i need a big hug please

[wils]

Nat You've had excellent advice already .

Try and ignore the interfering Mother (what does she know about your family!) It's great to have independant children but it doesn't mean they need less looking after its just different sometimes! (and I know from experience with DD it's hard work!)

As for the 'naughty word' kids are like like sponges aren't they. A friend's little boy was only about 6 when he was sent off whilst playing football (he'd questioned whether the ref had a father ) My friend was horrified and couldn't understand where he'd learnt the word (she worked at a football club at the time and it turned out he'd heard the senior players using it )

Hope you are feeling more +ve this morning and that you managed to get some sleep

 

[natalielongstaff]

i look pretty rough this morning but i do feel a lot more positive today. his teacher did make it very clear to me that she knew that matt had no idea what word he was using and had even said the word totally out of context i think the other mum upset me more ( the whole everyone wants to fit in thing ) however i have decided to rise above it for now

thanks again everyone especially Joh who let me have a rant with her

 

[wideeyes]

 

[wilma-bride]

i look pretty rough this morning

If it's any consolation, so do I

thanks again everyone especially Joh who let me have a rant with her

There's nothing like having a DIS mate to moan to - any time hun

 

[saratogagirl]

Hi Nat, you have had fab advice, I only just saw the post I'm sorry honey, I am here for you along with everyone else, huge hugs and kisses xx

 

[Lizzy Lemon]

Sorry for the delay Nat is seeing this thread. Do you still need a hug this morning? Hope you managed to get some sleep. I echo what everyone else says, you can tell from your posts that your children mean everything to you and if they are independant you are certainly bringing them up well. Like someone said there is a world of difference between neglect and independance and this awful woman is looking at the wrong one. Stuff her and carry on how you are doing. I always remember seeing something that said 'the best mums know when to let go'. I am finding it hard, at 13 almost 14 Glen is off on his own most of the time playing with friends or in his room but as long as I get my hugs and kisses and he keeps safe that's fine, its another story with Ashley, who is 11 next week, as his special needs prevent him from even going to school alone I'm having a hard time letting him go, he's off to residential camp next week for 2 nights and I know he'll be fine but I'll miss him like mad. We put ourselves through hell don't we all in the name of motherhood.

 

[Madjock]

Well I'm a bit late as usual Nat but just wanted to say I think Joh summons it up perfectly, you know and your kids know how much love there is and that's all that matters!

As a working mum I don't get to pick my DD up from school too often, but even having worked in an office all my life, I don't think I've ever come across such a cliquey atmosphere as at the school gates and being on the outside, so to speak, I can stand back and watch with amusement the little cliques at work. I've often come away saying I'm glad I don't have to do that every day. Just ignore them.

Hope you and your son have a better day today

 

[tennisfan]

Kids will always say stuff they don't know the meaning too, its all part of growing up. But now he knows its wrong and i'm sure he has learnt from it.

You shouldn't listen to other people who say stuff about you as usually they have shortcomings of their own and they are far from perfect. Just hold your head high and don't stoop to their level.

Hope you have a better day today.

 

[CustardTart]

Nat, I'm so glad you're feeling better today - sending you a belated and a little

I remember my eldest DS having to see the head when he was about 6 (he's now 21) as he'd been accused of bullying another child. If he hadn't been so distressed about the whole thing, it would've been funny as the poor lad could never say boo to a goose. The incident turned out to be a case of mistaken identity but, until it was resolved, all I could do was worry over where I'd failed him as a parent. There were a few whispers at the school gates which definitely made it worse. Fortunately the whole thing blew over very quickly and I doubt Matt (my DS) would even remember it now. Still made me feel a bit sick thinking about it. It's tough being a parent...

 

[Ware Bears]

for you Nat. I know it's easy for me to say but please just try and ignore the mum, as Annmarie said school playgrounds are the worst breeding place for cliques

You know you're among friends here.

 

[DisneyJo]

Awww Nat, sorry I've only just found this, glad you're feeling a bit better today! If you were a terrible mother would other Mums be leaving their children with you? So that must mean you're amazing

A few years ago Ellie and her friends were bullying each other (even though they're all best friends and were calling each other the word for female gay, they didn't have a clue what it meant but that didn't stop them! Don't worry all kids do it and it was nipped in the bud early!

Why is the playground such an intimidating place? We all thought that had been left behind when we left school, little did we know hey BTW you know where I am if you ever need me!

 

[Chilly]

here's a few extra hugs from me

 

[jjk]

Missed this yesterday glad your feeling better today

 

[pokemon_master]

Lots of for you nat!

 

[angel659]

Hi

I just noticed this post Nat. I hope your feeling better.

Children do pick things up. Only Monday night that Casey was shouting "bugger" each time she missed when playing with her ball. Bruce and I dont say that at all She said that some other kids say it at school. We sat her down and explained it was naughty to say that word. She had no idea what it meant or that it was a naughty word.

Some people are judgemental and some mums even at Casey's school I hear them talking about other mums. Hence why I dont really talk to anyone at the school. I dont like this clicky atmosphere with the mums, luckily for me I dont always pick her up, so I never have the need to have school mums as part of my friends. I really dont like two faced people. I think its in some peoples nature to judge, especially those who feel and do everything for thier lo. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesnt. Dont let her get to you. She has no idea at all. As long as you and your family know whats true.... who cares... If I were you just go to school with your head held high and ignore it all.

ixiedust:

 

[KayleeUK]

Nat I missed this yesterday.

How are you feeling today. Big HUGS for you

 

[Lisash]

Belated for you Nat. Hope you are feeling better. Your DS was only doing what all kids do at one time or another they all pick up unfortunate words from TV or other kids. As for the other mum at the school take notice. What kind of kids will she raise if all they ever hear is her spouting vile bitterness. I bet she's jealous of something or another. Either way we know you to be kind, thoughtful and caring and a great mother. Take no notice and keep your chin up and remember we can always all turn up one afternoon and give her what for (just imagine all those lime green clad DISers)

 

[arieljasmine]

So sorry that I've only just got to this, Nat. I hope you've had a much better day today. I know it is so hard to rise above what other people say, I'm terrible at it myself and always take things to heart so you definitely have my sympathy

Laur's

 

[catherine]

Hope that you're feeling much better now