I am so upset and don't know what to do....

[caroline1851]

I think that the tickets are hers and she needs to keep them and use them at a later date or take the loss. She knew what she was getting into and if she didn't, that's not your fault either. You shouldn't take the $1000 loss either....don't let her mom bully you.

ditto

 

[Teacher03]

My best advice is DO NOT take the girl as a friend or otherwise. My son took his girlfriend one summer, and she had a blast but he had a terrible time. We didn't know it, but he wasn't happy in the relationship but felt bad because we had already asked her, she paid for her ticket (we paid for everything else). We loved her, but he didn't.

OP, I think you should just give her mother the tickets and that should be the end of it. You are not obligated to give her the money back.

 

[craigs bride]

i just had to reply ........my daughters friend is coming with us next yr and at the moment they are not best buddies so to speak as they are hanging with different friends
we have told our dd and her friend/parents that if she pays for flight tickets then they majorly fall out she does have the option still to come BUT if she decides not to then she will not get a refund as we cant afford to give back her money and they are fine with this ....im hoping this doesnt happen !

could the ex girl friend still not come just as friends ?
sorry just read other posts about this ...

 

[crzy4mickey]

The mom agreed to let her go and you did exactly what was asked of you. That's the end. It is not your responsibiltiy to refund her the money. Just give her the tickets and let her deal with it. It is not your son's responsibility to pay her back either! Don't even deal with the mom, give everything to the (ex)girlfreind. I would worry about bringing her as a friend what if it turns ugly! IF they are good friends then maybe they can go and have a good time but you never know (as you already learned) what can happen. Good luck. But maybe i'm free...when are you going?

 

[arielchickenofthesea]

I would tell the mother that according to Disney, tickets are non-transferable and non-refundable. I would give her the tickets and phone numbers and tell her that if she wants to invest her own time into trying to get her money back, to be your guest, but you are not going to spend hours of your time doing it.

ABSOLUTELY! The tickets are not refundable, so why should you pay the girl or her mother for the tickets. The airline will NOT refund you the money, and you should not have to pay them and lose money. It is not your fault she is not going!

I have seen these very cases on Judge Judy and you would have every right to just give the girl the tickets and tell her to call the airlines if she wants to fight for a refund. The airline will tell her when she can use them and that she will NOT get a refund and that will be that.

The mother has no right to expect YOU to pay for them out of your pocket if it is the airlines policy. She is out of her mind if she thinks YOU owe her the money. If anyone does, it is the airlines and they have their policies. Sheesh! Do NOT pay her for the tickets. She wanted to go and now she isn't, but that is not YOUR fault and you owe her nothing but the tickets...those are hers, she paid for them and that is what she is entitled to.

ariel

 

[snykymom]

Yes, I saw a case almost identical to this one on Judge Judy (or was it People's Court? Whatever - can you tell I watch too much TV? ). The response: The tickets are non-refundable. You can still use them if you wish; that's not the defendant's problem. Defendant, give plaintiff the tickets and we're done.

 

[mvmarcz]

Give the girl the tickets, she paid for them, they are non refundable, it's all on her.
And if her mother gets in your face about it tell her she let her daughter put the money down and if she felt her daughter was adult enough to make the decision to go and pay for it they should both be adult enough to accept the consequences. It's a terrible thing to have happened but if you give the girl the tickets and she feels they may still reconcile then she can hold onto them before deciding to try and get rid of them.

 

[arielchickenofthesea]

Yes, I saw a case almost identical to this one on Judge Judy (or was it People's Court? Whatever - can you tell I watch too much TV? ). The response: The tickets are non-refundable. You can still use them if you wish; that's not the defendant's problem. Defendant, give plaintiff the tickets and we're done.

Me too...Love the judge shows... hehehehe But you can glean a whole lot of good info from them and this is a case that says you do not have to pay for the tickets, you just must give the tickets to the one who paid for them...

ariel

glad to see I am not the only one watching daytime TV...I am retired and some days I am too tired to do anything else but watch the judge shows. Love those... heeheehee

 

[7beasley]

I did not read through the whole thread yet so forgive me if someone already posted this...but maybe your DS has another friend who would like to go with him in place of his girlfriend...if so - the friend can "buy" the tickets from the girlfriemd.

Just a thought.

Good luck.

Nicole

 

[disneyfav4ever]

Maybe, YOU could invite her to come with YOU, not as his girlfriend, but as a family friend who already has tickets and needs someone to go with.

Hope it works out for all of you.

I agree with this. I have no idea what the situation is between your DS and his ex, but I know several couples who have broken up, but remained friends.

 

[DisneyJen0504]

I would tell the mother that according to Disney, tickets are non-transferable and non-refundable. I would give her the tickets and phone numbers and tell her that if she wants to invest her own time into trying to get her money back, to be your guest, but you are not going to spend hours of your time doing it.

I totally agree.

 

[rie'smom]

Give her the tickets. She can use the WDW tickets anytime. As for the MVMCP ticket, year before last I bought 4 and then my brother and his fiance decided to get married the same night that as we planned to use the MVMCP tickets. Instead of the tickets being wasted, I gave them to someone on the DIS. Suggest that to her or if you want to put yourself out for her, tell her that you'll sell them, if you can,for her.
In no way should you bear the responsibilty for any of these tickets.

 

[Buckeyemouse]

I agree with most other posters that it is the girl's problem not yours. I would not invite her to come down with you as a friend (too awkward). I wish my DD and her boyfriend would break up. It would be worth $1,000 dollars to me.

 

[parmtoo]

I agree with most other posters that it is the girl's problem not yours. I would not invite her to come down with you as a friend (too awkward). I wish my DD and her boyfriend would break up. It would be worth $1,000 dollars to me.

I've been there too! There were a few during my DDs dating years that would have glady paid to be rid of!!!!!!!!!

 

[mrp4352]

I may be too over-the-top here, but since the Mom is being such a pain over the refund.. When you give them the tickets, you might consider getting something in writing that says they took possession of the tickets.

Hopefully it won't come to the point where you need that, but it wouldn't hurt to be prepared.

 

[HdnMickeyGrl]

Sounds like maybe it's mom and not the gf who paid the $1000. But honestly that's her loss. I guess with two years invested in the relationship it seemed like a pretty sure thing but it honestly sounds like gf should be paying mom and dad back for the $1000 minus the plane ticket.

You could always suggest she try to sell them for face value. She could try to do that on Craigslist. You should be able to get a refund for the MVMCP ticket. I couldn't go to the Halloween party last year and my mother got a refund by returning the ticket. Of course, she did this at the park. I would assume the Christmas party would be the same way. It's not much but it's something toward the $1000.

I guess the only argument against you is that maybe you could have waited to buy the tickets, etc... but if you had already asked for the money and had planned this ahead then it shouldn't be a surprise to them that everything had been purchased.

 

[LisaInNc]

I would give her back the tickets, they can still be used and have thair valuel. To me it seems LUCKY that the airline will issue her a credit and she still has the tickets for a later trip.

Hand it over to your son to deliver to the girl and let the Mom deal with Disney if she wants a refund.

The Mom should know better! It's life sometimes it doesn't work out.

 

[aribelle]

I've been sitting here, wondering how I would handle this situation if one of my kids put me in your postition. This is what I came up with...
I would let the girl, and her family, deal with the airfare issue themselves. They get a credit, they can use it down the road. If not, that's their issue.
The park tickets are good forever. She can hold onto those or sell them to someone else..her choice.
The special party tickets I would pay her back for and then try to sell them to someone while in Disney, the night of the party. Those are not going to be usable on any other date, so you need to try to sell them yourself.

I'm curious why you think that the OP should be the one "out" the money for the special party tickets? If you feel that the girl and her family have the responsibility for dealing with their own airline and park ticket refunds, why not the special party tickets? Not trying to start anything, just curious what reasoning you use to say the girl is responsible for her own airline and park tickets, but not the special party tickets? Weren't they all paid in the same spirit.....that the girl was going, not really as a guest of the OP because she was paying her own way, but more as "sure come along".

If you or I had purchased special party tickets and then for whatever reason, be it our fault or someone else's fault or no-one in particular's fault, then we'd be out that special party money, and maybe other things as well. It's part of the risk you take when you purchase something so far in advance. How many posts do we see on DIS where someone had to cancel their trip last minute and is out all kinds of money (non-refundable airline tickets being the biggest one I see, but quite often the part tickets too). There is a post from the last day or two about a military family where they are schedule to leave in less than a week and DH's leave is being held up because of some paperwork, and because it's so close that family stands to lose a LOT in terms of airfare, deposits, etc. And it certainly isn't THEIR fault....DH put in for his leave quite some time ago, was conditionally approved (typical of military, they'll never say yes because the very meaning of being in the military is ready to go at a moment's notice......as far as the military is concerned he could be at Disney for a single day of his 10 day leave and be recalled and too bad for the family). But now, because some higher up is sitting on paperwork his leave is in jeopardy. Shouldn't someone somewhere be responsible for this family getting all their money back if they can't go now? The military certainly won't reimburse them....Disney may or may not, they certainly don't have to, but pixie dust tends to be strong over military families.

Perhaps the girl and her family in this thread could contact Disney, explain the situation and request a refund. Disney has reportedly given a few refunds, but it seems to be on a case by case basis, so maybe she'll get lucky, maybe she'll have to lose that $50 and chalk it up to the cost of a break up and making plans in advance. A relatively inexpensive life lesson really. And we all know if Disney says no, even though these say non-transferable a quick look at Ebay and you can see that's not stopping people from reselling them.

I still believe that the girl is responsible for her own cancelled trip expenses. OP shouldn't have to bear them as OP did nothing wrong. Neither did the girl really, but it was her money and her decision, and not she has to face the same consequences of cancelling a trip as ANY of us have to, and that includes loss of money.

 

[HdnMickeyGrl]

I think perhaps because the gf wanted to go to the park but maybe not necessarily a special event. The OP was the one who planned to attend the special event party night so perhaps that was the reasoning behind thinking the OP shoud be the one to refund for that particular ticket. However, as my above post shows. The OP should be able to get a refund for the party ticket so it's kind of a moot point. My mother was able to get a refund for the Halloween party last year. She just gave them back the ticket. Although, like I said, she did this in person so the OP might have to do this in person.

 

[snykymom]

glad to see I am not the only one watching daytime TV

Around here, Judge Judy & People's Court are on in the early evenings! Unfortunately, I'm not yet able to watch daytime TV routinely - not quite retired.