I am ready to KILL my Dh, I really am (warning:snoring vent ahead)

[Disney1fan2002]

OMG! I get no sleep, because once I am awake, his snoring shakes the walls. I shove him, kick him, punch him all to get him to roll over, which he does, but 15 minutes later, he is snoring again. Last night, I had it. I have decided that is this keeps up, I am kicking him out of the bed, he can go sleep on the couch. Why should I have to leave my warm, cozy bed to sleep on the couch? (I have been doing it for years).

Either that, or I keep him awake as long as I am awake, and see how he likes it.

We went away this weekend, and my DS 13 told my Dh he is never allowed to complain about my snoring again. (yes, DH insists I snore, I know I don't, the kids will defend me). So the kids had to listen to DH all weekend, and now they won't let him use the excuse that I snore because they couldn't believe how loud his snoring was. LOL I looked at DS and just said "welcome to my world".

I am going out to look for over the counter remedies, and in April when DH has his Dr. appointment, I am going to have him mention it. I have lost all my patience.

 

[Christine]

The solution is separate bedrooms. Really. Unless he has apnea and you can correct this.

 

[wdwfan16]

Earplugs

 

[Tony-NJ]

Here's what I did after 5 years of getting no sleep.

1) tape him, he will probably be shocked that he can make those sounds.
2) demand he go to a sleep Dr / clinic and do a sleep study.
3) ear plugs! Now that partner is on the c-pap machine I sleep fine, but now I snore - so he wears earplugs.

 

[dawn1620]

The solution is separate bedrooms. Really. Unless he has apnea and you can correct this.

This is the route DH and I had to take about our third year of marriage. We tried everything and it got to the point neither one of us was getting any sleep, we were fighting all the time and we were exhausted. We tried ear plugs and every over the counter remedy we could find. He was not overweight and he does smoke but he did not want to quit so this was our only solution. At the time we both just wanted some relief and a good night rest. But one night turned into 10 years later.

Some people find it weird but it's just routine to us now. We each have our own bedrooms and it's nice because we each have our own space. I do miss being beside him at night sometimes but it is what it is.

And I've had a few people ask...other areas of our relationship have not been affected by having separate rooms.

 

[Mellie2162]

Sleep study time. I would make sure you go and mention it to the doctor because Im betting he wont. Seriously people do die from apnea. Now that my dh is on a cpap we live in harmony, except he says my snoring keeps him up now. I think its time for me to go in.

And for what its worth Im betting you snore too, just probably no where near as loud as the freight train, lol.

 

[puffkin]

My mom suffered for years with this issue. My dad went through all the studies and a cpap wouldn't help him. He ended up having some surgery which helped for about 6 months, and now he is as bad as ever. When I went to college, my mom moved into my room (she slept on the couch when I was home on breaks). 5 years ago my parents built a new house, a split bedroom ranch. My mom sleeps in the master and my dad sleeps in the rear back bedroom. They are so much happier now.

My DH snores now too. He isn't overweight and doesn't smoke. He sees an ENT for sinus issues and I want them to address the snoring issue soon. It is so bad it is starting to affect my sleep. It is funny though, he goes to bed at least an hour before me and he is quiet the whole time. I will even read in bed for 30 minutes before going to sleep and he is quiet. As soon as I flip the light off he starts the snoring. I kick, prod, push, etc and it only helps for a few minutes. Luckily I am a fairly solid sleeper and fall asleep quickly, so if i can get him quiet for 5 minutes I can usually get to sleep.

 

[Pumbaa_]

you do realize he can't help this right? SO all the kicking punching, shoving in the world will not help this situation.

Medical treatment is required and sleep elsewhere until it is resolved (if it is)

My dad had the medical treatment and there was no long term change

 

[Katie Dawn]

As far as ear plugs go, I highly recommend the Hearos brand... get the blue ones. They do a great job.

Not that I have any experience with what you're talking about or anything...

 

[loveysbydesign]

separate bedrooms here too du to dh's snoring..but we live in an old house so at least they are connected!

 

[MosMom]

I drug myself. It is really bad when DH and both dogs are snoring.

I recommend Walmart brand Liquid Sleep Gels.

 

[LoveDopey]

Ditto for the sleeping drugs and earplugs. I tried the separate bedrooms thing and when DH husband snored loud enough to wake himself up he'd come crawl in beside me in the spare room, so I'd move to the next spare room and we played musical beds all night.

 

[DisneyJules]

My boyfriend started using "breathe easy strips" and then started making his own from a youtube tutorial (they were so costly to buy!) This REALLY helped and he stopped snoring and now he only snores on the rare occasion. Good luck with that! I know how frusturating it is.

 

[Kae]

" How can I be snoring I am not even a sleep?" I hear this all the time. When DH gets bad I know it is time to diet by losing 10 pounds it stops.

Kae

 

[ski_mom]

We use what we call a noise maker - one of those sound machines. We keep it turned up somewhat loudly. It might not help everyone and some find them annoying, but at least the sound that you hear is a steady sound.

 

[MickeyMomOfThree]

Snoring is not something he can control, not only that but if it is that bad there can be something seriously wrong. My DH has sleep apenia. His snoring was terrible so he went to the doctor and has been using a CPAP for about 10 years. It works great.

I shoudl probably stope there and say no more since I try really hard to not say negative things but your post made me really sad. You sort of sounded like he was doing it on purpose or to be a jerk when this is something that if goes untreated can be fatal. Maybe I am sensitive to it because it worried me terribly when my DH was first being treated for it, but I guess if someone had cancer would you kick them? Course not, this seems to me to be really the same.

 

[MosMom]

Well, try not to get too upset because not all snoring cases are apnea and it normal to be frustrated by it.

You said you were going to stop there but then you went ahead and got your little disapproving dig in. Feel better? She knows he isn't doing it on purpose but it is annoying to be kept up all night by it. I think comparing snoring to cancer is a little dramatic.

 

[MELISAZACK]

Sleep study and CPA.. does wonders for the sonring. My DH was made to sleep in another room until he did it. May will be 1 year with the machine and until recently it was wonderful... His newest thing is letting his mouth open and it sounds like a jet plane engine....lol.. we have an easy fix chin strap but had to order it and it is taking FOREVER to get it back! 2 wks now and still they haven't had it approved by medicare and we are still waiting.

 

[MickeyMomOfThree]

Mosmom, I have to respectfully disagree, it is obviously a medical condition. Everyone can snore a little, but if it is that bad that the walls are rattling, then something si going in. It may not be apenia, but it is something for sure. For her to punch, kick and hit? Really? If a man said this you'd be all over him.

And I am not at all unsympathetic, DH and I have been married 17 years and he got his machine 10 years ago. I had 7 years of terrible sleep. I know how miserable it can be. On top of that he is now dealing with a condition related to DVT. He just had surgery last week but it is another condition where people can just die in their sleep. I have not slept more then an hour (at night) in the months since we have been dealing with this because I doze off and wake up in a panic that he's not going to be OK. Thankfully I can take an afternoon nap if I need to and I have been sleeping a little better since his surgery but not great. But I am sorry, this is my opinion, but if she came here and vented that she was sleepy and annoyed, I would get it, but to hit, punch and kick someone for doing something that they can't medically control is wrong to me.

 

[SpecialK]

Well, try not to get too upset because not all snoring cases are apnea and it normal to be frustrated by it.

You said you were going to stop there but then you went ahead and got your little disapproving dig in. Feel better? She knows he isn't doing it on purpose but it is annoying to be kept up all night by it. I think comparing snoring to cancer is a little dramatic.

Ditto.

My husband's snoring is caused by allergies - that he is just now admitting that he has. It's no fun to be sleep deprived. I get angry,too, even though I know it's not rational.