hubby will not let us go to disney..

[crisi]

I have the name of a good Divorce attorney

Pass it to her husband.

My brother in law divorced a woman a few years ago who would come into the state (they moved out of state for her job, which she almost immediately quit) to visit friends and her family, and she never wanted to make time to visit his. It eventually became obvious to him that his family was important to him - but it wasn't at all important to her and she wasn't willing to compromise on it. There were other incompatibilities (finances) but this was a big contributor. And because of the financial incompatibilities, him visiting his family when it wasn't a priority of hers became out of the question.

People, particularly the people who your husband called "Mommy" and "Daddy" when he was four, are more important than a mouse. Even this mouse. Suck it up and be an adult. Your in-laws will not be around forever.

 

[noodleknitter]

Pass it to her husband.


People, particularly the people who your husband called "Mommy" and "Daddy" when he was four, are more important than a mouse. Even this mouse. Suck it up and be an adult. Your in-laws will not be around forever.

Entirely.

How would the OP like it if her kids chose Disney over her, because of a selfish spouse?

 

[Rachie0507]

Long car rides are necessarily bad for kids We go to rural New Brunswick, Canada every other year to visit my DH's family. It takes 11 hours to drive there (no airports around, I asked before first trip ) First time with the kids, they were 1 and 2. Take breaks, bring toys, have snacks, etc. We'll be going next summer with 3 kids for the first time--they will be 1, 7, 8. I can't wait

 

[jenrein]

If you live that far away then 6-8 hours is pretty darn close when visiting the same STATE. I would never dream of going that far and NOT visiting my in laws.

 

[zoie101]

we drive from PA 19 hoursnot too bad with a laptpop and dvd plaver in the car!
You can do it!

 

[FayeW]

Hey, OP, the glass is half full!

Hubby didn't say no to Disney...he said Yes, on the condition that you go to Pensacola, too. You can figure this out. Lots of people have taken small kids on long drives, myself included. It's not always pleasant, but it hasn't killed us yet. It's a 16 hour drive to my parents house and 3 days to drive to my in-laws (and that includes an 8 hour ferry ride, and a full day's drive across the province after that.) You'll survive.

Maybe you can use it as a bargaining chip as well to get a few extra days on the trip. If you agree to go to Pensacola you could make it a condition that you will only agree to the split trip if you can spend a minimum of XXX days at WDW. So, if you usually go for 7 days, you could agree to minimum 5 days in Orlando, so you add on a couple of extra days at the beginning to spend 3 days with hubby's family and a travel day. Fly in to Pensacola, spend 3 days, rent a car that can be dropped in Orlando, drive to Orlando, enjoy WDW, and fly home from Orlando.

 

[tzolkin]

we just made the trip in may. we drove straight through (24hours) to visit DH's family in vero beach and go to a wedding. then we spent 9 days at disney before driving home. our kids are 9, 4, & 2 and the drive really was fine with them. we expected it to be miserable (but had no other option), but it actually wasn't bad at all.

even with the prices of gas and the time, it was fairly inexpensive. we spent about $500 for gas to make the round-trip and driving around while there. that was nothing compared to 5 plane tickets and renting a car for 3 weeks.

plus we were able to use "disney budget logic"... we didn't have any travel expenses for our disney trip, because the gas/travel was really an expense for visiting the family. so all the disney trip cost us was hotel, tickets, and food.

 

[dana1003]

ok ok this is the OP..point taken

 

[Benducci]

ok ok this is the OP..point taken

and what did you decide? I am curious.

 

[DawnM]

We are actually planning a trip to WDW with added days built in this time to go visit DH's 95 year old grandmother in Miami. We aren't sure she will be around too much longer.

I think it is important to do what you need to do to keep family relationships on good terms.

Could you go to see In Laws for 3 full days and then do Disney M-F????

We don't care for Disney on weekends anyway, so visiting on Sat and Sun is best for us. You could do a long weekend with them and then weekdays at Disney.

Dawn

 

[PastorsWife]

You have to think about how much time it REALLY takes to fly.

How long does it take to DRIVE to the airport?
How long does it take to park and get to the terminal?
How long does it take to check in, go through security and wait at the gate?
How long is the flight?
How long will it take to get your bags?
How long will it take to rent a car or ride a bus to the hotel?

Get an inverter and bring a laptop, or bring a car DVD player. Then, play Disney DVDs the whole way. You'll have to wrestle them out of the car.

 

[DawnM]

This is absolutely true!

Our last trip was a 10 hour car ride.

To have flown to our destination, we would have had:

1 hour to our local airport
1 to 2 hour wait through lines at the airport
3 hour flight
45 min. min. to exit plane and get luggage
1 hour drive to our destination

= about 8 hours instead of 10. Not a big savings in time and a whole lot more money to fly!

Dawn

You have to think about how much time it REALLY takes to fly.

How long does it take to DRIVE to the airport?
How long does it take to park and get to the terminal?
How long does it take to check in, go through security and wait at the gate?
How long is the flight?
How long will it take to get your bags?
How long will it take to rent a car or ride a bus to the hotel?

Get an inverter and bring a laptop, or bring a car DVD player. Then, play Disney DVDs the whole way. You'll have to wrestle them out of the car.

 

[dana1003]

we are thinking of two options...driving to orlando,stay a few days ,then drive
to pensacola or fly out of philly for 600$ then drive to pensacola(then of course w/that option we have to rent a car) havent decided..but i do have an off topic question for all of you..

hubby might have a job offer in fort walton. my family lives in jersey and his family lives in pensacola. when i mentioned to my mom that we might possibly be moving she had a nervous breakdown. saying how could i take the grandkids away from here, thats all she has to live for, blah blah blah..now i dont know what to do. i told hubby and he says she being selfish, she has a house, shes raised her kids, etc. its our turn. fact of the matter is, we will never be able to own a home in jersey and fort walton at least has possibilities..i am very torn. BTW, these are her only grandkids..need advice.

 

[noodleknitter]

we are thinking of two options...driving to orlando,stay a few days ,then drive
to pensacola or fly out of philly for 600$ then drive to pensacola(then of course w/that option we have to rent a car) havent decided..but i do have an off topic question for all of you..

hubby might have a job offer in fort walton. my family lives in jersey and his family lives in pensacola. when i mentioned to my mom that we might possibly be moving she had a nervous breakdown. saying how could i take the grandkids away from here, thats all she has to live for, blah blah blah..now i dont know what to do. i told hubby and he says she being selfish, she has a house, shes raised her kids, etc. its our turn. fact of the matter is, we will never be able to own a home in jersey and fort walton at least has possibilities..i am very torn. BTW, these are her only grandkids..need advice.

So, you care about your mom but not his.

 

[dana1003]

So, you care about your mom but not his.

oops..didnt mean it to sound mean..but his parents have 16 grandkids-all of whim live within 20 min of them..so will 2 more make a difference? it would to my parents.

 

[crisi]

oops..didnt mean it to sound mean..but his parents have 16 grandkids-all of whim live within 20 min of them..so will 2 more make a difference? it would to my parents.

You have one child, could you dispose of the other one?

 

[Miniefan]

we are thinking of two options...driving to orlando,stay a few days ,then drive
to pensacola or fly out of philly for 600$ then drive to pensacola(then of course w/that option we have to rent a car) havent decided..but i do have an off topic question for all of you..

hubby might have a job offer in fort walton. my family lives in jersey and his family lives in pensacola. when i mentioned to my mom that we might possibly be moving she had a nervous breakdown. saying how could i take the grandkids away from here, thats all she has to live for, blah blah blah..now i dont know what to do. i told hubby and he says she being selfish, she has a house, shes raised her kids, etc. its our turn. fact of the matter is, we will never be able to own a home in jersey and fort walton at least has possibilities..i am very torn. BTW, these are her only grandkids..need advice.

First of all, what's the big deal, go to WDW and visit the in-laws. You probably get to see your mom on a regular basis so you are taking for granted the fact that your hubby is not able to see his parents as easily.

Secondly, there is definitely more to Pensacola than Wal-mart! You obviously haven't visited your in-laws too frequently.

And last, Ft. Walton is a much smaller town than Pensacola, but it is however only about a half hour away, are you sure you want to be that close to your in-laws?

Kim

 

[cheerforchelsea]

My husband says "he is tired of Disney".......so we leave him at home with the dogs!!

 

[Aliceacc]

Instead of making this into a "his parents vs her parents" thing, why not take a step back??

Does he want the job??? Would it be an improvement for your family over the job he's holding now?? How would it effect your quality of life?? How are the schools???

A decision as important as whether or not to move 1,000 miles to a new job should NOT be about whose parents you'll be closer to. It should be about your life as a family, the opportunities it presents for you, your husband, and your kids.

 

[dana1003]

First of all, what's the big deal, go to WDW and visit the in-laws. You probably get to see your mom on a regular basis so you are taking for granted the fact that your hubby is not able to see his parents as easily.

Secondly, there is definitely more to Pensacola than Wal-mart! You obviously haven't visited your in-laws too frequently.

And last, Ft. Walton is a much smaller town than Pensacola, but it is however only about a half hour away, are you sure you want to be that close to your in-laws?

Kim

no..dont want to be that close..but if it means more stability then i have to.