I am spoliled and I know it VENTING!!!!

[D L and K's Mom]

We have been truly blessed and have been on many Disney trips. DS is a special needs child and Disney treats him like a KING and we go as often as we can afford it. Well, we were planning on a trip this summer BUT...DD and DH have the opportunity to go to EUROPE with DD's soccer team. It is a great trip. Scotland, Ireland and England. The price is really good and we know we have to take advantage of it...WARNING WARNING WARNING here is where the whining starts....I know I am acting like a big baby but I want to go to WDW!!!! I want to go ....!!!! I know I am thrilled that they can go and DD 14 is the middle child sandwiched between a special needs big brother 16 and a new baby sister 2 she does not get her share of attention. This is her time to shine!! It is a great asventure for her and DH (who will be helping to coach) I want her to go but I want our WDW TRIP TOO!!! We can't afford both and I can't manage the other 2 in WDW alone. I know I am so spoiled! I just needed someone and someplace to vent and feel sorry for myself and my lost trip!! I knew all you Disney lovers would understand. Ok I feel much better and I am now going to plan the trip for 2007!!! I hope they bring me back some great gifts..hee hee

 

[Piglet]

I know how you feel. I know we won't get back this year (last time we visited was last Nov). We are expecting a baby in April and just can't justify spending the money on a trip when we have all that baby furniture to buy. DD is 9 and I had already gotten rid of all of her baby stuff, so it is like starting over again. Now my Brother and his family are leaving on Thanksgiving Day to head for the first trip to WDW and I am so excited for them but I really wish we could go. In the meantime DD and I are working on planning a trip for next fall with the new baby and we have already discussed where we will stay and if we will fly or drive, etc., etc.

 

[safetymom]

Maybe there is a way you could get a mini WDW vacation in there. It sounds like a great opportunity for your kids.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Is there anyway you can get someone to go with you and help with the kids since it's too big of a job for you to do alone? Or, like Safetymom mentioned, a shorter trip for the whole family? Or how about planning something for closer to home for this summer that the whole family can do? How about the new Great Bear Lodge in the Poconos? Or something that's within driving distance that you can do that won't break the bank?

I don't blame you for wanting the trip for your DD and DH, but having mixed feelings. I'd feel the same way!

 

[iwantahemi]

Boo, hoo! Poor little you!

 

[conciergekelly]

Maybe a Disneyland Paris at the end? Just a thought. That would be fun!

 

[m&m's mom]

Maybe a Disneyland Paris at the end? Just a thought. That would be fun!

I like this idea! That sounds like a lot of fun!
I know how you feel as well. We are going to Alaska next Summer and the cost wil be close to $20,000 for us. Can't justify even mini trip to WDW (although I am working so hard to figure out how ). I need to just give it up and concentrate on the fun we will have in Alaska.
Your trip sound like a blast and something very special for your DD. I would go there in a heartbeat.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Maybe a Disneyland Paris at the end? Just a thought. That would be fun!

I think that only her DD and DH will be going to Europe and if they went to DL Paris that might not go over too well.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Boo, hoo! Poor little you!

No need to be nasty!

 

[marybet]

I like this idea! That sounds like a lot of fun!
I know how you feel as well. We are going to Alaska next Summer and the cost wil be close to $20,000 for us. Can't justify even mini trip to WDW (although I am working so hard to figure out how ). I need to just give it up and concentrate on the fun we will have in Alaska.
Your trip sound like a blast and something very special for your DD. I would go there in a heartbeat.

We are starting to plan an Alaska vacation. Are you cruising, land or both? There are so many options, just wondering what you chose.


D,L and K's Mom, I think it is okay to be upset that you can't go to Disney and it is great to have a place to vent. Just be careful that you don't make your DD feel it is her fault that the family can't go to WDW. Sometimes that can happen with just a few ill chosen comments. I don't think you would do this intentionally, just a thought to keep in mind.

 

[Beth76]

No need to be nasty!

Oh please. The title of the thread is "I'm spoiled and I know it". I'm not giving any sympathy either.

 

[poohbears5]

HMMM everyone wake up on the wrong side of the bed.

 

[Mysteria]

Oh please. The title of the thread is "I'm spoiled and I know it". I'm not giving any sympathy either.

It also said just venting. She wasn't looking for sympathy so I'm sure she's just fine with none coming. She was just letting her feelings out in what I found to be a somewhat humorous manner. Lighten up!

Myst

 

[minkydog]

I totally get it. When you have a special child in the family every day is a sacrifice of time, attention, and love. I'm glad your DD has the opportunity to go on this trip. She needs to chance to spread her wings and fly. We do this with my middle child(my only "normal" one) Every summer she & I go on a big production choir tour and she is an "only child" for a week. At first I felt guilty about taking away from our family vacations, but I reconciled that when I realized how much of a boost it give my girl just to be normal for a week out of the year. I still long to go to WDW even though I know we're doing the right thing. Perhaps in 2007...

Cathy--mom to John,19(bipolar),Eleni,12,& Christian,10(severe mental handicap/autism)

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Oh please. The title of the thread is "I'm spoiled and I know it". I'm not giving any sympathy either.

Ordinarily I would agree with you, but in the case of this poster, I know from what I've read that she is not a spoiled brat whining for no reason. I don't think that any of us who do not take care of a special needs child or family member can truly understand what it must be like. "There But for the Grace of God go I" is what I always tell myself when I feel sorry for myself for the little annoyances that I put up with. I so respect those that are taking care of their special needs children and I can't begin to imagine what it would be like. So I do cut some slack and it she wants to vent, I am ready to listen.

 

[poohbears5]

From one mom of a special needs to another vent awayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy!!

 

[minkydog]

Ordinarily I would agree with you, but in the case of this poster, I know from what I've read that she is not a spoiled brat whining for no reason. I don't think that any of us who do not take care of a special needs child or family member can truly understand what it must be like. "There But for the Grace of God go I" is what I always tell myself when I feel sorry for myself for the little annoyances that I put up with. I so respect those that are taking care of their special needs children and I can't begin to imagine what it would be like. So I do cut some slack and it she wants to vent, I am ready to listen.

It's nice to see that parents of normal kids do understand a little of what we go through. There are days when I can't be noble one minute more because I've already cleaned up the dishes which were smashed by a child in an autistic rage, driven a different child to see the psychiatrist(again) in hope that he won't kill himself during the night, and experienced all the eye-rolling and hair-blowing of a typical, hormonal 12yo girl who didn't get picked for the choir solo. On days like that i just go into my room and scream awhile. Thankfully, most days are not as dramatic(some days are worse!)
Most of the parents of special needs kids would rarely, if ever, complain about their kids in a public forum, mostly because they know that others just can't comprehend it. But thanks for standing up for the OP. I'll tell you what--don't ever think this can't happen to you

 

[Chicago526]

You know, after going to WDW 3 times in 36 months, I personally WANT a break from WDW. I feel like I don't appreciate it anymore. Why not see this as a way to take a break from WDW vacations and then when you do go back, you'll fall in love with it all over again! You'll appreciate your trip in '07 SO much more by skiping a year, I think, and have an even better time because of it!

 

[kasar]

Luckily, WDW will be there for you next year and it will be all the more special because you missed it!

Sounds like your DD will have a ball and I agree, sounds like she could use this special trip with her dad. You'll be okay!!!!!

 

[Shugardrawers]

I sure don't see a reason to be nasty or unsympathetic. There have been many times I've sacrificed for someone else at the expense of what I wanted. I still wanted what I gave up and was a bit disappointed but I knew I was giving to the greater good so to speak. Sounds to me like that's what the OP is saying too. She doesn't resent this trip to Europe, she's just kinda bummed that it means there's no room for the WDW trip she wanted. And she's not saying they shouldn't go either. Come on moms, how many times have you bought a treat for yourself (ice cream, candy, whatever) and wound up letting the kids have it? Didn't you still want it? Of course you did.