How would I go about asking this?

[coolshannie]

Well Im looking for a stand point from someone older.. ( generally a parent.. or parent figure.) I *might* be asking a guy to sadies dance.. I say might because I don't really know if I have the guts to do this. What makes it even worse is that I don't know how to ask my parents if I can even do so. I am 16 yet I don't know what to say. With my brother who is 9 my parents say awww you should ask that girl to the valentine's day dance, yet with me its like don't date until your 30.. Do you get what im saying? I dont know what to do.. I mean I love them they are great and i know they are kidding when they say that, yet I feel like I can't go out on a date. Alittle help would be greatly appreciated!

-shannon

 

[Uncle Remus]

If y'all eat dinner together or the like, just pop up and say:
"What do y'all think about me askin' so 'n so to the
Sadie Hawkins Dance?"
I betcha they'll let ya know
Since it's a school dance they'll probably even let ya go.
PS I'm pretty old
How come you're not asleep in bed?

 

[TurboKitty]

You frighten them

Seriously, they are scared of the idea of you growing up. The world, seen as a whole, is really scary and sometimes horrible and they wish there were some way to shield you from it. It's not you, per se. It's the idea of you, versus the world....

Talk to them, try to meet them halfway. They most likely have your best interests at heart.

As for asking the guy....have fun with it. Ask him in a way that makes YOU chuckle. The worst that will happen is he says, "no." (Or, "I'm sorry, I already said yes to someone else.") But, that'll only give you insight on how it feels to go through rejection. Guys do it a lot and get used to it....

 

[Mysteria]

Best way is to come right out and ask them openly and honestly. You just did a great job of telling us about it. If you don't know where to start or how to bring it up how about showing them this post?

Myst

 

[CherylDan]

OK, parent here, with two daughters 17 & 22. As for asking your parents, I would start out by telling them about the dance, and that you would like to go and tell them whom you'd like to invite. Explain all the details, and then ask them if it is ok. Be as mature about it as possible. Assuming they say ok, you are all set to ask the guy. Wait for a time when you can talk to him alone, without a bunch of friends around. Or, if you are not comfortable with that, you could call him on the phone. Have fun!

 

[kristen821]

OK, parent here, with two daughters 17 & 22. As for asking your parents, I would start out by telling them about the dance, and that you would like to go and tell them whom you'd like to invite. Explain all the details, and then ask them if it is ok. Be as mature about it as possible. Assuming they say ok, you are all set to ask the guy. Wait for a time when you can talk to him alone, without a bunch of friends around. Or, if you are not comfortable with that, you could call him on the phone. Have fun!

agreed! Good luck and have a lot of fun!

 

[maliboomer]

If they say no, shout at the top of your lungs 'I can always get an abortion!'. Please video-tape the reaction.
- Boom

 

[hlane]

If they say no, shout at the top of your lungs 'I can always get an abortion!'. Please video-tape the reaction.
- Boom

 

[Lars624]

Shannon,

When I was about your age I was complaining about there being a double standard.....my older brother told me that I was mistaken & there was in fact a triple standard, one for boys, one for girls & one for his little sister I'm sure that's how your parents feel too But, I'm equally as sure that they'll not only let you go, but encourage you to go if you are up front & honest with them.

I'm the parent of 17y/o twins, one is a girl & one is a boy.......a girl just sort of asked my DS to Homecoming....what she did (she's quite shy) is have her friend, who is also a friend of DS's, ask him if he'd say yes if she asked him.....he said he would & then that eliminated any fear of rejection she might have had.....but he decided to alleviate her nerves completely & just ask her
They went & had a great time!

Good Luck!

 

[coolshannie]

Wonderful advice! It is mostly what i have told myself to do but.. reassurance always seems better. I probably should have mentioned that my father is the principal of my highschool.. so he would most likely also be at the dance.. I dont get it, He sees how everyone else my age is yet it is like im oblivious to everything? Yes I know they have my greater interest in mind but sometimes it drives me crazy!


-Shannon

 

[ilovepcot]

The boy! What do your parents know about the boy you're wanting to ask to the dance? Their impression of him and their confidence in his good behavior is paramount! Do they even know him or his family?

 

[Beth76]

"Hey mom and dad, the Sadie Hawkins dance is coming up. If I ask someone to go will you be able to drive us?" That way it's not asking permission to ask the guy, it's asking for a ride. It's a bit more casual.

 

[Frantasmic]

Get mom on your side first, then approach dad.

Mom, I've been thinking about invited x to the dance. Don't you think that would be a fun dance to invite x to? Dad wouldn't be opposed, would he?

Then, get your new dress and have fun. Be home before you turn into a pumpkin, or he does.

P.S. Maliboomer and hlane: your joke was not appropriate

 

[coolshannie]

Alright here is more info.. hah.

He is in marching band with me. I don't know him really well personally. I know alot about him, but I dont talk to him all that much. My father knows his parents because his dad teaches at the school. So there is connection there. Does this clear some things up? Anything else I should clear up?

sorry i didn't clear all of this up earlier It was late last night and I needed to get to bed.


-Shannon

 

[kristen821]

Any news yet?!

 

[Makdyn]

WEll no advice here I still have a problem with talking to guys sometimes and I am 24 with 2 kids. I have to say though this does make it easier... Wait you are still in high school never mind.

 

[beck0321]

I doubt you're father would ban you from a dance his own school is putting on so I wouldn't be too shy to ask your parents about going. Now as for asking the guy, that is just going to be somewhat harder. That's one of those situations where you have to bite the bullet and just DO IT! If he says no, don't feel too bad about it. Rejection is a part of life, so don't let it get you down. However, I have a feeling he will say yes. Usually you can pick up on good vibes from someone.