I don't want to go to UNIVERSAL!!

[rigs32]

Here's my take. If the trip was planned as a way for two couples to spend time together, then if I were the OP, I'd be inclined to suck it up and go to Universal.

HOWEVER, if my DH invited friends along on our *anniversary* trip without clearing it with me and then wanted me to go to a place where I will spend the day waiting for everyone else, sorry not gonna happen. That's not compromise that's imposition. Compromise is finding a way to make everyone happy, and OP suggested a way to do so.

DH and I celebrated five years this May, but we couldn't get time away to do anything special, so I guess I'd take it personally if this was me. He special anniversary time has been hijacked.

Updated to add: I ran this scenario by my DH and he said in this case, he'd tell the friends to have a great day at Universal and use that time as some special couple time to explore the parks or have a great meal alone.

 

[kellypooh]

The only reason it sends up flags for me is, she told her DH she didn't want to go and would rather go to Epcot and he said he wished she'd come with him. In that case, it does seem really selfish (to me) to say No.

I would completely agree with this IF her DH had said "he wished she'd come with him" but the OP said "He says I should just go with them and like it." That sounded more like a command. Her DH invited these friends along on what was supposed to be a JUST DISNEY anniversary trip -- the friends decide to come along and suddenly they are influencing the itinerary? rigs32 called this an "imposition" and I agree.

 

[S. C.]

Updated to add: I ran this scenario by my DH and he said in this case, he'd tell the friends to have a great day at Universal and use that time as some special couple time to explore the parks or have a great meal alone.

My thoughts exactly. I was just about to write out the exact same thing. Just because they are going with you does not mean you have to stay together 24/7. Maybe THEY would like to go to universal by themselves.

 

[cleo]

So friends invited themselves along without any agreement from her and her husband? And the husband is being a control freak by telling her she'll go and she'll like it?

Sounds like bigger problems than a day at Universal vs a day at Epcot.

 

[kayeandjim00]

Without getting into the marital angle I'll just tell you that I ride ONE ride at IOA and ONE ride at US as I don't do roller coasters and I LOVE both parks. The theming at IOA is great and if you go you'll enjoy it.

 

[CraftyMouse]

So friends invited themselves along without any agreement from her and her husband? And the husband is being a control freak by telling her she'll go and she'll like it?

Sounds like bigger problems than a day at Universal vs a day at Epcot.

Wow. Nowhere did the OP say the her husband was being a control freak. She said that he didn't want her to go to EPCOT because he thought she'd be lonely on her own. Also, the OP's DH half-seriously suggested the friends come along on the trip thinking they wouldn't be able to go. The friends are able to go. Those things happen in life sometimes and you just have suck it up and deal even if it isn't what you would prefer.

That said, the OP shouldn't have to go to US and sit on a bench all day whlie the others have fun. I still say she should go to EPCOT that day and meet up with them for MNSSHP later that evening.

And from everything the OP has posted I don't see marriage problems at all. I see the normal day-to-day issues that come up in a marriage.

I think this whole thing has been blown way out of proportion.

 

[willis37862]

Wow. Nowhere did the OP say the her husband was being a control freak. She said that he didn't want her to go to EPCOT because he thought she'd be lonely on her own. Also, the OP's DH half-seriously suggested the friends come along on the trip thinking they wouldn't be able to go. The friends are able to go. Those things happen in life sometimes and you just have suck it up and dealm even if it isn't what you would prefer.

That said, the OP shouldn't have to go to US and sit on a bench all day whlie the others have fun. I still say she should go to EPCOT that day and meet up with them for MNSSHP later that evening.

And from everything the OP has posted I don't see marriage problems at all. I see the normal day-to-day issues that come up in a marriage.

I think this whole thing has gotten blown way out of proportion.

 

[HomeSweetDisney]

Wow. Nowhere did the OP say the her husband was being a control freak. She said that he didn't want her to go to EPCOT because he thought she'd be lonely on her own. Also, the OP's DH half-seriously suggested the friends come along on the trip thinking they wouldn't be able to go. The friends are able to go. Those things happen in life sometimes and you just have suck it up and dealm even if it isn't what you would prefer.

That said, the OP shouldn't have to go to US and sit on a bench all day whlie the others have fun. I still say she should go to EPCOT that day and meet up with them for MNSSHP later that evening.

And from everything the OP has posted I don't see marriage problems at all. I see the normal day-to-day issues that come up in a marriage.

I think this whole thing has gotten blown way out of proportion.

Well said I don't see the problem in the OP wanting to spend the day at EPCOT shopping rather than going to US and waiting around all day while they ride rides she doesn't enjoy. The money that she would be spending on going to a park she doesn't even like could be spent for other things instead. They were planning on MNSSHP that night anyway so it's not as if they won't see eachother at all that day. Her DH will be able to do rides at US with the friends and she will be happy spending time at EPCOT. Sounds like a fair compromise to me. What's the problem

 

[DznyLvr2005]

I want to thank everyone who understands my side.
My husband H*A*T*E*S shopping in Epcot, which is why I think it would work out perfectly. He loves rides, as do our friends. Don't get me wrong either, I knew he asked them to come along which wasn't a problem.
We live in NYC and he's a cop, which sometimes makes me think he doesn't want anything to happen to me while I'm on my own. (what husband wouldn't?) But it IS disney and I feel totally comfortable by myself.
He can have his fun and I can have mine. I can't imagine him tagging along with me for 8 hours while I shop anyway! We tried that last year and he just drank in World Showcase while I *tried* to shop.
Thanks to all who understand!

 

[LoraJ]

Hopefully in 2 and a half months your DH will come around and agree to the compromise.

 

[DznyLvr2005]

I just want to throw in one thing... Last year we went on our honeymoon and I agreed to go to Halloween Horror Nights at US. I didn't want to go because I fear haunted houses and being scared. We have sorta the same thing here in NJ at Great Adventure (Fright Fest), but definately not as intense. I knew I wouldn't like it, but he's a horror movie fanatic so i agreed. I wanted to pee my pants the whole time I was there, it's REALLY SCARY! But I knew he wanted to go and I went. (And by the way you definately don't feel that secure feeling at Universal that you do in Disney! NO WAY! Everyone was drunk and I smelled pot like 4 different occasions and police were stationed all over the place at this Halloween Horror thing!!)
This year is a different situation. We don't have marriage problems, like someone said.. That's rediculous. Totally different situation this year....

 

[robertsmom]

THis wasn't that big of a deal until everyone on here made it sound like it! The only thing is, is that I wanted to go soemwhere else the day they went to Universal, because it would be a waste of money for me to be going there. The only ride I will go on is spiderman, I don't like drops/rollercoasters. I've been there before. We aren't made of money, we paid for this trip with tax money and we got the free dining plan. Does being selfish = having no money to waste??

Well, I may be one of the few who agree with you. I think it's nuts to waste big $$ at a park when you know there is nothing there for you. But then again, I'm biased. I went to Universal once and would rather poke my eyes out than go back. If I wanted rude employess, dirty park, etc., I'd go to Six Flags here at home.

 

[Planogirl]

I personally prefer Universal so I'll go with them and you go to Epcot.

Seriously, can't you handle it for just one day? You have all of the other days to go to WDW. If you just absolutely can't handle it, I don't see why you can't just go off and do your thing for a day either though.

If I wanted rude employess, dirty park, etc., I'd go to Six Flags here at home.

This is so untrue that it's ridiculous. It's an insult to the Universal employees many of which were laid off by Disney and totally unkind IMO.

 

[DznyLvr2005]

Well, I may be one of the few who agree with you. I think it's nuts to waste big $$ at a park when you know there is nothing there for you. But then again, I'm biased. I went to Universal once and would rather poke my eyes out than go back. If I wanted rude employess, dirty park, etc., I'd go to Six Flags here at home.

Yes, I went to see the shrek thing and the lady was being so rude, saying "well I guess you want to see this show and blah blah blah... Are you all drunk?"
Literally, that's what she asked on Halloween Horror nights.

off topic, but I noticed in your sig that you didn't like Coronoado springs! I'm staying there this year for the first time, I hope it isn't bad ??

 

[robertsmom]

I personally prefer Universal so I'll go with them and you go to Epcot.

Seriously, can't you handle it for just one day? You have all of the other days to go to WDW.


This is so untrue that it's ridiculous. It's an insult to the Universal employees many of which were laid off by Disney and totally unkind IMO.

We all have our own opinions. I know what I experienced there, thanks. Your experience may have been completely different.

 

[robertsmom]

Yes, I went to see the shrek thing and the lady was being so rude, saying "well I guess you want to see this show and blah blah blah... Are you all drunk?"
Literally, that's what she asked on Halloween Horror nights.

off topic, but I noticed in your sig that you didn't like Coronoado springs! I'm staying there this year for the first time, I hope it isn't bad ??

I'll PM you my CS experience. Keep in mind it was a few years ago.

 

[Planogirl]

We all have our own opinions. I know what I experienced there, thanks. Your experience may have been completely different.

Maybe so. But I've been many times and I just can't stand it when someone insults a whole group of people, many of whom happen to post on this website. Incidently, I defend Disney employees when they're insulted too as they often are at other websites.

 

[DznyLvr2005]

I'll PM you my CS experience. Keep in mind it was a few years ago.

Thanks!

 

[damo]

So, what was the whole reason behind this thread, to convince your DH or convince you? Looks like it is pretty evenly split right now.

 

[cleo]

I don't mean to imply you have marital problems, it just sounds odd that your friends seem to have invited themselves and no one spoke up to say no. Even if your husband said yes, you could have said, "This is our anniversary trip and I just want it to be for the two of us."

You also say your husband said you'll go and you'll like it. If that's really what he said, I would think that's a problem since you don't seem to have liked it. Maybe not.

Just trying to get the story straight.