I am FAT... it is "ok" to use the word in front of me.

[Papa Deuce]

I was talking to my absolute best friend tonight. He has been my buddy since 1978, So tonight we were talking about health issues. And not once, but TWICE, he referred to me as "thick" -- not fat. And he used the word "thick" several times in our conversation.

Yeah, I know he was being PC or polite, but as long as he isn't making fun of my "fatness", and is just using the correct word, I am TOTALLY OK with him using the word "FAT". And I realize that "thick" is the new PC word to replace fat.

Have we become SO politically correct, that best friends for 28 years have to worry about how your best friend will take it, if you use a politically incorrect term?

Would you want to be referred to as "thick"?.... not me.

 

[FreshTressa]

PC'ness is so funny....

As if using a new word to mean the same thing will somehow be less offensive.

Pretty soon, the PC word becomes offensive because it still means the same darn thing!!!

Like the word special....which started out as a nice way to say mentally challenged. Now it is an insult. It used to be okay to say ********, but not anymore. Pretty soon it won't be okay to say challenged.

But...I will say whatever the PC word of the day is to be polite, even though it makes no sense to me.

 

[Ladyhawke10]

Language is always in process, and it's good to open up new ways of thinking by coming up with new words to replace others that have more negative connotations (like coming up with Native American over Indian, which is a better descriptor and much more accurate than using the title Columbus gave them when he incorrectly identified them...). Anyway, it might seem arbitrary at first, but there's a world of history behind each and every word that ultimately affects culture (and individuals) in subtle, but sometimes important, ways.

 

[Ladyhawke10]

I was talking to my absolute best friend tonight. He has been my buddy since 1978, So tonight we were talking about health issues. And not once, but TWICE, he referred to me as "thick" -- not fat. And he used the word "thick" several times in our conversation.

Yeah, I know he was being PC or polite, but as long as he isn't making fun of my "fatness", and is just using the correct word, I am TOTALLY OK with him using the word "FAT". And I realize that "thick" is the new PC word to replace fat.

Have we become SO politically correct, that best friends for 28 years have to worry about how your best friend will take it, if you use a politically incorrect term?

Would you want to be referred to as "thick"?.... not me.

Then tell your long time best friend how you feel! He'd probably laugh that he was trying to dance around your feelings if you'd prefer another term. What subject were you talking about anyway? I was trying to imagine a conversation with my friends where they'd be referring to my weight again and again, and I couldn't come up with one

I wouldn't want to be referred to as "thick.." I always liked the "shapely" euphemisms

 

[magicgirl]

Over here if someone calls you thick it means stupid.

 

[Tink's Pixieduster]

People in the U.S., at least where I live, also say if someone is stupid they are "thick". I would be hurt and upset if someone called me thick, and I think that the person(s) who use this as a euphemism for being overweight are pretty thick themselves.

A couple I knew several years ago were both overweight. He called her "Puffy", and she called him "Fluffy".

 

[C.Darwin]

could it have been a vague sexual innuendo, rather than a remark about your weight?

 

[tevagirl]

I prefer 'roomy'.

 

[Pixiedust34]

I like the term "Pooh sized." I read it on The Dis.

 

[DaisyD]

Thick around here means slow. Perhaps your friend was being honest afterall? LOL! Just kidding!

 

[Disney_1derland]

'thick' is worse than fat in my opinion. It just sounds worse. I'm fat too. I'm okay with it. I'm working on it. (well, okay, right now I'm working on getting more fat, but still, I'm working on it ) Women wouldn't call each other fat I don't think, but then again I can't see my best friend calling me thick either. Odd. very odd. I think the PC thing is so far out of hand it's a monster nobody can control.

 

[DisTeach1]

Personally, I agree with the OP. Call it like it is, but why is your friend calling you fat or thick? Also, I hate, hate the word "Pooh sized". Again, call it like it is.

 

[DaisyD]

Personally, I agree with the OP. Call it like it is, but why is your friend calling you fat or thick? Also, I hate, hate the word "Pooh sized". Again, call it like it is.

Oh yea. Pooh sized sounds ridiculous. It is like someone thinks they are cute and not fat when referring to themselves as Pooh sized. I'm fat but I am working on it. I joined WW last week and have lost 5lbs so far.

 

[sweetlovin']

I'm not politically correct, but I say bigger. Thick to me means stupid and I don't at all like being called stupid.

When I refer to me, I use the word fat. When referring to anyone else, I use the word bigger. But thats just me.

 

[Planogirl]

I thought that "heavyset" was the new PC term. I just can't keep up!

 

[Disney1fan2002]

The kids at work are always shocked when they hear me refer to myself as fat. It is too funny!

Hey, it is a fact. No denying, right?

 

[LBAK]

I'm fat, no other word just fat. It is what it is. I got myself this way and now I have to figure out how to get un-fat!

 

[nliedel]

Language is always in process, and it's good to open up new ways of thinking by coming up with new words to replace others that have more negative connotations (like coming up with Native American over Indian, which is a better descriptor and much more accurate than using the title Columbus gave them when he incorrectly identified them...). .

You know most Native Americans really don't care what you call us as long as it's polite. Most of my friends who are NA (short for Native American) call ourselves NA or The People and don't use either term. When we type about it we use the abbreviation NDN. Some still call themselves Indian and get up in arms about people being so Politically correct.

Pow Wow is always a hoot cause you have these people running around in what they think is tribal wear talking really loud and using the term, Native American in the most self concious way. I swear some think we are about to go wild and scalp them!

The only term most of us really object to is "Squaw" but Injun is almost as bad and any term using the word, "red" is not so hot either.

For the most part the white people make a much bigger deal about it than we do. In fact I would bet most people would not know a Native American if they fell over one. A lot of us look true to type but more of us don't and I have never heard anyone talk slow like they do in the movies.

Rant off.

 

[Ava83]

I think Rubenesque would have been nice

But I agree with you call it what it is.

But DH was calling himself fat a couple of weeks ago and DD picked up on it went and patted his tummy and asked him if that was fat. I told him to knock it off (don't want her calling people that in Target), that is a case where I want him to use a different word. I don't think he knew she would listen to us as we talk to each other (she was one room over)

DH just joined my gym last week by the way.

 

[NMAmy]

This thread made me remember a teacher I had in high school who was talking about the different connotations words could have. For example, pulchritude sounds TERRIBLE but means beauty. He used to joke that instead of fat, we were to refer to him as "Stout." Sounds manly and reminds you of beer.

But thick is terrible--it makes me think of someone stupid, too. Your friend definitely needs to quit calling people thick.