How to Handle Criticism of Disney Weddings

[PrincessShea]

Not a single person in real life has criticized me. Real life comments have either been:

1. Wow. I wish I did a destination wedding.
2. Wow. You must be really rich.
3. Cool!

The only people who have made fun of me for my wedding have been online people, and well, that's to be expected whenever you put your life out there in cyberspace.

I really cannot believe you were at a conference, which I assume was some type of professional situation, and people talk to you like that. They are obviously socially inept, and I would have walked away. I mean, I think big ballroom weddings at hotels are ugly and boring but I wouldn't say it someone's face...especially some stranger at a conference.

I don't have to justify how I spend my money to anyone. I am not going to defend my wedding and try to make it seem really ~*elegant*~ to make some weirdo like me more. My wedding was bright pink, had characters, and to many was probably very juvenile. Oh well. Now they know how they don't want to spend THEIR money.

 

[MainStMandy]

I don't have to justify how I spend my money to anyone. I am not going to defend my wedding and try to make it seem really ~*elegant*~ to make some weirdo like me more. My wedding was bright pink, had characters, and to many was probably very juvenile. Oh well. Now they know how they don't want to spend THEIR money.

This made me giggle becuase I think your wedding was just GORGEOUS! I don't know that I would have ever described it as juvenille!

 

[ChocoKat]

This made me giggle becuase I think your wedding was just GORGEOUS! I don't know that I would have ever described it as juvenille!

Agreed! It was beautiful and Daisy and Donald showing up was wonderful!

 

[Pirate's Princess]

I agree about Princess Shea's wedding. It was beautiful! And I LOVED her shoes!

 

[PrincessShea]

This made me giggle becuase I think your wedding was just GORGEOUS! I don't know that I would have ever described it as juvenille!

Agreed! It was beautiful and Daisy and Donald showing up was wonderful!

I agree about Princess Shea's wedding. It was beautiful! And I LOVED her shoes!

Thanks ladies

 

[GirTheGecko]

All the people I told were excited for me, but then they were on the good list. When I got engaged, I knew it would be fab to do it at wdw, but I did have some reservations about it. But I kept coming back to it. So, I am going to do it there in 2011.

Honestly, it's their loss. WDW has so many wonderful options and makes it so stress free (from what I've heard). I love being able to have more options for my loved ones to come and enjoy themselves while participating in a wonderful event in my life.

I hope you can find more people who can appreciate everything that wdw and Disney in general has to offer.

 

[erin.w]

I just explain to them that I can have a fabulous event for ~60 family/friends in disney for the price I would pay to have to invite "everyone," at home. If they say anything bad, I now joke and say "you're off the list." I have one co-worker who went with her family (4 children) and stayed off property and didn't do her research before she got there and had a terrible time, and now hates "amusement parks." I think the biggest reason why people don't like it is that they pay a good amount of money, don't research before they go and just expect it to be everything and more.

 

[LauraAnn630]

We didnt have our wedding at Disney but when I told my mom I wanted Mickey and Minnie for a cake topper she said, "Oh my gosh when are you going to grow up?"

Some people dont get it.

 

[MsEsty]

Unfortunately it is just how people are. I have a BA in Psychology and an MBA in Finance. I'm an accountant and a college professor and I'm having a Disney Wedding and trying to throw in some "Disney magic" every chance we can. Maybe it is holding onto our childhood and believing in magic - I know my entire attitude changes when I walk off the plane into the Orlando airport.

If people just can't accept that and be happy for you, like erin.w said, another name off your list!

 

[Scrap_Vamp]

Luckily my whole family are Disney people and they weren't surprised when we decided!

Most people have seemed quite interested in it (to my face anyway!) but often think it would be really expensive - I go on to tell them how it was way cheaper than getting married in the UK and far less stressful! Then I show them the wedding photos and they are convinced.

What we loved most was how relaxed our wedding was, and people always say that comes across in our wedding photos.

 

[Nikisha421]

I have a tendency to say what I say...and not allow for any intake...especially when it comes to DISNEY...say it loud and firm and tell them not to be uspet that they didnt get an invite.

 

[girli565]

I guess because I live in Miami and Disney is such a huge part of my family and friend's lives that when I decided on a Disney wedding everyone understood. The only people who have had strange reactions are people who don't go to disney all that often. I just tell myself that they don't understand because they don't go to WDW as often as we do.

It makes us happy and that's all that matters to me. I'm getting the wedding I dreamed of and that makes me happy.

 

[thatdisneygirl]

This was great feedback, ladies. Thank you!

 

[stl_figment]

I've recently starting planning a September 2011 cruise wedding - and hearing the same things. "Why wouldn't you want to get married here?" "Really you can't be serious?"

Thanks for the thread - it makes me feel better that I'm not alone.

And its always been my dream to have a Disney wedding and I'm so excited to have it!

 

[torsie24]

We have had a few people thinking we're crazy and it will be tacky and horrible, a few people super excited, and most others are a little confused at the choice, but don't seem to think negatively on our decision.

I know once our engagement photos were done (which were at the GF/Poly and had the WP in them) people seemed to realise it wasn't going to be some kind of Princess party.

I'm just going to ignore the naysayers and have a silent smile inside after the wedding and my amazing photos are on facebook.

 

[Disney9.9.10]

I'm glad to know that I'm not the only one who has experienced this! The majority of people that I told looked at me like I was crazy! A lot of them thought that I was going to wear a princess dress and get married in the line-up for a ride or something. I told them that some of the most beautiful weddings I have ever seen are done at Disney. But deep down, I don't really care what people think, I know that our wedding is going to be beautiful and people will eat their words once they see my pictures

 

[ColeV]

It's really fun to show people my book of pictures, have them be in awe, and then ask where I had the wedding. They must think I've discovered some magical Shangri La of wedding locations, then I get to see their faces when I say "Disney World"!

 

[Racey]

I have had the usual "Oh is mickey marrying you both" .... i just s****** and say "ohhhh i havent heard that before" - that turns the stupidity round on them.

When they ask "WHY" i just say, "why did you marry whereever you got married .... because you liked the place, its no different for me except I wont have to pay for every tom dick or harry who I never see one year to the next to come so its perfect" I also point out that they have some stunning places to hold the whole thing around the whole estate that is disney world" ..... However, i've had my fair share of people say "OH MY GOD - How cool to get wed there" I try to take no notice when I get negative remarks

 

[Tinker Bell Fan]

We're planning our VR at Disney for next year. Some have thought it was silly to do it at Disney, but those that know DH & I and how much we enjoy Disney - they ask if they can attend!

Personally, those that say negative things are just plain jealous.

 

[CaptainObvious]

really? people say negative things about disney weddings?

when i got married in feb 2008 all people said was how they wished they could afford to do that too.

the people who attended our wedding still talk about what an event we threw and how awesome the experience was.