How Romantic is your Spouse?

[Kahana-ri]

My DH is romantic. He is great with getting long stem roses at special occasions, opens the car door, bringing home my favorite ice cream or cookies, and is extremely thoughtful and generous for Christmas and my birthday.
I must share though the most amazing, romantic, thoughtful, -felt like I was dreaming for a moment gesture- he just did...
The other night I was doing dishes at 9:30 p.m. -the usual time my house, child, work, life chores tend to wind down and my DH had just come home. He has a small bag with him, playing as if he didn't know what it was. He told me I should look and see what it was.
Inside was a custom day spa package. The spa day includes hot stone massage, aromatherapy body polish, facial, lunch and deluxe spa pedicure. Whoooaaa-was I surprise, and very touched
I asked what it was for and DH said it was just to show his appreciation for all that I do. It was just out of the blue for not other reason than to show how grateful he was for everything Io do. He gets a 10+ on this one. So this Wednesday I have taken a vacation off work and plan to be pampered.

 

[tnhillbilly]

what do you do when it is your DW that is not romantic? I had a standing order for flowers to be sent to her once and M. What do I get " what are these for?", "I wish you would quit it( the flowers)", " I can open my own door". I stoped the flowers, quit opening doors. Mine just does not get it, you can be romantic and not expect sex, big difference. This was when we were dating. Yes, I married her. Thought things would change as we got older and she would see and want little thing to show "I love You". Boy was I wrong, The old saying is right, dont expect to change them after you have got married.

 

[SRUAlmn]

what do you do when it is your DW that is not romantic? I had a standing order for flowers to be sent to her once and M. What do I get " what are these for?", "I wish you would quit it( the flowers)", " I can open my own door". I stoped the flowers, quit opening doors. Mine just does not get it, you can be romantic and not expect sex, big difference. This was when we were dating. Yes, I married her. Thought things would change as we got older and she would see and want little thing to show "I love You". Boy was I wrong, The old saying is right, dont expect to change them after you have got married.

I was like this with my Fiance at the beginning of our relationship. I know for me, personally, I had dated a LOT of guys in the past that were only sweet because they wanted something It gets so old so fast, and you start to get really defensive. I was also raised to be extremely independent, and as a teenager and young adult (and sometimes still now) I struggle with the fine line between being independent and able to take care of myself and letting someone 'help' me and knowing that someone helping you is not a sign of dependency. It's a daily struggle

 

[luvmarypoppins]

My dh is totally unromantic. I never expect it out of him, his dad was the same way with his mom. He does know not to get me flowers since I am allergic. Once in a while he might get me candy but that is usually because he is in the doghouse and wants to get out. His parenting skills are about on par with his romantic skills, absolutely none. For christmas he did get me some disney stuff after I threw some huge hints his way. He would never think of anything nice on his own. I just say give me money and I will get what I want etc. It makes life easier and less complicated. With 3 teen ds around all the time and all their wants and needs etc, they usually come first unfortunately. Maybe things will get better some day but I doubt it. I asked if we could go to the movies last week and he said what movie, I said, Flightplan, he said that is the absolute movie I DONT want to see, gheesh, you get the picture. Sigh, sigh.

 

[Disneynutbsv]

mine isn't His idea of romance is renting an action movie and having some popcorn to go with it.

 

[tnhillbilly]

Karen
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[Rex Rules]

Funny how your idea of what is "romantic" changes after years of being married. The "surprises" I find great now are havong someone else cook dinner or fold the laundry.
I still get the occasional night out alone, but the surprise presents, flowers, etc dried up years ago.

 

[Caradana]

He does my laundry. That's like pure romance in a bottle.

 

[ZachnElli]

Dh and I have been married for 13 years, together 15 years. He is VERY romantic! It is diamonds and roses for me! 10 year anniversary he planned a surprise trip to Maui, booked the grandparents (aka babysitters), did a vow renewal ceremony complete with musician, minister and professional photographer, and a new wedding ring for me (a big ROCK)! That was his all time biggie, so far ! His normal romantic gifts are like last Mother's Day he got me a fondue pot (I REALLY wanted one) and then he bought a basket and filled it with different kinds of chocolate, cookies, marshmellows, and other things to dip in chocolate fondue. He did it all himself! I'm a lucky girl!

 

[MamaLema]

DH is not romantic, ever.

 

[Laurajean1014]

This is a Work in Progess effort!

 

[bajanswife]

DH has his moments, but overall he's not that "traditionally" romantic.

Still, he's a great dad, can look after our 3 little ones all by himself very successfully so that I can go on a 10 day girls trip, doesn't complain when I spend money on myself. I'm not a hearts and flowers type anyway, so maybe we're a good match.

I do wish he were more "attentive" towards me at times. I watch how my dad is with my mum and I'm jealous!

 

[pfishgirl]

wow and I thought my Hubby wasn't romantic enough...

DH gives me Gladiolas my favorite flowers) for no reason and they always have a lot of purple ones, cause that is my favorite color..

For our anniversary I get Purple Roses... I never knew that roses came in Purple until DH..

I don't wear jewelry so he never buys me any unless he knows I want it..

When he knows I am tired or had a bad day, he brings home take out or takes me out to dinner, depending on my mood..

He calls me when he is on his way home, sometimes he'll ask if I want coffee from D & D and sometimes he just brings it to me without asking..

 

[Maleficent13]

Mine yells at me. As in:

"Let me help you, dammit! You always try to do everything, you won't ask for help, just sit on the couch and let me do the *&%# dishes!!!" followed by several growls if I try to get up or help.

 

[LynnTH]

Like many of the other posters my DH is not so romantic in the traditional sense. But he does do alot that is great. We both work full time and he is very good about helping out with all the housework - he actually does most of the laundry. Whenever I come home from somewhere he will come outside to get the groceries, packages or just the kids from their carseats. I love fountain pop (don't care much for canned or bottled pop) and he will go out often just to get me a much needed coke. If I just need a break he will tell me to go overnight somewhere with my mom (usually to a casino) and he stays at home with the kids. He always calls when he is running late or to see if I need him to pick up anything before he gets home. It's the small everyday things at home that really mean the most - not the flowers and candlelite.

 

[Grumpy's Gal]

He thinks he's romantic....but, he's not.

 

[SRUAlmn]

Karen
Thanks

Welcome, don't know if that helped or not, but thought I'd share

 

[Beastlover]

.....not romantic....

 

[Danauk]

My DH isn't usually romantic but he has had his moments. I think the best one was a surprise trip to Paris last Valentines day for a Valentines dinner cruise down the river Seine. He booked us into the hotel we had our honeymoon in and booked 1st class travel all the way to Paris and back.

For our 5th weddiny annversary he bought me the earings and necklace that matched my engagement ring. I wasn't even aware he remembered what my engagement ring looked like!!

 

[Jeafl]

He does my laundry. That's like pure romance in a bottle.

Hang onto that one Dana, that's a rare find!