I don't want to go to UNIVERSAL!!

[MosMom]

Explain to DH that they are perfectly capable of heading to US alone and if he wants to go, he can go as well. You will be going to Epcot and enjoying a day of shopping. There is no reason you have to be glued at the hip. It is possible to enjoy a separate day and not have hard feelings. Just let it go and agree to spend a day apart...you will be back together for the party that night.

 

[ericamanda01]

I agree with this.

I'm a little confused at how many people are telling the OP to just stay in the hotel and do something else. She said in her OP that she already suggested that, but hubby still wants her to go to Universal. I really don't understand that part, and sorry, I don't know how else to convince him this is a good idea. To me, it's pretty obvious from everything you've said here that 1. you'll have a better time at Epcot on your own, and 2. they will have a better time at Universal alone, since they won't have to worry about you being bored while they ride all the rides.

I couldn't agree more! Do what will make you both happy and I hope you both enjoy your trip and your anniversary!

 

[Feralpeg]

THis wasn't that big of a deal until everyone on here made it sound like it! The only thing is, is that I wanted to go soemwhere else the day they went to Universal, because it would be a waste of money for me to be going there. The only ride I will go on is spiderman, I don't like drops/rollercoasters. I've been there before. We aren't made of money, we paid for this trip with tax money and we got the free dining plan. Does being selfish = having no money to waste??

Not taking sides, but there are many things to do at Universal that don't involve thrill rides. DD and I have APs for Universal. Neither one of us do thrill rides, yet we manage to have a great time. There are lots of shows and great shopping. We love just strolling through the various areas of the parks. Try to keep an open mind. You might just have a good time.

 

[skuttle]

Since it's not just you and your DH going on the trip, I don't see the big deal about you skipping universal and staying behind while he goes with the other two people. I think it'll make the entire trip more enjoyable. If you go with him to Universal, you'll probably start to get really tired and aggravated just sitting there waiting for them to ride the rides. If they go to Universal and you stay behind, you'll enjoy your day shopping and be in a great mood when they return that evening. It's not like you're saying he can't go to Universal at all or that you're sending him off to Universal alone. I honestly don't think you're being selfish at all.

 

[HayGan]

I agree with this.

I'm a little confused at how many people are telling the OP to just stay in the hotel and do something else. She said in her OP that she already suggested that, but hubby still wants her to go to Universal. I really don't understand that part, and sorry, I don't know how else to convince him this is a good idea. To me, it's pretty obvious from everything you've said here that 1. you'll have a better time at Epcot on your own, and 2. they will have a better time at Universal alone, since they won't have to worry about you being bored while they ride all the rides.

Count me in as another person who agrees with this

DH and I enjoy doing things together but we also enjoy some very different things. Me and the kids love amusement parks but DH is fine with going once a year. So we often go without him (taking along a grandparent or two ) Actually he has said no more Disney for a few years after this year but I am already planning another trip with the kids next year with my parents (luckily he doesn't read the Dis )

I can understand how your DH would want you to go along but it sounds like you have many valid points why you wouldn't want to go. Marriage is about compromise (and that doesn't always mean doing something you don't want to do just to make them happy!)

Go and hav e a great time! I'm sure you will have a wonderful vacation no matter what you decide!

 

[EEYOREMAMA]

Give me EPCOT or give me a divorce.

I can't believe anyone would choose Universal over Disney. Been there done that, not going back. I'm a a Dis gal all the way and I plan on staying that way

 

[cleo]

The only reason it sends up flags for me is, she told her DH she didn't want to go and would rather go to Epcot and he said he wished she'd come with him. In that case, it does seem really selfish (to me) to say No.

If he'd agreed, no problem. But he wants his wife to share the day with him. If he changes his mind, great! If not, what's so bad about doing something for HIM? He's doing an awful lot for her.

Of course, if she's willing to smile and go her merry way when she really wants him to join her in doing something and he says he'd rather be anywhere else but there, that's great too.

 

[palmtreegirl]

The only reason it sends up flags for me is, she told her DH she didn't want to go and would rather go to Epcot and he said he wished she'd come with him. In that case, it does seem really selfish (to me) to say No.

If he'd agreed, no problem. But he wants his wife to share the day with him. If he changes his mind, great! If not, what's so bad about doing something for HIM? He's doing an awful lot for her.

Of course, if she's willing to smile and go her merry way when she really wants him to join her in doing something and he says he'd rather be anywhere else but there, that's great too.

 

[escape]

I can see both sides here.

My dh and I do stuff like this (split up) all the time and it works out really well. We spend a lot a time together on vacations but if there are other people with us and dh wants to do one thing and I want to do another, we work it out. I tend to want to go, go, go and dh likes to take it nice and easy. We compromise a lot and sometimes we go our seperate ways for a while.

OP - Maybe he's not comfortable being a single with your friends. It is better when you can share the fun and excitement with your loved one. If this isn't the case, perhaps he's afraid that he's letting you down by being with the friends and not you. Try to find out, if you don't know already, what the real motive is behind his thinking you need to be together.

Maybe you can convince him that this is a great opportunity for you both - he can do Universal with friends and you can do some serious shopping at Epcot or other places at WDW. Then you can hookup at dinner and talk all about your day and enjoy the evening together. I don't see anything wrong with this at all - as long as both parties agree to this.

 

[kimmikayb]

What I wonder is why it isn't sending any "red flags" up to anyone that the DH knows how much she dreads US and he still wants her to come??

Count me in as one who doesn't know what the big deal is? It's not even a full day. OP hates US. She's been there, she knows what she likes/dislikes. She isn't throwing a fit about going, she is only asking she stays at Disney and does something she really enjoys. DH has his friends along to have fun with at US. He won't have to worry about OP sitting on a bench waiting for them...and you know that's what would happen. She wouldn't go and enjoy the park in different ways, she'd tag along with the group. Also, didn't I read he said the next trip would be all Disney? OP is perfectly happy to do her own Epcot thing. It is part of one day out of 7? Yes, marriage is about compromise...but I see this as a compromise. Having different interest makes for a fresh marriage even after 50 years. If money was tight, it would just burn my buns to spend even $50 to sit around waiting for the rest of my group to get off the rides.

Same for DH. Sounds like he might not totally enjoy shopping at Epcot, so she'll do that while he is enjoying US. Compromise.

 

[goofyernmost]

He KNOWS I don't like universal and it's only because our friends are going with us FOR OUR ANNIVERSARY that he wants to go to Universal. I don't think I should have to. EVen if they want to I should be able to stay back. AND like I said it would cost $150 for me and I don't go on any of those rides. I don't do roller coasters, so I see it as a waste of money.

I'm wondering, based on what you wrote, are you talking about Universal Studios or Islands of adventure. If it's IofA then I agree but Universal Studios has attractions that rival anything Disney has and are not roller coasters. What comes to mind are Twister, Jaws, Earthquake, Terminator (one of the best in my opinion), ET, Trek 3D, Men in Black and many more. Even IoA has one really good ride and that is Spiderman. True, Universal is not Disney but it is very entertaining.

Of course, the decision is always yours but I'm not sure it is worth the strain on your relationship to fight it for just one day out of seven. Whatever you choose, have a good time.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

spending time apart and having separate interests can also help a marriage last. Personally, I get cranky when I'm told that I HAVE to do something and like it.....tell him that the 3 of them would have a better time at Universal without you.
There's no reason you shouldn't be able to go your way and he go his for 1 day out of the 7 day trip.

Agreed. If I said I am staying behind to go to Epcot, DH would say OK, esp. if he knew I hated Universal.

(I love Universal...but that is besides the point.)

 

[GeorgeG]

I'm with the OP!

We live about an hour away from Universal and one trip there was enough for us. I guess we're just Disney snobs. Walt Disney World and Sea World have more class than Universal ever thought of having. To us, Universal was little more than an amusement park and not worth the price of admission, and if you want the equivalent of WDW's Fast Pass, it cost you $35 more!

We have visitors just about every month and we love to go to WDW and Sea World with them, but if they want to go to Universal they're on their own. I won't go there again.

 

[disykat]

I'm with the OP. I don't see any reason for her to spend a day at Universal watching her dh ride a roller coaster instead of going by herself to enjoy a day at Epcot - especially since it will cost a bunch of money to do so.

A lot of people here are acting like her dh is a little baby who can't go by himself somewhere. Even if that were the case, he'd be with their friends. I'm having a hard time grasping why people think her dh needs someone to watch him ride the roller coasters? It makes him sound very juvenile.

Yes, marriage is about compromise. Your dh should be willing to let you go on your own for one day. It seems like a good way to make everyone happy because everyone gets to do what they want. The option of you going with them only makes 3 of you happy.

I'm not a roller coaster person and I've spent lots of time watching others ride and just enjoying the rest of the day with them - however, if we had other options where we could all do what we enjoyed for the day, I'd definately choose that.

 

[crazee4mickey]

I personally don't see a problem with you going to Epcot (which you love) and DH going off to see what he wants for a day!
Just because you're married doesn't mean you have to do everything together!
I on the other hand would be delighted to spend 6 days at WDW and sacrifice 1 day to Universal just so I could get there!

I think it's just really hard for everyone to see past the "me", "my", "I wants" of your first post. Hope you and hubby can make a happy compromise

ITA! This is why you got the reaction from posters that you did!
It sounded like it was all about you and your wants---now, I'm saying this because this is how it sounded maybe that was not your intention but that is how it sounded.

 

[Keli]

The first two pages of replies really threw me here. I couldn't believe all the people that were saying "Suck it up and go" or "That's what marriage is about" types of things.

If the OP's dh was going to be wondering around the park by himself then I would have completely different thoughts on it but since he would be with friends then I don't see the big deal in the OP not going to Universal.

I think the OP should spend that $150 shopping at disney and having a good time, lol.

What I wonder is why it isn't sending any "red flags" up to anyone that the DH knows how much she dreads US and he still wants her to come??

I could be wrong here but I got the vibe that dh felt the OP wouldn't be happy alone that day and was trying to get her to go with him to Universal so she wouldn't be alone and unhappy. Since the OP is happy to spend the day alone (I wouldn't mind either, I could spend 8 hrs at disney by myself and be perfectly happy while doing it) maybe her dh will be less inclined to encourage her to come. At least that's how it all looked to me.

 

[Laurajean1014]

My son wanted to go with some friends, so we had our friends take him. Another day, the whole lot of them (11) went and I stayed back. Why would I want to pay $60 for a ticket, when I don't want to go (and have an AP to where I want to go)?

I ended up going to AK to ride Expedition Everestt, then hopped over to DTD to do some shopping. Back to the room, relaxed and then went into WS and had dinner in Japan and watched Illuminations.

It was a perfect day for all!

 

[crazyforgoofy]

OP, I'm amazed at some of the responses you're getting. You're 'selfish' because you wanted to keep the plan you'd made before your husband invited the neighbors? You're not a good wife because you don't want to do both Universal parks before going to MNSSHP? Oh for crying out loud!

They all like Universal and roller coasters and you don't. You know you'll be sitting around waiting for them while they ride and ride and ride but you're being accused of being a bad sport because you don't really want to do it plus you don't want to spend the extra $$? You have things you want to do at Epcot and are happy for the others to enjoy Universal without you.

I don't see a problem here unless your husband really thinks you need to be with him at Universal. Now to me, that would be a problem. You're respecting his wish to invite the other couple on your anniversary trip, he can respect your wish as well.

 

[NewJersey]

Are you a child or a grown adult? Bite the bullet, compromise, and enjoy something your husband will love. I could see if he hijacked the entire vacation, but it's only a day. Who knows..you might have a good time!

 

[willis37862]

I have to agree that if your DH can understand( and is ok with it) that you really want to go to Epcot and you will have fun there and you really want him to go with the friends and have a good time then why not split up for the day? My DH would jump at the chance to do something else while I went shopping. Not that he doesn't love me just doesn't like shopping.

But if DH REALLY wants you to go with him and he won't have as much fun without you then I say go with him. It is true marriage works best with compromise and consideration of your mates feelings. You two have to figure out what will keep you both happy on this trip.

But this is the reason I prefer our trips to Disney be just DH and I.