How old is too old for DD's to go with DH in the men's room?

[ccgirl]

Just wanted to say that statistically, more assaults happen in the ladies restroom than the men's. A male usually hides in the restroom and waits for his victim.

I would never judge anyone for bringing an older child into the opposite gender bathroom. When my DD asks, I tell her they must need some sort of assitance from their mom. Luckily, only my DS3 who is potty training needs assistance. When he no longer needs my assistance he will be going into the men's room. Just as my DD8 goes into the ladies room.

To each their own.

 

[imthatgirl]

Really????? In all the bathrooms I have ever been in, I have NEVER once had this happen to me, EVER!

Same here. not once. I have never even been in a public bathroom where there were kids misbehaving. I have to wonder what kind of kids some of these people are around.

 

[imthatgirl]

Just wanted to say that statistically, more assaults happen in the ladies restroom than the men's. A male usually hides in the restroom and waits for his victim.

I would never judge anyone for bringing an older child into the opposite gender bathroom. When my DD asks, I tell her they must need some sort of assitance from their mom. Luckily, only my DS3 who is potty training needs assistance. When he no longer needs my assistance he will be going into the men's room. Just as my DD8 goes into the ladies room.

To each their own.

If you could post these statistics that you are quoting that would be great.

 

[princessmom29]

Really????? In all the bathrooms I have ever been in, I have NEVER once had this happen to me, EVER! And when my boys were young enough that they needed to go in with me, they were very well behaved, and most times, went into the stall with me.

yes, really. They don't have to be misbehaving to yank open a stall door when they thought no one was in it, but I have seen many boys made to stand in the women's room while mom went cause no end of trouble including soap on the floor, playing in the sink, and peeking into stalls. The kid that did it to me looked to be about 8. Mom was using the restroom a few stalls down. I loudly told him to cut it out, and I HOPE mom got the message. The kid that crawled into my stall was about 5, and thought I was his mom. I am not sure where his mom was at the time.

 

[princessmom29]

Same here. not once. I have never even been in a public bathroom where there were kids misbehaving. I have to wonder what kind of kids some of these people are around.

As I said, they don't have to be misbehaving to open the wrong door, or crawl under the wrong stall. I still don't want them invading my privacy however, and nither does my DD.

 

[Mkrop]

yes, really. They don't have to be misbehaving to yank open a stall door when they thought no one was in it, but I have seen many boys made to stand in the women's room while mom went cause no end of trouble including soap on the floor, playing in the sink, and peeking into stalls. The kid that did it to me looked to be about 8. Mom was using the restroom a few stalls down. I loudly told him to cut it out, and I HOPE mom got the message. The kid that crawled into my stall was about 5, and thought I was his mom. I am not sure where his mom was at the time.

Well I guess I solved this issue by taking them into the stall with me, or telling them what stall to go into, so they were not yanking open doors. And I think if it was so common place I would have encounter this somewhere I have seen young boys in the bathroom.

The only people I have ever seen misbehaving in bathrooms were young girls themselves both supervised, mom thought the soap fight was cute and young teen girls unsupervised, soap and TP fight, giggling galore, causing quite the slippery mess. Neither of these incidents occurred at WDW though. First one was at a Phillies game, the second was at a local mall.

 

[mjkacmom]

Well I guess I solved this issue by taking them into the stall with me, or telling them what stall to go into, so they were not yanking open doors..

I believe the person you are responding to was commenting on the PP who sent her ds into the ladies room without her. If I saw an older boy enter the ladies room alone, I would assume he made a mistake.

 

[imthatgirl]

I believe the person you are responding to was commenting on the PP who sent her ds into the ladies room without her. If I saw an older boy enter the ladies room alone, I would assume he made a mistake.

I don't send my older boys into the girls room. I send my young boys in. Because I feel that is the safest way to handle the situation. no matter what faceless people say on the internet, I will actually continue to do what I feel is best for my kids, you know since I'm their mom and all.

 

[mjkacmom]

I don't send my older boys into the girls room. I send my young boys in. Because I feel that is the safest way to handle the situation. no matter what faceless people say on the internet, I will actually continue to do what I feel is best for my kids, you know since I'm their mom and all.

Then get off your butt and go with them! It's bad enough they don't belong their in the first place, but if you make them go, share them embarrassment with them.

 

[imthatgirl]

Then get off your butt and go with them! It's bad enough they don't belong their in the first place, but if you make them go, share them embarrassment with them.

Embarrassment? What the hell are you talking about. I understand that the only life experience you have to relate to are your own, and if your kids are embarrassed to use a public bathroom then do what you need to do...I don't have your kids. so I do what we need to do. Simple as that. I don't have kids who are embarrassed to use a public restroom, lol.
BTW...with 5 kids it's just not that easy to get everyone into restrooms all the time.
So again I do what I need to do...regardless of what you have to say, since of course you are just a judgemental faceless person on the internet who really has no clue of the situations in my life.

 

[robinb]

I don't send my older boys into the girls room. I send my young boys in. Because I feel that is the safest way to handle the situation. no matter what faceless people say on the internet, I will actually continue to do what I feel is best for my kids, you know since I'm their mom and all.

Wait. You send your boys into the ladies room alone?

 

[Hannathy]

Then get off your butt and go with them! It's bad enough they don't belong their in the first place, but if you make them go, share them embarrassment with them.

exactly if a child is old enough to go by them selves they are old enough to go into the correct gender!!! There is no justifiable reason not to. If they are not competent to go by themselves then you or another person should be going in to assist. I also don't get these kids? My DS would have held it all day before he went into a womans room after 5 and at 5 he protested.

And when you are out in public you do have to consider the societal norms and other peoples feelings it isn't cut and dry "I do what I want" in your own home sure and dandy but when it involves other people you do have to consider them and not be selfish.

 

[Mkrop]

Wait. You send your boys into the ladies room alone?

I believe the person you are responding to was commenting on the PP who sent her ds into the ladies room without her. If I saw an older boy enter the ladies room alone, I would assume he made a mistake.

Ok wait umm no I am not sending them in without me...I am confused.

I thought we were talking about me taking both in and maybe sending older DS into a stall by himself and then me taking the baby (this was back in the day, not taking DS13 in, just to clarify) but I always looked for the feet and then sent him in. He was then instructed to stay in there until I was done. But if I could fit us all in one stall, I would.

 

[mjkacmom]

Embarrassment? What the hell are you talking about. I understand that the only life experience you have to relate to are your own, and if your kids are embarrassed to use a public bathroom then do what you need to do...I don't have your kids. so I do what we need to do. Simple as that. I don't have kids who are embarrassed to use a public restroom, lol.
BTW...with 5 kids it's just not that easy to get everyone into restrooms all the time.
So again I do what I need to do...regardless of what you have to say, since of course you are just a judgemental faceless person on the internet who really has no clue of the situations in my life.

Gee, much be hard, with 5 kids and all. My boys are not embarrassed to use a public MENS room, but were, of course embarrassed to use a LADIES room starting around the age of 5. Why can't you take one of them into the ladies room? Are you in the mens room with the others?

I doubt your kids are as close in age as mine - alone with 5 young children/strollers/babies/toddlers/preschoolers and public restrooms was difficult, to say the least. I never wouldn't even thought to send a 7 year old boy into the ladies room without me. Nope.

 

[mjkacmom]

Ok wait umm no I am not sending them in without me...I am confused.

I thought we were talking about me taking both in and maybe sending older DS into a stall by himself and then me taking the baby (this was back in the day, not taking DS13 in, just to clarify) but I always looked for the feet and then sent him in. He was then instructed to stay in there until I was done. But if I could fit us all in one stall, I would.

Nope, we're talking about this post:

Now I also have two boys. I feel that a little different. I will send my boys together into the mens room, they are 6 and 7. If only one of them needs to go I will send them into the girls room. If we are all going to the bathroom then I just take them with me in the girls room

 

[owensamo]

I don't have anything to add to the debate, but I wanted to comment that my DH blatantly refused to take our DD into the men's room if I was with them - because he says mens rooms are usually more disgustingly dirty than ladies rooms! I don't know if it's true or not - I've been in some pretty gross ladies rooms - but I was certainly willing to save my DD the experience if that was indeed the truth, even when there were times I was less than enthusiastic about taking her to the bathroom *again*!

At WDW, we simply had a policy that if someone had to go, everyone went. That kept the "unexpected" runs to a minimum, and helped us to "schedule" things a little better. But with only 1 DD, we didn't split up much either, so it was never a problem there.

 

[princessmom29]

Embarrassment? What the hell are you talking about. I understand that the only life experience you have to relate to are your own, and if your kids are embarrassed to use a public bathroom then do what you need to do...I don't have your kids. so I do what we need to do. Simple as that. I don't have kids who are embarrassed to use a public restroom, lol.
BTW...with 5 kids it's just not that easy to get everyone into restrooms all the time.
So again I do what I need to do...regardless of what you have to say, since of course you are just a judgemental faceless person on the internet who really has no clue of the situations in my life.

Why is is any safer for them to go into the ladies room alone? I really just don't get it. I have never seen ANY data to bear out that the mens room is any more dangerous. If you have some I would love to see it. As someone said earler, your kid has a better chance of being struck by lightening on the way to the restroom than of being molseted while there, and neither restroom is immune to bad things happening. Why not just send them into the appropiate restroom? The short answer for most people is the perception that the men's room is a dangerous place for a boy, not any real basis in fact.

 

[fireflymedic]

Hi there,

I have two DD's aged 4 and just turned 7. Last year in Disney, the girls were 3 and just turned 6 and we took turns during washroom breaks. Sometimes I took older DD and DH took younger, and sometimes we switched. Also we did split up a few times and if that DD had to go DH would take them to the washroom.

This year DD is 7 and while she doesn't care or show any embarrassment about going into the men's room I wonder if she is getting to the age where she might make the men in there feel uncomfortable?

I will take older DD into the ladies room when she is with me, but if her and DH split up, is it ok for him to bring her in? I just am not comfortable with her going into the women's restroom alone yet. Sorry, she just seems too young!

What age is too old for a girl to go in the washroom with her dad in public?

I have not read every post but I would use the "family" bathroom if I had a girl that old

 

[imthatgirl]

Gee, much be hard, with 5 kids and all. My boys are not embarrassed to use a public MENS room, but were, of course embarrassed to use a LADIES room starting around the age of 5. Why can't you take one of them into the ladies room? Are you in the mens room with the others?

I doubt your kids are as close in age as mine - alone with 5 young children/strollers/babies/toddlers/preschoolers and public restrooms was difficult, to say the least. I never wouldn't even thought to send a 7 year old boy into the ladies room without me. Nope.

Well then thats an issue with your boys. Why would you assume all 5yo boys feel the same way? Pretty silly on your part.
Like I said before, but like before you aren't reading or possibly can't comprehend, I don't always go in too. Many times I am outside with the other kids.
Do you have a 4yo in a wheelchair? I do. Along with an infant in a carriage? I do. Do you know how hard it is to get a wheel chair and a carriage into most bathrooms? I do.
Do you make many assumptions about other lives without having a clue? I don't.

 

[imthatgirl]

At WDW, we simply had a policy that if someone had to go, everyone went. That kept the "unexpected" runs to a minimum, and helped us to "schedule" things a little better. But with only 1 DD, we didn't split up much either, so it was never a problem there.

We have that same exact policy. It works for us too.