yelling even though you are not.

I am glad you are choosing happiness.

Hope things are not too stressful tomorrow.

 

[ddavis860]

Hope today is a better day!!!

 

[MazdaUK]

Best of luck - I'll be thinking of you

 

[PrincessNancy96]

Good Luck today!!! I hope the day goes well!