I desperately need advice....

[PrincessKitty1]

She's texting you now so that she can pretend she didn't get your last email. I would ignore it. If she does it again, then you can text "check your email."

ETA: You know, OP, I'm wondering if you should contact the police not to file any complaint but perhaps to ask them what to do. That way if she does contact the police, then you're on record already. Anyone else have any thoughts on that?

This is a civil matter, not a criminal matter. I wouldn't talk to the police unless it becomes a criminal matter (e.g. she tries to steal back the dog, or tries to trespass.

 

[KristiKelly]

Any word today?

 

[WDWFUN]

Gigi is at the vets now getting spayed. She also needed two baby teeth pulled out because they had not fallen yet. Poor baby, I could tell she was nervous but it's best for her.

In regards to ex-co-worker, here is her email from this morning:

"I have been trying to contact you and you have not responded to any of my emails or text. I hope that everything is okay with you and your family. Ever since I told you that I wanted Gigi back, you have been avoiding me. I would really hope that you are not trying to avoid me so that you can keep her... doesn't seem like something you would do.. besides.. I would let you see her like I thought you would let me do.... I hope your new year's was good. take care"

God...I really don't know what to do

 

[MushyMushy]

Gigi is at the vets now getting spayed. She also needed two baby teeth pulled out because they had not fallen yet. Poor baby, I could tell she was nervous but it's best for her.

In regards to ex-co-worker, here is her email from this morning:

"I have been trying to contact you and you have not responded to any of my emails or text. I hope that everything is okay with you and your family. Ever since I told you that I wanted Gigi back, you have been avoiding me. I would really hope that you are not trying to avoid me so that you can keep her... doesn't seem like something you would do.. besides.. I would let you see her like I thought you would let me do.... I hope your new year's was good. take care"

God...I really don't know what to do

You know she's not going to make it easy. The dog is worth it though.

 

[eclectics]

Gigi is at the vets now getting spayed. She also needed two baby teeth pulled out because they had not fallen yet. Poor baby, I could tell she was nervous but it's best for her.

In regards to ex-co-worker, here is her email from this morning:

"I have been trying to contact you and you have not responded to any of my emails or text. I hope that everything is okay with you and your family. Ever since I told you that I wanted Gigi back, you have been avoiding me. I would really hope that you are not trying to avoid me so that you can keep her... doesn't seem like something you would do.. besides.. I would let you see her like I thought you would let me do.... I hope your new year's was good. take care"

God...I really don't know what to do:guilty:

I would send her one last email explaining your decision and why you made that decision. After that, ignore her totally. Good luck. I hope she lets it go.

 

[horseshowmom]

Gigi is at the vets now getting spayed. She also needed two baby teeth pulled out because they had not fallen yet. Poor baby, I could tell she was nervous but it's best for her.

In regards to ex-co-worker, here is her email from this morning:

"I have been trying to contact you and you have not responded to any of my emails or text. I hope that everything is okay with you and your family. Ever since I told you that I wanted Gigi back, you have been avoiding me. I would really hope that you are not trying to avoid me so that you can keep her... doesn't seem like something you would do.. besides.. I would let you see her like I thought you would let me do.... I hope your new year's was good. take care"

God...I really don't know what to do

Ahh, but you have responded to her emails, she just has chosen to ignore them and play innocent (a little manipulative, wouldn't you say?).

 

[kimmikayb]

Gigi is at the vets now getting spayed. She also needed two baby teeth pulled out because they had not fallen yet. Poor baby, I could tell she was nervous but it's best for her.

In regards to ex-co-worker, here is her email from this morning:

"I have been trying to contact you and you have not responded to any of my emails or text. I hope that everything is okay with you and your family. Ever since I told you that I wanted Gigi back, you have been avoiding me. I would really hope that you are not trying to avoid me so that you can keep her... doesn't seem like something you would do.. besides.. I would let you see her like I thought you would let me do.... I hope your new year's was good. take care"

God...I really don't know what to do

Email her back....so you have a copy. Heck, I would make a copy and send it certified to her. Include all the past emails. Explain, you were given the dog because her current housing situation did not allow her to have dogs. Since then you have not only bonded with Gigi, but you have taken care of problems she arrived with (grooming, the hernia, etc). You have given her the daily care and love she needs without any word from Xcoworker.

Be blunt. At this time and point you feel she used you as a pet care giver. I know others can word it better then me.....this is your dog and she is not a very nice person.

The warning to be careful and very watchful of her is good advice. I think they will try to snatch her.


ETA....if you like, your DIS friends should contact her?? LOL!

 

[WDWfor5]

Just wanted to send She is trying to use the fact that you are nice against you (ie. how could such a nice, sweet person like you do this to me?) when what she's really saying is "I thought you were a sucker and I'm now afraid I was wrong"

Hold your ground, keep the dog and text her back saying please check your emails. You could even send a last email saying something like, "....as per our previous emails, when you gave us the dog, we accepted her as a part of the family. Accordingly she has now been spayed and received the proper veternary care you had neglected to get her. We love having her as a member of the family and would prefer not to have any additional ocmmunications with you since you can not seem to understand that."

Good luck with this crazy woman and enjoy the new dog

 

[Beth76]

Reply back to her latest email and copy the exact text from your previous email and include the date and time that it was sent. Make sure you say "I have absolutely responded to your email and this will be the last contact with you. If you need to, you may contact my lawyer."

 

[DisneyBlonde]

She's being manipulative.

for you and Gigi

 

[Beth76]

I hope that everything is okay with you and your family.

I just re-read and saw this. Ooh that makes me

oh and by any chance did she reply directly to your last email? Like in her subject line does it read "re: xxxxxx". That proves she read your email and is responding to it.

 

[horseshowmom]

what she's really saying is "I thought you were a sucker and I'm now afraid I was wrong"

Yep, that's it in a nutshell....

 

[WDWFUN]

This is the email I will send her, Is this ok?
Some parts I got from the Diser's Advice...thanks

"You asked me to take Gigi in as a permanent part of my family and that is exactly what I did.

"Mary, You told me that dogs were not allowed in your new apartment and I would assume that this is the first thing you inquired when you decided to move there.

I am really glad your move has been a good one for you and I wish you and your Boyfriend all the best, but Gigi has a home now and has adjusted beautifully. We have bonded with her in the short time we've had her.

You asking for Gigi back makes me feel like I was used for dog-sitting while you went on vacation for the holidays, when you knew that i was going on vacation December 20th. I took Gigi in December 16th.
Mary, if this were your intentions from the beginning, sneaky part on your move and I'm disappointed.

I asked you the day you dropped Gigi at my home, several times and in front of your boyfriend, if you were sure about your decision of giving her up and that I understood if you changed your mind...BUT at THAT MOMENT, not a month later. It's not fair now, Mary.

Did you not realize that I was going to incure an extra dog sitting fee for Gigi?? Which I didn't mind, she was our dog now.

Since I've had her, Gigi has been groomed, spayed, had two baby teeth removed(they never fell) and given his shots. Gigi can not be bred, she has an umbilical hernia, which is hereditary.

I am confident that you will understand that we are not interested in giving Gigi away, because she is a part of our family now."

 

[Beth76]

I think it's too much; you should make it much simpler. But you do what you feel comfortable with.

Again, attach a copy of your previous email with a date/time stamp to reiterate that you have not ignored her emails. You see how she went from texting to email again? She's trying to create her own truth by making things up in the medium that can be copied.

 

[mariolatry]

That's a good email. I might attach a copy of any email she sent you in which she referred to "giving" you the dog (i.e. the first email she sent) so that she can not play dumb over what you're talking about.

ETA: I would also emphasize that you're not just keeping the dog because you had to pay the boarding fees but because she's already been at your house a month and has bonded with your family.

 

[M 'n C]

I would leave this part out
"You asking for Gigi back makes me feel like I was used for dog-sitting while you went on vacation for the holidays, when you knew that i was going on vacation December 20th. I took Gigi in December 16th.
Mary, if this were your intentions from the beginning, sneaky part on your move and I'm disappointed.

I asked you the day you dropped Gigi at my home, several times and in front of your boyfriend, if you were sure about your decision of giving her up and that I understood if you changed your mind...BUT at THAT MOMENT, not a month later. It's not fair now, Mary.

Did you not realize that I was going to incure an extra dog sitting fee for Gigi?? Which I didn't mind, she was our dog now."

And maybe reword this line just a bit "Since I've had her, Gigi has been groomed, spayed, had two baby teeth removed(they never fell) and given his shots. Gigi can not be bred, she has an umbilical hernia, which is hereditary."

Otherwise I'm not sure what more you can say or do besides ignore her from here on out.

 

[horseshowmom]

This is the email I will send her, Is this ok?
Some parts I got from the Diser's Advice...thanks

"You asked me to take Gigi in as a permanent part of my family and that is exactly what I did.

"Mary, You told me that dogs were not allowed in your new apartment and I would assume that this is the first thing you inquired when you decided to move there.

I am really glad your move has been a good one for you and I wish you and your Boyfriend all the best, but Gigi has a home now and has adjusted beautifully. We have bonded with her in the short time we've had her.

You asking for Gigi back makes me feel like I was used for dog-sitting while you went on vacation for the holidays, when you knew that i was going on vacation December 20th. I took Gigi in December 16th.
Mary, if this were your intentions from the beginning, sneaky part on your move and I'm disappointed.

I asked you the day you dropped Gigi at my home, several times and in front of your boyfriend, if you were sure about your decision of giving her up and that I understood if you changed your mind...BUT at THAT MOMENT, not a month later. It's not fair now, Mary.

Did you not realize that I was going to incure an extra dog sitting fee for Gigi?? Which I didn't mind, she was our dog now.

Since I've had her, Gigi has been groomed, spayed, had two baby teeth removed(they never fell) and given his shots. Gigi can not be bred, she has an umbilical hernia, which is hereditary.

I am confident that you will understand that we are not interested in giving Gigi away, because she is a part of our family now."

Personally, I would delete the parts that I've highlighted in bold.

, when you knew that i was going on vacation December 20th.

and that I understood if you changed your mind...BUT at THAT MOMENT, not a month later. It's not fair now, Mary.

Did you not realize that I was going to incure an extra dog sitting fee for Gigi?? Which I didn't mind, she was our dog now.

At the end I would add to your final sentence (after "a part of our family now") "as was your request."

 

[WDWFUN]

sbclifton;16198323 Personally, I would delete the parts that I've highlighted in bold.

when you knew that i was going on vacation December 20th.

Don't you think I should leave that or not? It would show that she knew I was going on vacation prior to her letting me have Gigi.

 

[M 'n C]

I guess I would try to make the email less personal/emotional and more frank and to the point.

 

[ziggystardust]

I would take out the part about dog sitting. no need for that even if it was her intention. YOu want to make it known that this dog was GIVEN to you for good. Adding too much might get you in trouble in the end. be short and to the point.

You asked me to take Gigi in as a permanent part of my family and that is exactly what I did. Gigi has a home now and has adjusted beautifully. We have bonded with her in the short time we've had her.

Mary, You told me that dogs were not allowed in your new apartment and because of this you decided to give Gigi up. My family was there to take her in when you couldn't.

Since I've had her, Gigi has been groomed, spayed, had two baby teeth removed(they never fell) and given his shots. Gigi can not be bred, she has an umbilical hernia, which is hereditary.

I am confident that you will understand that we are not interested in giving Gigi away, because she is a part of our family now.