I don't want to go to UNIVERSAL!!

[LoraJ]

Seriously, then don't go.
Just stay at the hotel and go to the pool or something. I don't see what the big deal is. Go shop at DTD. If you don't want to go to Universal than don't, but don't ruin your DH and his friend's day.

 

[DznyLvr2005]

Seriously, then don't go.
Just stay at the hotel and go to the pool or something. I don't see what the big deal is. Go shop at DTD. If you don't want to go to Universal than don't, but don't ruin your DH and his friend's day.

I don't want to ruin anybodys day!! I thought they would all have a great time going there and going on all the rides. I told all of them that I'd be perfectly happy staying back. DH thought that I was lying, but I'm really not. I don't mind it at all.

 

[cleo]

If you can't go and be nice about it, I guess I'd agree you should stay away. But really, this is your HUSBAND. He wants you to be a part of the things he likes.

Put yourself in his place. If he said, 'You go to Disney. I'm going to Universal instead. If I have to go to Disney I'd rather just stay home', how would you feel? Is it really that bad??

He loves you enough to want you to be with him. Is that asking so much?

 

[palmtreegirl]

If you can't go and be nice about it, I guess I'd agree you should stay away. But really, this is your HUSBAND. He wants you to be a part of the things he likes.

Put yourself in his place. If he said, 'You go to Disney. I'm going to Universal instead. If I have to go to Disney I'd rather just stay home', how would you feel? Is it really that bad??

He loves you enough to want you to be with him. Is that asking so much?

Exactly.

 

[DznyLvr2005]

Imagine going to a place where everyone is going to be going on rides all day and you have toi sit there and wait until they come off, just so they could jump right back on another ride? I just don't feel like I need to be there for that. It's pointless. Plus if I went I'd also have to purchase the extra fast pass deal they have there just so I could go on one ride, Spiderman with them. I'm sorry, I said it before, but it's just a waste of money.

 

[Kim&Chris]

I don't want to ruin anybodys day!! I thought they would all have a great time going there and going on all the rides. I told all of them that I'd be perfectly happy staying back. DH thought that I was lying, but I'm really not. I don't mind it at all.

Maybe he just wants to be with his best gal that day, instead of just your friends.

 

[cleo]

So don't get a Universal Express Plus pass for yourself. Let them worry about how they'll spend their own money. You'll be saving 'yours'.

Besides, there are plenty of things to enjoy at Universal/IoA that aren't roller coasters.

The main thing I'm trying to say is, it ISN'T pointless. You're recently married and this is what marriage is about. No, you don't have to do everything he tells you to do, but geez, he's asking for one day at Universal. Pick your fights and remember what a wonderful man you have, that he thought to plan all of this for you. Give him his one day and do it with gratitude (even if you don't ride some things) and I can just about guarantee he'll love you all the more for making the compromise.

That's marriage, babe. It's wonderful if you remember there are two of you. When you do that, he'll do the same for you.

 

[lovemygoofy]

Imagine going to a place where everyone is going to be going on rides all day and you have toi sit there and wait until they come off, just so they could jump right back on another ride? I just don't feel like I need to be there for that. It's pointless. Plus if I went I'd also have to purchase the extra fast pass deal they have there just so I could go on one ride, Spiderman with them. I'm sorry, I said it before, but it's just a waste of money.

I'm taking my husband to Universal in Sept for 4 days. I do not ride coasters either. Just not my thing, but you know what my thing is? My husband being happy and enjoying himself. I feed off seeing him happy, so yes I'll be sitting on benches people watching while he is in line for coasters just like he'll take me on Its a Small World for the 500th time and not compalin. Give and take in marriage. Go and enjoy seeing your husband happy and having a good time with your friends(who you sound very unhappy are going).

 

[lindalinda]

Okay, there are like 3 roller coasters....everything else is shows and "easy " rides.
even if you have to wait by yourself while they ride those rides, since they will have fastpass, it will only be a couple of minutes. I think your friends will think you are being ...well.... a total whiner if you refuse to go.

 

[DznyLvr2005]

YOu know what's really funny? I'm showing my husband what this post has become and he actually thinks it's funny.
Of course if it was just me and him I would go!
But since ther'es 2 other people who equally like rollercoasters, there's no big deal for them 3 to have fun without me for 8 hours.
We aren't connected at the hip, we do spend time apart, we'll be spending the other 7 days together. I thought it would be fun for my husband to go there with people that actually have the same interests.
If it was the opposite way around and I knew he didn't want to go, I'd definately ask him to reconsider but I wouldn't beg him to come with me. I only want everyone to be happy.

 

[Mrs.Toad]

spending time apart and having separate interests can also help a marriage last. Personally, I get cranky when I'm told that I HAVE to do something and like it.....tell him that the 3 of them would have a better time at Universal without you.
There's no reason you shouldn't be able to go your way and he go his for 1 day out of the 7 day trip.

I agree with this.

I'm a little confused at how many people are telling the OP to just stay in the hotel and do something else. She said in her OP that she already suggested that, but hubby still wants her to go to Universal. I really don't understand that part, and sorry, I don't know how else to convince him this is a good idea. To me, it's pretty obvious from everything you've said here that 1. you'll have a better time at Epcot on your own, and 2. they will have a better time at Universal alone, since they won't have to worry about you being bored while they ride all the rides.

 

[ZipaDeeDooDah]

I think it's just really hard for everyone to see past the "me", "my", "I wants" of your first post. Hope you and hubby can make a happy compromise

 

[LoraJ]

I agree with this.

I'm a little confused at how many people are telling the OP to just stay in the hotel and do something else. She said in her OP that she already suggested that, but hubby still wants her to go to Universal. I really don't understand that part, and sorry, I don't know how else to convince him this is a good idea. To me, it's pretty obvious from everything you've said here that 1. you'll have a better time at Epcot on your own, and 2. they will have a better time at Universal alone, since they won't have to worry about you being bored while they ride all the rides.

Because I have a short memory today.

I guess I should turn it around on the DH since he is reading this. Why can't you let your wife go to Epcot by herself? What's the big deal? Let her do something she enjoys instead. Why force her to be miserable. This way you are both happy?

 

[cinmell]

spending time apart and having separate interests can also help a marriage last. Personally, I get cranky when I'm told that I HAVE to do something and like it.....tell him that the 3 of them would have a better time at Universal without you.
There's no reason you shouldn't be able to go your way and he go his for 1 day out of the 7 day trip.

I agree with this. If you want to go shopping at Epcot for the day, then go for it.

Just out of curiosity, did you or your husband invite your friends or did they invite themselves?

 

[SUSIEQ]

It's not like you're telling him he can't go to Uniiversal, you just don't want to go.

Just go to EPCOT that day, and then you won't be too tired to enjoy MNSSHP (which, by the way, you can get in around 4PM).

 

[DznyLvr2005]

I agree with this. If you want to go shopping at Epcot for the day, then go for it.

Just out of curiosity, didy you or your husband invite your friends or did they invite themselves?

My hubby has a big mouth and will invite people OUr neighbors who live downstairs from us are the ones who are coming with us. He didnt think they'd actually be able to go (they just got married in June) so he mentioned it to them. They've been our friends for like 10 years. So they finally say they are coming with us and then blurt out "we have to go to universal too"
Even the other day DH said that if they don't mention it again we weren't going to go.... But they did.

 

[cleo]

So hubby has seen the thread and all the replies. Does he still want you to go or does he think it will be more fun without you?

 

[LK03]

Hey I'm with you. I wouldn't go either. I don't like roller coasters and the one I time I went to Universal I hated every moment. I screamed and cried bloody murder on that Back to the Future thing, King Kong and Jaws were broken of course and some others were not even open yet. The only thing I liked at Universal was Nickelodean because I was a kid.

My DH had said prior to planning a WDW trip that if we were to go he was going to golf and since I don't know how to golf I said that's fine I'll go tour Epcot alone, not a problem with me.

I don't think the OP should have to sit around alone outside as everyone else is riding rides that she's not comfortable in, nor spending the money they do not have. It's not like one talks to each other on a roller coaster anyways. They scream, put their hands up and yell and shout while I'm grasping for dear life, eyes closed, praying the thing will stop. I'm with ya, not my cup of tea!

 

[cinmell]

My hubby has a big mouth and will invite people OUr neighbors who live downstairs from us are the ones who are coming with us. He didnt think they'd actually be able to go (they just got married in June) so he mentioned it to them. They've been our friends for like 10 years. So they finally say they are coming with us and then blurt out "we have to go to universal too"
Even the other day DH said that if they don't mention it again we weren't going to go.... But they did.

Oh that stinks. When we go on vacation I like it to be just us.

 

[CraftyMouse]

Imagine going to a place where everyone is going to be going on rides all day and you have toi sit there and wait until they come off, just so they could jump right back on another ride? I just don't feel like I need to be there for that. It's pointless. Plus if I went I'd also have to purchase the extra fast pass deal they have there just so I could go on one ride, Spiderman with them. I'm sorry, I said it before, but it's just a waste of money.

I completely agree with you! It seems like this has been turned around into you wanting to get your way. You said up front that you were perfectly happy going to EPCOT that day while they go to Universal but your husband wanted you to go with them. It does stink to have to sit around while everyone else is going on rides you don't like. My DH and I are comfortable enough in our relationship that we can both pursue our own interests from time to time. I believe it makes our marriage stronger. Spending one day apart out of seven isn't too much to ask, IMO.

I hope you have fun!