I know schools must have a dress code but this is a bit ridiculous...

[RitaZ.]

One of the problems with school dress codes is that they are not equal nor enforced equally. For example the boys can't wear short shorts yet the girls can wear mini skirts. Girls can't wear open toe shoes yet boys can wear flip flops.

Obviously not all schools follow the same dress code.

Our school district doesn't allow mini-skirts, flip flops, tank tops, tops or dresses with spaguetti straps and the list goes on and on... The schools here do enforce the dress code, my neighbor's daughter had to go home to change when she wore a mini-skirt in 6th grade.

 

[SC Minnie]

The ultra low rider jeans are much much worse. I have seen many HS girls wear them so low you know they had to be shaved. Way too much information for me to know about a total stranger or even the neighbor kid.

 

[DawnCt1]

Originally posted by CajunDixie
One of the problems with school dress codes is that they are not equal nor enforced equally. For example the boys can't wear short shorts yet the girls can wear mini skirts. Girls can't wear open toe shoes yet boys can wear flip flops. One year they told our kids they weren't allowed to wear anything made by Starter because all their items were considered gang items. Ahhhhhhh hello people we live in a 2 stop light town and have no gangs here. They tried to ban backpacks in the whole system but parents (some county/city officers) went to the school board meeting and asked for proof of gang activity. Golly gee they were trying this new rule because heard other schools had problems. If it were true that being dressed a certain way would make grades improve then I think we'd see more schools making uniforms mandatory. Guess I should make my A/B kids dress in white shirts and blue pants so they are guaranteed to get straight As.


What shouldn't be allowed in school are the sick people that think something as simple as writing on clothes over a specific body part gives them the right to commit a physical act. Is there any statistics proving that pedophiles prefer children with words across the seat of their pants?

The school board doesn't always "get it right", but there is a forum to address that, as your town did with the Starter brand and back packs. A lot of towns have attempted to make uniform dressing mandatory. The stats aren't mine with regard to improved grades. They are cited every time a town wants to have a dress code in their school system. I think the school in the original post is trying to set a standard by eliminating inappropriate, suggestive wear. I think that they should be applauded rather than criticized. School is 7 hours or less per day. That leaves 17 hours for "self expression".

 

[Jeafl]

I work at an elementary school, (K-5), and you wouldn't believe what some of the kids wear. I sent a 3rd grader to the office last year for having "Bootylicious" across the back of her shorts. What kind of parent thinks that's acceptable? We have many, many kids that come to school with "belly shirts", halter tops with no back and even shoes and boots with 4-in. heels. That doesn't go over real well on the playground.

My all-time favorite outfit last year was a 5th grade girl who came to school with a super short black spandex skirt and a purple glittery spaghetti strap belly shirt. She also wore knee length high heel boots with it. The principal called the mother to tell her to bring her another outfit to wear and the mother threw a fit. Apparently, the school was stifling her daughter's creativity.

 

[disney4us2002]

Wow, I guess I've never given this much thought with three boys, but honestly I've seen the words on sweats here more frequently than on shorts. I don't see much difference myself between USA across the butt or across the chest. The replies here are just fascinating. I find the Dis on a whole to be pretty liberal yet I'm pretty conservative and don't see this as a big deal. I'm not saying the conservatives dress like nuns and liberals dress like tramps, I just find it interesting to note.

MsKanga, since it is the school policy I would probably limit my dd's princess shorts to home playwear as it could be hard for a 7 yr old to grasp that some rules are okay not to follow but others must be followed at all times. That is just mho.

Given the number and severity of the replies, I'd say you've stumbled into a 'hot topic' or you have a fan club, lol.

 

[missyc]

Originally posted by luvdzny
Well I seem to be in the minority on these boards but DD (15) has shorts with "CHEER" on the butt. She does not wear them to school, not because of the words on the butt but because she is not comfortable wearing Soffee shorts except when she is exercising or practicing. She also wears low cut jeans & the occasional thong!!! Does that make her a "bad" girl - NO! Our school has a very lenient dress code and we don't seem to have many problems and DD goes to the largest high school in Wisconsin. I don't think you can judge kids by what they wear.

Sorry to say, but people DO judge her (and her parents) by what she wears or how she looks. It's human nature.
And any 15 year old dressing like you say would be called a "hoochie mama" by my kids!

As far as whether she's good or not. I don't know, ask around to some of the boys in school. I'm sure they know. Do you really think that they saw her thong sticking out of her low rider jeans and didn't try to get a closer look?

 

[welovedisneyx4]

My mom bought my DD8 a shorts outfit w/ Tinkerbell on it. It's really cute except that it has writing across the butt. I can't even remember what it said, it wasn't anything bad, something like "princess" or "pixie", but there was no way I was going to let her wear that to school. She loves the outfit, but I think the writing on the butt is just too much, so I don't know how often she will get to wear those shorts. I still haven't figured out why my mom bought them for her.

 

[aprincessmom]

I have a big problem with little girls wearing words on their butts, it's completely unnecessary and I don't want to give any sick people any reason to look at my daughter. They shouldn't be allowed in school.

Ditto

 

[miche61]

I am in agreement about words written across my daughters' rear ends! Not happening with my girls. However, I do remember wearing tank tops with the word "front" on the front (obviously) and "back" on it. I was fifteen, but my mother bought them for me!!! I will never encourage my kids to do anything like that.

 

[Maleficent13]

Originally posted by missyc
As far as whether she's good or not. I don't know, ask around to some of the boys in school. I'm sure they know.

JMO, but I felt this comment was crude and insulting.

As far as the OT, I think school dress codes are hard to create and hard to enforce. There's always someone arguing that it's hard to interpret or skewed to a certain degree. Never thought I'd be a proponent of uniforms, but I think I am.

 

[luvdzny]

missyc - I guess things must be MUCH different where you live. At least 80% of the girls here dress just like DD. I guess we have a community of "Hoochie Mammas." I never said that her thong was sticking out of her jeans by the way, she is very careful about that. I have seen this happen, but I have also seen "granny panties" sticking out of the tops of womens's pants, are they "Hoochie Mammas" as well? I don't have to ask the boys whether she is a "good girl" word gets around pretty fast and I have 2 older sons that would know if she had a "reputation." There are a number of "not so nice" girls around here and it has nothing to do with how they dress. It has been my experience that the sheltered girls who are not allowed to dress as they wish or have much freedom at all are the ones that often end up pregnant. I am not saying this always happens, but I know of a number of times where that was the case. Just curious, how old are your kids?

 

[missyc]

I didn't mean to be crude or insulting.
I'm just saying that dressing like that draws attention to her sexuality (which shouldn't even be much of an issue at 15). Teenage boys WILL try to see more or get farther if they think they can. Not saying that she has done anything just because of how she dresses. But she is "asking" for them to notice, make comments, try something, etc. This is what I meant by "it's human nature", so why encourage it before its time.

 

[jennyanydots]

the middle school cheerleading squad ordered sweatpants for the girls --

the school mascot is a cougar--

the pants had two cougar paw prints on the butt.


no, the pants didn't violate the school dress code.

my teenage daughter dresses pretty much like most of her classmates. low cut jeans are "in", thongs are "in", but the school dress code says no underwear must be visible, so the thongs do not hang out from over the waistband of the jeans, and since no bare midriffs are allowed, they tend to wear shirts that come down to the waistband. honestly it's no different than the outfits we wore back in the 70's.

 

[CRB#33]

Oh good. Pawprints on my daughters backside. If that won't give the adolescent boys something more to daydream about.

I thank God my 16 year old daughter has no desire to wear thongs, low cut jeans or anything that has something written on her backside. She finds them demeaning.

I'm very glad I don't have to deal with it, but if she wanted to wear that stuff, she would be out of luck. It looks sleazy. Bottom line. I don't care if it's in style. Style means nothing to me. Classiness does.

 

[Pin Wizard]

Originally posted by janette
The only things my girls have with words on the back are sweat pants, they aren't low rise either. They have USA on the back btw.

USA on the butt? That one bothers me.

 

[C.Ann]

Inappropriate attire for school, for sure..

And if the policies are too hard to enforce, then put them all in uniforms.. Problem solved - money saved..

 

[Toby'sFriend]

honestly it's no different than the outfits we wore back in the 70's.

um, you may have dressed like that during the 70's. But I can assure you that as a 13yo girl I wouldn't have even made it to the hallway leading to the front door in a pair of low cut hip hugging jeans. And if I did manage to sneak around Mom somehow and show up at school, my little thong wearing heiny would have been sat down on a chair in the Principal's office until Mom showed up for a meeting and a change of clothes.

When I was in 8th grade the Girl's volleyball coach ordered those underwear looking tights instead of shorts for the new uniforms. The phone lines started buzzing as soon as we brought them home, and nearly the whole team was back at school the next day saying "My Mom says I can't wear these." Luckily the old uniform shorts matched the tops fairly well.

 

[Pin Wizard]

There is attire that's appropriate for an office, and there's attire that is not. How many times have we heard that school is a kid's "job." I can't be the only one to hear that! Some clothes are appropriate for school and others aren't. In my book, this isn't.

I'm another fan of uniforms. They're easy, no competition about clothing between kids, and when the kids get home, then they can wear what they want. I don't keep a business suit on once I'm home. That thing is off as soon as I'm in the door! LOL! And I remember doing that as a kid with school clothes.

 

[eeyore kelly]

My DD is not allowed to have anything on the back of her pants, and her pants must fit on her waist. I personally find it tacky and sad for girls age 0-100 to wear overt clothing. It teaches them to sell themselves short, and if they didn't dress like that, no one would care about them.

 

[snoopy]

Originally posted by Toby'sFriend
um, you may have dressed like that during the 70's. But I can assure you that as a 13yo girl I wouldn't have even made it to the hallway leading to the front door in a pair of low cut hip hugging jeans. And if I did manage to sneak around Mom somehow and show up at school, my little thong wearing heiny would have been sat down on a chair in the Principal's office until Mom showed up for a meeting and a change of clothes.

LOL! I was thinking the same exact thing! I went to Catholic school so this was never an issue at school, but I remember sneaking out once to ride my bike in a tube top. My mother let me buy one, but I had to wear a shirt over it. Anyway, she wasn't around, so I thought I'd be slick and lose the shirt that went over it. I wasn't out there but a couple of minutes when one of the neighborhood busy bodies hollered at me to get inside and get changed.

Its not unusual for our daughters to want to wear this type of clothing, I do agree with you there jeanyanydots, but I do think our job as parents to reign it in so our kids look presentable.